First time advice

[KIMBUNNY]

My bf and i are thinking about having sex soon we're gona use condoms 1st few times(I'm currently on the pill) but one thing i would like to know after he cums inside me when we don't use the condoms wht do I/we do to clear up? Can it just stay in there over night so we can cuddle afterwards, or have to clean it up and how? Whats the normal thing to do, please help

[demonbuttercup]

Its all personal preference. I don't really care for it b/c it is messy and I coined it being "drippy".
It starts to dribble out and then once you stand up the inside of ur thighs are wet lol.
Just get a towel or something to wipe it up but I tended to dribble for a bit later... so I usually ended up putting on underwear w/ a pantyliner

Other folks have stated they could care less and just sleep in the wet spot lol

[dancingdoc2]

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> My bf and i are thinking about having sex soon we're gona use condoms 1st few times(I'm currently on the pill) but

English is an interesting albeit complex language compared to others in the world. For example, "but" means forget everything I just said before and now listen to what I have to say.

My question for you is if you are "gona use condoms 1st few times", and I gather from this comment--not later, why use them in the first place? Birth control is not a sometimes thing, especially the younger a couple is.

* Contraceptives protect the individual involved. If you do not want to become pregnant, use b/c or some other highly reliable form of contraception.

* If a guy is not prepared to become a father then he must wear a condom.

* Because pregnancies are more likely the younger a couple is, the two of you should also use a third form like a spermicide as backup to the other two.

This being the case, each of you must take responsibility for your own future and not rely upon the other person. Using a condom this week and not next is tempting fate and fooling Mother Nature. If you are going to participate in adult activities, then you must act responsibly all the time, not just some of the time or for the 1st few times. You must also plan what you are both going to do should you become pregnant. You must think about the consequences of your actions. There is an article on this topic listed in the Index and I recommend reading it.

Here's the deal:

* Anytime a penis is pointed in the general direction of your lower body, there is a chance that you can become pregnant--b/c or not.
* Think of this as playing a version of Russian Roulette only with a fully loaded cannon instead of a six shooter with one bullet in the cylinder.
* Sporadic use of contraceptives and relying upon your partner is irresponsible.

[CleverName]

Use a condom EVERY time, unless you want a kid. Plain and simple.

[EvilEvilKitten]

YOU stay on the Pill and HE always wears a condom - each and every time and always a fresh one!

If you're going to indulge in adult fun, you'd best be adult about it.

[KIMBUNNY]

Thanks for the comments but i dont want to know about what to use as protection (no worrys with STD's etc). I've been on the pill for about 2 years for other reasons and know what i'm doing, I'd just like an answer to my question please

[dancingdoc2]

Your question has been answered.

You can keep a washcloth handy and "mop up" after.
You can keep tissues handy
You can use a panty liner
You can just let what dribbles out do so
You can get up and go into the bathroom and tidy up, then enthusiastically rush back to bed, no harm no foul

Whatever works for you in the moment

As for the other concern, we did not discuss what type of contraceptive you should use, only that both of you have the responsibility of looking out for A#1--you, and A#1--himself. Each of you is responsible for yourselves. Do not rely on the other person for your protection. Use three forms of protection as noted or at the very least a condom and spermicide, together.

I'm just curious why you are so defensive. It is a foregone conclusion backed up by statistics that two forms of protection are better than one; so why do you want to use a condom only a few times then stop? An inquisitive mind wants answers, also. (I'm interested in your reasoning.)

[EvilEvilKitten]

If you know what you're doing, then the answer to your question is obvious.

[22much]

My partner and I cuddle a bit then I go get her a warm washcloth. Unless for somereason I have a puddle on my tummy then she goes to get the washcloth. In the mornings I wear a condom so that she need not deal with the drip, or leaking as she calls it.

I had a GF many years ago that had a towel by the bed for this.