Can't get inside my girlfriend

[hyo250]

Hey guys, looking for some advice.

I've started having sex with my girlfriend but often it is extremely difficult for me to get my penis inside her. It is reasonably erect but I just cant push it in. She is extremely wet, but it just wont fit through the hole. I don't think my penis is particularly large either. Also, when fingering her I can't fit more than one finger into her vagina.

Usually I just have to push really really hard and once I can get in, start going in and out a bit and it loosens up a treat. Then after that I can take it out and put it back in with no problem at all. Am I making her nervous perhaps putting too much pressure on her? I don't think we need to have more foreplay because she is literally dripping wet.

We are both relatively new to sex, and she likes it when I talk about it with her (specifically what I want to do to her). She thinks that its all I think about when I'm with her (partially true, really). I tell her that I don't care if we have sex I just want to be with her but I don't think she believes me. She never tells me shes not ready and if I ask her she always says yes, but I'm not sure if I believe her. I almost don't want to bring it up again because then its like I'm putting more pressure on her but I know that we'll have this problem again when we start kissing later on..

Any advice? I'm just a horny 19 year old guy that don't know too much about the ladies!

[dancingdoc2]

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Although, your girlfriend may become very wet, her mucus may not be adequately distributed around the vaginal opening. If the entrance is dry, getting past it will be difficult and possibly cause irritation or discomfort.

The next thing to do is to take some of her mucus, or better yet, a lubricant product and apply some all over your penis, including the tip and glans.

At nineteen you are indeed horny! If you have not already done so, you are about to reach your sexual peak. From here on your sex drive will slowly decrease over the rest of your life.

I also recommend that you read the many articles listed in the Index. Knowledge is empowering. In fact, I suggest your girlfriend do some reading also. Discuss what you have read and learned. Explore and learn together in partnership.

Lastly, one thing she can do is to stretch her vaginal opening over the course of a few days/weeks. She can do this by sitting in a bath tub partially filled with warm water. No soap or bubble bath.

She should insert a finger, tug against the opening, and hold the pressure for a few moments. She should then work her way around the circumference of the opening repeating the process. She should spend five or ten minutes at a time over several days/weeks. This will help relax the opening even if you never are able to insert more than one finger.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[CleverName]

Mmk, well you have two issues here it seems.

First:
How often do you have sex, and for how long have you been having it?
Do you finger her often?

And for the last paragraph, that might require its own thread.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You know, all of this is NORMAL.

Guy - you really don't have a problem. She doesn't really have a problem.

Unless you're spending 20 minutes at least on foreplay, you're not putting enough time into foreplay. (Yes, they have done research on this.)

[hyo250]

Hey guys thanks for the tips. Last night we tried again and had quite a bit of foreplay, still no luck. I got kind of disheartened and couldn't be fucked trying anymore so we had a nap for about 30 minutes. I got a second wind and started playing with her clit which she really liked, and by the time I'd finished she was wet everywhere even on the inside of her thighs. It slid in with no problem whatsoever and we fucked for about 30 seconds until I blew my load because I was exhausted, selfish and lazy haha.

Also to answer your question dancingdoc (ive read a few of your posts by the way very helpful stuff) we hadn't had sex for about 2 weeks because I went on an overseas holiday. We usually have sex 2 or 3 times a week though.

Incidentally I'm kind of angry about this situation because I thought that it was normal to have to push really really hard to enter the vagina and I would always lose my erection. It drove me absolutely to the brink of insanity for about 4 months until I couldn't get hard anymore because I was so frustrated. Its nice that everything seems to be working now, really it is an amazing relief. I wish my first sexual experiences were better and not tainted with so much emotional TORTURE but its nice to have (seemingly) gotten through all of that. Looking forward to what is to come.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Try The Program - a sticky post elsewhere on this site. It does work very very well at ensuring all parties are fully aroused while being completely relaxed.

[bamjuju]

KY RULES! Try it out. Its great to have there in an emergency, or just for fun.

[lnt1103]

One thing that I've recently discovered is that if it's soft at all, we seem to have a little bit of trouble getting it to go in straight--its almost like it wants to catch on the edge of the opening. A little 'oral lube' if you will, works like a charm though

And drop the anger. All anger and frustration will accomplish is to make the situation worse, because it will get in your brain, and it will get in her brain, and you'll both be self-conscious and won't be able to relax and get into it.

[hyo250]

Yeah mate I'm gonna pick up some KY for sure.

On another note, I have a question about erections:

Is it normal to be kissing a girl for a couple of minutes, and only have a semi-erection? I'm 19 and I feel like it should be rock hard all the time. She usually wants to give me a blowjob when this happens but I'm too worried that if she does and I don't get fully hard I will humiliate her more. Am I just worrying too much?

[seil]

I had this problem and I just needed to exercise. I had a good cycling session that made me tired and next day I was getting fully hard no problem