Uh-oh anal?

[justthatonegirl]

My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time and before we even began having sex, he mentioned (in random conversations with a friend and I) that he was not interested in ever trying anal. At that point I made it clear that I was also not interested and that I thought it was very unappealling.
Well, about 2 weeks ago he asked me again how I feel about anal and I gave him the same response... I'm not interested. He didn't mention it for a while but then two days ago, while we were playing, he put his finger in there. It wasn't pleasant for me, but I feel like if he really wants to try it that badly, he may cheat if I don't allow him to.

Any advice on what to say?
Or should I just try it and hope he doesn't enjoy it?

Thanks<3

[Buck Naked]

If you are not comfortable with it, I wouldn't even attempt it. Are you sure that he would cheat, or are your just speculating? I would talk seriously to him about it and let him know your reservations. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and drop the topic. If he pouts and makes threats about cheating, then let him go. He obviously doesn't respect you enough to drop it.

[rolling_thunder]

Agreed... if you're not into it then don't attempt it. If you think he'll cheat on you because of this then there are other other issues in play through your relationship

[joanneb1027]

If you are not comfortable with it, tell him to stay away. Maybe you could try masturbating anally, without him, and see if it changes anything, but if you don't want to, don't.

[CumBlowMe]

i have had a few girlfriends in the past and none have mentioned about having anal sex so i didnt really ask incase they got offended but my last girlfriend asked me have i ever done it and i said no i sounds a bit wrong because what happens if i ever got down to doing it and i end up with excrement on my penis. can you help me out for in the future please thank you

[dancingdoc2]

here is my position on the topic.

I have stated for years that I do not classify unsolicited mail in my mailbox as "junk mail" until I have looked at it and/or read it.

When it comes to Anal sex or any other aspect of a relationship, sexual or not, do not dismiss the subject out of hand. I encourage people to read up on whatever is debatable or where there is a difference of opinion.

There is anal and there is anal:
A#1: Anal intercourse
A#2; Anal stimulation and play

The two are vastly different yet contain common origins, meaning that anal stimulation can be given to one or both individuals as an enhancement to whatever other caresses are being done at the time and to augment that person's orgasm.

If you elect to continue, then anal play is the warm up to intercourse.

If one of you does not want a penis to go inside then this is what should be stated up front. A#2 can still be in play and a great way to enhance each others pleasure.

For more on the matter, please read the article on this listed in the Index.

[EvilEvilKitten]

STOP THINKING THAT YOU HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING TO KEEP HIM.

Jeez! If he wanted to jump off a bridge would you say "Sure, Honey; and I'll jump with you!" thus ending BOTH of your lives???
Does that make any sense to you?

YOUR desires are just as legit as his.

Do you honestly think that if you said "No" he'd just up and leave/cheat/whatever?
In that case - do you have a viable relationship at all?
Are you dating a man-child whose every wish MUST be appeased?
If so, are you seriously saying that such a person is worth keeping?