No place for us??

[sprtskhne33]

My girlfriend and I were planning on having sex this evening for our first time but we have a problem. She finally got her birth control shot so we can leave the house by ourselves, but the problem is we don't have a place to do it. Her parents will be home and same with mine. I told her the only place is the back seat of my car but she didn't like the idea. We don't have money to got to a hotel room, plus it wasn't going to last long. We have no friends we can go to since they dislike the idea of us having it. What can we do about this? Thank you guys (and gals) in advance.

[maupassant]

Sorry, but I don't see the connection between the birth control shot and leaving the house by yourselves. Can you clarify this?
Well, I had my first go on a grassy bank beneath the stars. Oh Happy Day!

[sprtskhne33]

Well the birth control shot really didn't apply to a point. We weren't allowed to be out of the house by ourselves because she said something to her step mom and her step mom implied we were going to have sex and we couldn't go anywhere until she got onto birth control which was this past Friday. We have like no where to go that's the problem, where we are it's mostly buildings and such, no farm land. And the land there is, can't do anything because the car will be in the open.

[lustforlove]

Dear God! I'm sorry but if all you care about is the act itself you really do not deserve this poor girls company at all! Sex is supossed to be a speacial thing that people o when they get to know each other in a relationship or whatever. The fact that you dont really seem to care if this girl or eve yourself is ready to have sex with each other begs the question if you actually are. Just wait, find a time do something specail for the evening, have a nice dinner, take her out and do something nice. then maybe have sex. But you should be enjoying each others company and not just jumping into bed together. How old are you buy the way? This has just prooven the difference between men and women, women needing a reason to have sex and men needing a place.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Excuse me? Sex is the physical way of expressing one's desire for other persons. It is not "special" and doesn't require being "bought" with a nice dinner and so on. You do not have to love or even like your sex partner(s) - it would be nice and better if that were so but it isn't mandatory. Please get over this idea that she should be using sex with her as a bargaining chip "If you take me out and show me a good time, I'll give you...." Or even worse "No 'thing' without a wedding ring."

Yes, I know you're covering it up with "romance"" but frankly - it still reeks to high heaven. Stop it.

Buddy, if the girl wants you, she will have you. Relax. The back seat, carry a blanket in the trunk and use it for a midnight picnic where you're on the menu - whatever.

[Brandye]

If a couple cannot figure out where, they will have similar difficulty figuring out how. The step-mum sounds like a piece of work, too. Why not skip it until you each (all three) mature a bit.

[bamjuju]

'This has just prooven the difference between men and women, women needing a reason to have sex and men needing a place.'

I disagree completely, I don't need a reason at all to do it.


On topic: agree, a twilight romp might be called for take a blaket to avoid soil in awkward places.

[dancingdoc2]

If you have that little imagination, you should wait to have sex. Regardless of why, I agree with your friends who recommend against it.**

Now, having said that--
* how about a secluded area of a park
* how about parking just off a back country road
* how about a hiking trail
* how about the shore of a pond or reservoir
* does your community have a lovers' lane or inspiration point

Scout around in advance.

Unless you live in L.A. or one of the large east coast cities, it does not take that long to leave the canyons of the city for the wide open spaces of the countryside.

> We don't have money to got to a hotel room, plus it wasn't going to last long.

Just out of curiosity, how long did you plan on it lasting?

> We have no friends we can go to since they dislike the idea of us having it. What can we do about this?

**Listen to some friends friendly advice? What are their reasons for urging you not to do this right now?

Why do you want sex?
Why does your girlfriend want sex?

I'm not telling you not to, just to have a very good case for.
* You may not yet know this but girls have an entirely different reason a lot of times for why they want sex than why boys want to do it. Not always, yet more often than not, girls want romance and boys want a more intense way to get their rocks off than from masturbation.

Here is some reading material for the two of you:


I'm Ready for SEX! (or am I?) I really want to do it.

Lastly, is the matter of protection. If you are going to participate in adult activities, then be adult about it and understand what your responsibilities are as well as any consequences.

DO NOT rely upon each other for your protection!

Each of you must be responsible for looking out for A#1--you.
* She should be using a highly reliable form of contraception
* You should be using a condom
* The two of you, should use a third or back up measure, that
being a spermicide.

DO NOT tempt fate or try fooling Mother Nature. Contraception
IS NOT 100% guaranteed reliable. If you are not yet ready to
be an unwed father and to have the future course of your life
forever changed--wear a condom each and every time. (If you
ever have sex with a future girlfriend and she is/can not use a
highly reliable contraceptive, at least insist on the condom backed
up with the spermicide.

Birth Control Failure Rates

Lastly-

What Can I/We Do To Prepare For First Time Intercourse?
PART 2--Another view of the same question.
A Boy's Concern For Making the First Time Successful and Fulfilling

Please read the articles. Knowledge is empowering, and the two of you do need more information, regardless of what you decide to or not to do now or in the future.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[EvilEvilKitten]

If your friends dislike the idea then don't have sex with them.
Why are you even discussing your sex life with them? It isn't any of their business.

[sprtskhne33]

Originally Posted by lustforlove

Dear God! I'm sorry but if all you care about is the act itself you really do not deserve this poor girls company at all! Sex is supossed to be a speacial thing that people o when they get to know each other in a relationship or whatever. The fact that you dont really seem to care if this girl or eve yourself is ready to have sex with each other begs the question if you actually are. Just wait, find a time do something specail for the evening, have a nice dinner, take her out and do something nice. then maybe have sex. But you should be enjoying each others company and not just jumping into bed together. How old are you buy the way? This has just prooven the difference between men and women, women needing a reason to have sex and men needing a place.

For your information, I was refering to where we were going to have sex. I don't care where we have it that's all. To her it seems like a big deal. I do care to a point but it don't bother me. AND YES I DO CARE ABOUT HER MORE THAN JUST SEX!!!