How to make a good first impression

[funinthesun]

Originally Posted by MIGHTY BOOSH

Ok, think I've got it thanks guys. This also helps concrete my decision to wait for the right girl (though i'm not waiting for marriage) that will patiant about it all rather than a one night stand like my mates are pushing me towards.

So is this right: read all the advice on here and put her and her needs first and then just practice, practice, practice? Beacuse I figure wanting her to have a good time aswell as being eager to improve is a good start to being a good lover... I am on the right track?

Practice, practice, practice involves having a partner. Go out, enjoy life, find someone to enjoy life with who's responsible and trustworthy, and practice, practice, practice.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just go out and find a 'bad girl' - you know - the female equivalent of a 'bad boy'. Wear your condoms and hang on for the ride. Or perhaps a nice cougar?

[MIGHTY BOOSH]

Hm... maybe, I don't know any sexy "bad girls" though. I want my first time to be memorable and not a one night stand, I'm just gonna enjoy life and when I find a girl I like... practice, practice, practice

[dancingdoc2]

Please understand that if the girl is a virgin her first time or two might not result in an orgasm for her because of the following reasons.

First, she has to be orgasmic and many teenagers and young adults have not made the transition. Females of the species are not as driven to masturbate as guys so learning is a conscious effort and often later in life.

Second, there is enough going on between you that she might very well be distracted and cannot focus.

If she is a virgin, there may be some discomfort with first time intercourse, whether her hymen is (partially) intact or not.

Third, unless and until she learns to communicate with you about how to best stimulate her and for what she needs now/next, your chances of getting it right are hit and miss. Be this as it may, learning how to touch and where is also a matter of becoming familiar with the female anatomy by touch.

There are two forms of communication--verbal and non-verbal. Both have been explained in at least one of the articles. Reading her signals about how she is responding to your caresses is often a matter of being familiar with her as a person. This takes practice.

As mentioned, above, your goal should be to make the adventure fun as well as pleasurable, and also worth repeating even if things do not go exactly as hoped for. This bears repeating: "explore and learn together"; although, if all you want to do is lose your virginity, well then... I'd still make the experience worth the woman's time.

That you want to wait for Ms. Right to enter your world is fine. Work up a good relationship, first and foremost, learn how to make love to her mind, learn how to make out with your bodies, then correct things as you progress each time.

Yes, you are on the right track.

[EvilEvilKitten]

"I want it to be special!"

Unfortunately the first time, with anyone, is never the best, most memorable sex you will have with that person - like him/her or not. Sorry to bust your daydream but it is very true. (Yes, I would know.) It takes time to get yourselves sync'd, find out what works where, when, and how.

What you need now is not 'memorable sex' but 'educational sex' and for that, you need someone who knows more than you do. So going for a girl who knows just as much or even less than you do is not the best and/or brightest allocation of your time. (Besides which, most of them are going after guys older and more 'educated' than you.)

One-night stands have a habit, at least with me, of becoming LTRs. You may find that this is the case with you. So do not disparage one-night-stands. After all, one can make friends just as easily between the sheets as one does elsewhere.

[MIGHTY BOOSH]

Thanks for all the advice you've really made things clear. I'm still against a one night stand for now though, maybe after I've lost my V but the first time I think will be akward with someone I barley know... then again the first may always be akward but I still want more experience before I have (if I ever have one)

As for her being a virgin or more experienced most people my age have had sex, I'm the only virgin in my class, so chances are she will be more experinced than me anyway. But even if she isn't aslong as I like the girl it won't matter it's not just sex I'm interested in