Please help

[happie_blazed]

i got a new girl that ive ben talking to! sep she lives in omaha and i live in milford and thats 83 miles away! ive ben talking to her for about a year and i use to hang wit her like all the time! well she wants to come out after she gets home from ohio from visiting her dad and stay a week wit me im only 15 and shes the same age! and she wants to Do it (should i say) how do i go about making this a time i will always rember? im a virgin and willing to give her my V card. i mean cuz no matter what it will b a time i rember becuz its when i lose my V card! but i dont want to like suck what are some tips for the first time to enhance the sexual expirience? would there b ne thing i can use becides a rubber to make it better? cuz i cant go buy porn or ne thing like that! and do you think theres ne thing that will increes the chance of an oragausm? PLZZ HELP

[EvilEvilKitten]

What are you thinking?!?!?
Where are your parents in all of this??
Few if any parents are going to be happy about you two being all 'romantic' in their house. Few parents will permit their daughter to sleep over at someone's house - when they do not know you from Adam.

Stop.
Slow down.
Think it through.

then say "Sorry, I'd love to, but I cannot."

[happie_blazed]

her mom and dad love me and said i can do ne thing wit there daughter

[dancingdoc2]

Yea, rite.
You have a lot of growing up to do and in the process learning how to read between the lines.

I can pretty much assure you and any young buck that fathers do not mean "anything". Very often not too many years ago a girl's father took a date or prospective beau out behind the barn for a no holds barred heart to heart talk about his daughter's virtue and in protecting it. My guess is that there are still a fair number of fathers living in America's heartland who continue this tradition. The rest of us have made an investment in a Ginsu kitchen knife!!**

If you rape her
If you get her pregnant
If you keep her out after her curfew
If you beat her or cause any injury physically or mentally
If you abuse her in any other way or cause her to be harmed by another
If you disrespect her
If you do not value and appreciate her
If you do not look out for her well being while out and about, then...

In the days of the Old West, fathers had a shotgun handy. (Getting a girl pregnant...ever her of the term "shotgun wedding?)
**Today's fathers are more about letting the errant lad live to ponder his misdeeds without his gonads and penis!

> how do i go about making this a time i will always rember?

First: make arrangements with a neighbor or family member to let her stay with them.
Second: Make out an itinerary for activities to do each day that do not include sex.
Third: If the two of you want to make out, fine, just limit your adventures to making out and going no further--period.
Fourth: plan family time together, either at home or with your family doing things elsewhere.

Fifth: Read the articles linked in the Index regarding the how-to's of dating.

Teenage boys will say and do anything in order to get their rocks off. Love and/or romance are secondary. Girls do not have the same view of sex.

Girls of all ages want to be valued and appreciated as people. Romance is at the top of the list and without it, there is little likelihood of sex. The chances of you having intercourse with this girl are slim to none even though you have a longstanding relationship with her. For most girls there has to be more involvement and you just are not at this point, even though she has stated her interest in pursuing the loss of virginity.

If you are lucky you may receive a hand job, so, be happy with this boundary. If you discount all advice given you about this, then make darn sure you do not have sex without three forms of protection. Hers, yours, ours. It is essential that she use a reliable contraceptive, you use a condom, and together the two of you use a spermicide! If she cannot use B/C, then at least use the other two.

Read all the articles listed in the Index. Knowledge is empowering. If you want a great time making out, there are a myriad of articles on all that.

Got questions?

[happie_blazed]

but like shes the same age so and if she willing and takes off her clothes would that still b concidered Rape plus i go and c her like every weekend and her dad does not live wit her and its a stepdad and her mom knows me really well and her mom bought her rubbers and so did my mom when we hooked up so i mean theay know we will have sex her mom always wanted us to get together so i mean what should i do bout this one and her dads going and geting her on birth control cuz i asked her to ask him if he would get her om it bucuz shes says shes ready to have intercorse what should i do then cuz im confused now

[nuttychick]

hey little buddy you want to borrow some of my ...........................................
lol

Oh and listen to Doc....... That reply of his was awesome lol

[happie_blazed]

i agree it was preaty kick and some of ur what

[happie_blazed]

i dont even care ne more shes not worth it to me ne more she was my worst mistake im just not gunna worry bout sex till that time comes but how will i know its what my gf or some one wants

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes indeed folks - SHE'S not worth it to me.
HAH!

Buddy, if you want a 'stand up kind of girl' you have to be a MAN and at age 15 - you're NOT one.

Give your ego a rest and learn from this.

Sex is NOT all/just about you.

[dancingdoc2]

> i dont even care ne more shes not worth it to me ne more she was my worst mistake im just not gunna worry bout sex till that time comes but how will i know its what my gf or some one wants

What changed? How did you come to this conclusion?

Originally Posted by happie_blazed

but like shes the same age so and if she willing and takes off her clothes would that still b concidered Rape

This question is answered in this article:

KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION

One of the lessons you must learn is that of boundaries and respecting them; who sets them, and, how to test if they have been extended. Read the section near the top of the article beginning with "NO!" along with the information in the associated link.

plus i go and c her like every weekend and her dad does not live wit her and its a stepdad

Men are inherently hunters. A father (including many step-) will go to the ends of the earth to right a wrong perpetrated against a loved one. Give yourself twenty+ years and you'll understand.

and her mom knows me really well and her mom bought her rubbers and so did my mom when we hooked up so i mean theay know we will have sex

her mom always wanted us to get together so i mean what should i do bout this one and her dads going and geting her on birth control cuz i asked her to ask him if he would get her om it bucuz shes says shes ready to have intercorse what should i do then cuz im confused now

That you can does not automatically mean you should. (That a safety net has been installed under a tight-rope does not mean you should take a walk on one.) You stand a much greater chance of maintaining your standing with her parents and stepfather if you step up and look out for her well being and not simply look for an easy way to relieve an "itch" betwen your loins. It is far far better IMHO to masturbate more, fantasize, and limit your adventures to hand jobs for the foreseeable future. The trouble about being a teen is that you do not yet know what you do not know. This is why we are being stern with you--we've been there done that and are passing along the wisdom of our experiences.

Intercourse is a BIG DEAL, more so than you are aware of. I understand that the two of you are curious, and/or, that she may want to get the status of her virginity changed, that you may be curious about seeing the female form in its entirity. I belong to the school of thought that recommends waiting until your mental and emotional maturities have developed further. Just because you have passed thru puberty and can produce children does not mean kids should be venturing into adult activities or even having to raise kids when totally ill prepared. Making the transition from childhood into adulthood does not stop at puberty--it is a decade long process that does not end until the early-mid twenties.

I urge you to think with the head on top of your shoulders, not the head at the end of your penis. Understand that hormones are driving your urges more so than logic.

Lastly, consider that it is darn hard for a boy to stop making out once things get underway. Adults understand how difficult it is to jog our conscious brain out of its intoxicating stupor while about to have intercourse. This is why you have been given a supply of condoms--a safety net. It is better me thinks to agree ahead of time to limit your adventures first to Necking, then later, Petting, then some months down the road, Heavy Petting, before ever getting to the Foreplay activities of a h/j and/or b/j. Please read the articles on dating and those on making out. Let her remain chaste until she is mature enough to appreciate the ramifications of loosing her virginity and transitioning to a woman.

If you are interested in mainly getting your rocks off instead of masturbating, then make a pseudo-vagina using a Ziplock plastic bag, cutting a slot along the bottom of one side, lubricating the inside, wrapping it around your penis and covering it with a folded hand towel, then pumping away supported between a pillow or two while assuming the Missionary position. (How's that for a run on sentence?) This appliance is as close to the real feel as you can get.