Bizarre Male Libido..

[hyo250]

Hey guys,

Something kind of weird has happened to me recently. I had some bad sexual experiences with my girlfriend and lost most of my libido. I then went on a 2 week vacation with my best male buddy and after a few days I couldn't think about anything other than sex. In fact I had spontaneous erections all the time. This never happens to me when I'm in my home town. When I got back my girlfriend and I had some wild sex but now things have cooled down again..

I don't know why my libido has changed so much. I enjoyed it so much more when I was getting boners here and there everywhere, but they've gone.. completely now.

Any thoughts? I just don't understand it.

(By the way: I kind of enjoyed having company 24/7 overseas. I'm 19 and live by myself and have very little social contact. Incidentally that leaves a lot of time for watching porn.. I'm also a very ANXIOUS person and stress out a lot. Something else, I do no exercise and eat a lot of bad food. In Japan I was walking about 4-5 hours a day..)


Cheers

[dancingdoc2]

Change your lifestyle and diet. Also, watching a lot of porn has a tendency to dull your responses over time if you watch a lot of videos.

I think you need an "extreme makeover".

[hyo250]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Change your lifestyle and diet. Also, watching a lot of porn has a tendency to dull your responses over time if you watch a lot of videos.

I think you need an "extreme makeover".

Yeah you're right. Actually even as I was writing my post I could see that its pretty obvious.. Nevertheless thanks doc

[dancingdoc2]

I don't know what to advise you about the lack of spontaneous erections. Wait until tomorrow and Brandye may have some medical thoughts.

I will say that if you are masturbating several times a day that this can have an effect on the spontaneity of it all, not that it does with every guy; and, much of course is dependent upon age and sex drive.

So, if you want to provide a bit more information perhaps we can, also.

[hyo250]

I think its most likely an issue of stress/depression. I feel like a loser but not so bad that I can't see a way out. I have a habit of feeling sorry for myself which I think is the problem. I doubt its a physical issue so I really just think I need to change my routine and build some self-confidence so I can like myself again!! Having a loving girlfriend really helps I just wish I could give back to her.

[dancingdoc2]

Here are two suggestions for building:

1. Set small easily attainable goals for yourself each day. Do not set big goals that take a lot of time, effort, or mental energy. When you accomplish the goal, whatever it is, give yourself an "attaboy" or indulge in something pleasurable for a small reward.

Over the weeks, make your goals larger yet attainable.

2. Act your way to success. This can often work. Like an actor portraying a part in a movie or theater act--act in the way you wish to be and continue doing this and more often than not the new behavior will replace the old and you become "made over".

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hmmmm "plan your hunt; hunt your plan".

It is no good floundering your way through life.

Picture in your mind in detail what kind of a life you want to live. Then as each choice comes up, think "does option a or option b move me closer to my goal - that life I want to live." Then act accordingly.

Match your talent(s) to your desires and go for it.

Loser as compared to what?? as compared to whom?? Stop competing with anyone other than yourself. You're 19 and not Bill Gates - so what? I am not the Queen of England and you don't see me repining. You shouldn't be doing any woe is me - you should be looking for the next step toward living the life you want to live.

And may the devil take the hindmost!