The Virgin Thread

[EvilEvilKitten]

Because the woman owned the land and the rights to rule - he only acquired kingship through marriage; very common system during the Bronze Age since men were always out fighting someone

[Rouge]

Mhm. Almost a "Shelf date"

[noirblanc]

I haven't read the entire thread but here are my 2 cents: I lost my virginity at 16 to a girl I barely knew, in a hotel room during a party and I wasn't quite sober. Was I happy with it? At the time yes. A few months passed and I regretted it. People will talk about the first time being special, in some ways it should be, or atleast with a "special someone". If I could go back and do it again I would have held off.
Social pressure and media influences make it that younger teens are now engaging in sexual activity. It's been proven through anthropological and social studies. I remember reading an article on my local newspaper of 8th graders caught giving fellatio on a school bus. How do you explain that to your parents?! "Oh well everyone's doing it"...c'mon!
There should be no rush of loosing it, nor should there be anger in being a virgin. If anything, it makes you that much more unique!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why should the first time you enjoy sex be 'special'? Sex is a physical activity - fun, but really. The emotional bond between you is what should be special, not the sex.

Stop confusing sex with love - the two are not the same thing.

[noirblanc]

I didn't say it had anything to do with love. But regardless, the first time is a memorable one and thus should be one of enjoyment, not disappointment or resentment later on. Doing it with some random whom you've just met is honestly a waste. If it was just physical and you're doing it to "get your rocks off" do you just sleep with anyone who approaches you propositionning sex? I doubt it, there's atleast some form of attraction of relation, even if just a friendly one.

The moral, pertaining to this thread, is to not just throw away your vcard because "you're sick of being a virgin" or what ever.

[its_legal@16]

true, i know a load of people i met through a friend who are like 3 years younger than me, and when i was 15 they were running around like sex crazed monkeys, giving old joe dick and harry what ever they wanted, at least one of them was in a relationship with this most f***ed up looking person i've ever seen and he was a right dick too. but at 12 they shouldn't be participating in sexual activities, at 12 i hadn't even kissed a girl and when i was their age no one except one or two people were sexually active, and it shows how the media does influence people, i'm not blaming tv, music ect on them, because they have person responsibility for their actions too, but i think it is wring, people should wait, and these kiddies nowa days see a being a virgin as a burden and try to get rid of it asap to who ever the first guy to get it out his pants is

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Why should the first time you enjoy sex be 'special'? Sex is a physical activity - fun, but really. The emotional bond between you is what should be special, not the sex.

Stop confusing sex with love - the two are not the same thing.

I have to agree with this one. My partner and I have some pretty interesting sex, but the thing that makes it a loveable/special experience and not just a fuck is the bond we have. It's pretty hard to feel special with a dildo and a but plug in, with cum on your face, unless you have a bond with the other person.

[its_legal@16]

i totally agree, i'm not trying to say that sex is special, but in which the circumstances its happen are. And that's why i regret my first time, because i wasn't ready, and i was hand cuffed to a chair pretty much forced to have sex. so i think i can justifiably say that wasn't special.

i know love and sex are completely different, yes i am young, but i'm not stupid, remember that

[lnt1103]

Yeah the only thing that made my first time special was that I'd been the one to ask for it...which, if you know me, I'm not one to be assertive and make requests unless I'm so incredibly horny.

So yeah, my two biggest memories of my first time were ordering him to get a condom, and him being so 'out there' from what we'd just done that when he put me in the car to go home he almost shut the car door on my head.

My first time with T was very special, because of the connection we'd already built.

[noirblanc]

Originally Posted by Rouge

I have to agree with this one. My partner and I have some pretty interesting sex, but the thing that makes it a loveable/special experience and not just a fuck is the bond we have. It's pretty hard to feel special with a dildo and a but plug in, with cum on your face, unless you have a bond with the other person.

IMHO the bond is more special than the act, but the act should still be special, especially for the first time. It's a big chapter in someones life. A bad turn of events can turn someone off for a long time, while a great one let's them see the bittersweetness of the act.