Penis size - a different type of question

[Humble]

I repeatedly see questions crop up where men worry that their penis might be too small only to be rebuffed by women who say they don't mind smaller ones at all.

What about the opposite situation, though? Can a penis be too big for comfort for some women? Perhaps if it is too long, it cannot 'fit inside' fully, or if it is too wide, maybe it can hurt the woman too much?

[dancingdoc2]

I did an advance search of the site using Brandye's name and came across a post that answers your question:

"As for size, I can only repeat that 95% of all vaginas will accommodate 95% of all penis'. Possibly more. We each likely have our preferences, but we "can" whether or not we enjoy it or want a repeat performance. No one knows whether or not you will have problems. Yes, you can stretch yourself a bit - you are learning to relax muscles more than stretching - but that takes a while. In preparation for my first time many years ago, I did do some work. Whether or not it worked, I shall never know because it was a non-event and many women have that experience. We dread it but want it and then conclude that it was no big deal, at least physically."

We hear more about a penis being too wide more often. If this is the situation, a woman can do exercises to stretch her vaginal opening. There is an article on this listed in the Index.

[funinthesun]

I occasionally have problems with that. The width is the larger issue since nobody makes non-latex larger condoms and female condoms aren't always readily available. The polyurethane condoms won't even go on and polyisoprene stretch more but are still uncomfortably tight.

"Quickies" are a rarity because it can tear or be painful if time isn't taken to work things in slowly and allow the muscles to relax and be adequately lubricated. Even when very wet, if nothings been inside yet, small creases can be dry and crack if care isn't taken to work some fingers around or move very slowly in and out making sure to spread things evenly when one has a larger girth. With some women it's taken a few weeks to go from pleasurable but uncomfortable and sore after to pain free and orgasmic.

There's also the danger of being 'too rigid' where a girl can slam down on top of you and have you go in front of the cervix instead of behind and damage her or you can slip out and she can come back down on your tip with her pubic bone and injure your base.

The combination of being larger overall and harder also means that deeper oral sex is very difficult and more tiring on the woman's jaw. Even if she can open her throat and bend her head to accept it, sometimes you're just as wide or wider than her back teeth and there's just no way to avoid scraping the shaft painfully.

There are also plenty of times when some women really love the feel of a rigid larger penis filling them with firm pressure on their favorite spots, but others who feel like they're being poked and prodded instead of caressed.

In summary - Some positions and styles are easier/better with a longer/wider/harder penis while others are worse/harder and even dangerous. With whatever you have, the vast majority of people can create similar sensations simply by shifting angles and depths of thrusts as well as her torso and legs, however if you are in the minority of the larger size then you darn well better learn some anatomy and be careful or it can be extremely painful for your partner and even yourself.

[Brandye]

And, a different type of answer: Size is not all that feeds into preference. I have never encountered one too large or too small for pleasure, assuming that he knows what to do with it. Rigidity, for me, is another matter. The bar rigid ones with no flexibility make me feel impaled. I simply do not like them when overly stiff and by the time I discover that, it is too late to do anything but shift my hips to the least miserable angle and wait for him to finish.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Custom condoms are available at www.condomania.com in a variety of materials.

Whatever the size of your penis, your skill in using it remains paramount. Part of this being skillful includes igniting your partner's desire. If you skip or skimp on the foreplay, your size will not matter because your partner will not enjoy the sex and will not thank you for cheating.

I have never encountered a penis that did not 'fit' but I have thrown men out for being bad lovers.

[Humble]

Thanks for the prompt replies. I didn't realize that stiffness too could be an issue. That one may, unfortunately, be pretty relevant for me.

[CleverName]

Hmm, I have never thought about stiffness. Is there a way to exercise it or somthing to loosen it up a little?

[funinthesun]

Rigidity changes over time due to age. Since the rigidity is due to the amount of blood that the valves can hold and "flexing" your penis is actually the muscles around it, I don't know if there is an exercise.

[funinthesun]

Nice - theyfit condoms are back on the market this year. They closed for a while due to some regulatory documentation issues. I haven't come across any non-latex custom or larger fits though.

[EvilEvilKitten]

When the muscles relax, the penis becomes erect.