Her first time positions (Girls oppinions please!!)

[Kitt]

im 18 years old and have had sex before a few times but we were very drunk for the first two times so i cannot fully remember my first time, anyway my friends are trying to set me up with a friend of theirs and according to them she is still a virgin now i dont realy know this girl yet but i want to be prepared if somthing does happen it probably wont but if it does i want to be ready!! i would like to know what position would be best for her first time obviously i will be using protection and foreplay, preferably i would like a position that she could control the depth speed and angle of penetration to give her the most pleasure i possibly can but any position will be fine as we are both comfortable with it!!!

[dancingdoc2]

OH! Kitt, your concern is very valid, yet I urge you to take control and slow down--way down. Unless you only want someone to help you get your rocks off at the expense of any real relationship, I recommend that you learn the how-to's of dating and making out, first, and foremost. There are several articles in the Index that discuss kissing, making out, foreplay, and, eventually--beyond. Please read them and take the information to heart. Take a few months to get to know the girl before thinking about intercourse. In the meantime you can have a great time Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and eventually foreplay. (BTW, orgasms from oral and/or a h/j are often more intense than from intercourse. Intercourse is more about the psyches.)

Now, to answer your question: The Woman Superior or "Cowgirl" position is generally regarded as the best position for the first time or two. Here's why:
* The position places the woman in control
+ She knows where P and V are and can deftly bring the two together saving the man some angst
* She can position the head of the penis between the hymen and vaginal wall
+ and can apply just the right amount of pressure
+ and at just the right angle
* She determines the depth of penetration
+ the rate of stroking

You can support her as she positions herself above your torso and also keep her breasts from bouncing around too much. Have a look at the cowgirl animated illustrations on the Home page.

There is more information you should know before having intercourse, so scan the list of articles and read the information in these, also.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[Kitt]

thanks again i just want to be prepared as the first times i had sex was utterley awfull not on the womans behalf on mine because i was drunk foolish i know!! but if there is a chance of a relationship you best belive that im not gonna ruin it my friends tell me im am verry responsible and mature as most of the guys i know are still sleeping arround and im looking for something steady, and i want her first time to be as good as i can make it i will look at dating and foreplay sections but is there also any advice in PE because i do tend to "go off early" or not last long enough, unfortunatley which can be depressing the girl i was with before said it Ok and tried to comfort me but it doesnt help and i dont want this to happen with this girl

[Brandye]

Kitt,

You seem to be giving us lots of hypotheiticals. Why not find a girl friend, share some exploration and then ask what the two of you need to learn?

[Kitt]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Kitt,

You seem to be giving us lots of hypotheiticals. Why not find a girl friend, share some exploration and then ask what the two of you need to learn?

Oh belive me i would its just ive got alot of things going on in my life not all good things and i need to them them and myself sorted out first because its not fair on the girl if i were to drag he rinto my life at the miniute and another thing is i have trouble trusting propke i have been hurt before and have never rely got over it but the second i get things sorted im gonna go for it, its the thing that keeps me going!!!

[dancingdoc2]

I have two suggestions, Kitt,
First, please slow down enough in the future to add punctuation to your writing. It is darn hard to read a run on paragraph and decipher your concerns.

Second, about PE, please familiarize yourself with the Index found at the top of the main screen. It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles on a myriad of subjects, including Premature Ejaculation and how to fix it. I recommend reading thru the Index and looking for pertinent answers before posting. If, after doing some "homework" you have questions, please do not hesitate to ask. We are here to help.

The article on PE describes two methods. The Squeeze technique works well when there is an immediate need to squelch the sense of urgency. The exercise requires two people (you and a partner) in order to train your brain to recognize when you are nearing the point of no return, yet have control left to to pause; and, can jog your conscious mind to act.

Got questions?

[dancingdoc2]

Kitt, if you would like to tell us about the "hurt", perhaps one or more of us can give you some ideas to get past it, or at least put it into perspective.

How old are you?

[Kitt]

thanks sorry about the punctuation i have never learned to write properly as in spearating information so im sorry, thanks for the advice guys, well all i have ever asked for is that the girl i am with is trustworthy, loyal , and that she loves me. the girl i was seeing was so sweet and caring when i first met her, but things got complex in her life and started to rub off on me as a result our relationship sufferd. she started to add snide comments about my weight and "performance" into arguments. And this took me by surprise as i never took her to be one of the people that would say hurtfull things that she knows i am insecure about, As i have always been bullied throught primary secondary and after school THIS IS WHY I CANNOT TRUST people or find it verry difficult to i have only ever been able to trust my closest friends which to this day i have never told anybody about my "problems in the bedroom" im looking for counciling my friend is going and i said for me to come along and i said i would so maybye in the next couple of months hey i'll be free of these feelings.... oh and by the way i am 18 and lost my virginity at 17

[EvilEvilKitten]

You've been bullied all through school - and you did nothing to stop it?
Why is that? Well, you're out of school now and the world is a lot tougher so you'd better figure out how to tell people to get lost quick.

Now then, being all weak is NOT going to get you the quality girl/woman. If you're weak, how can she rely upon you when she needs you? You talk a lot about your feelings and shutting her out from them - that's the kiss of death to any relationship but you do not want to be revealing every last detail right away. You have to appear strong and open up to her later.

Trust? Sorry, that has to be earned - hence the not opening up right away.

But I will tell you one thing: people will take you at your word - what you appear is what you will be in their eyes - so pretend to be a TIGER.

Man or Mouse?

BTW - MOST younger men have PE and most older men have ED - so there. It happens to EVERY male. You're not alone.

[Kitt]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You've been bullied all through school - and you did nothing to stop it?
Why is that? Well, you're out of school now and the world is a lot tougher so you'd better figure out how to tell people to get lost quick.

Now then, being all weak is NOT going to get you the quality girl/woman. If you're weak, how can she rely upon you when she needs you? You talk a lot about your feelings and shutting her out from them - that's the kiss of death to any relationship but you do not want to be revealing every last detail right away. You have to appear strong and open up to her later.

Trust? Sorry, that has to be earned - hence the not opening up right away.

But I will tell you one thing: people will take you at your word - what you appear is what you will be in their eyes - so pretend to be a TIGER.

Man or Mouse?

BTW - MOST younger men have PE and most older men have ED - so there. It happens to EVERY male. You're not alone.

Thanks evil kitten but i did try and sort out the bullying it didnt work so after a while i gave up trying to sort it out the school was usless and grew a thick skin instead so after that it didnt hurt as much, and i am out of high school
and have learned to tell people to clear off with just a look now because i am big not as big as i was but more muscular and people tend not to mess with me now

I am a strong person i am always there for my friends when they break up and make up , And they realy want me to be happy but when i feel i can trust a person i will open up a little which is why i hope i can do that with this girL, sometimes its just easier not opening up at all not good i know but it keeps me from being hurt again i suppose!!