The Virgin Thread

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by shovein

Im a virgin and I have no idea what its like to have sex theres a some girls at my school I bet would really be good at it whats it like to have sex.

im 13 and IM a virgin waaaa. for some reason I really want to loose my virginity early
so maybe I will if a girl ever likes me and tells me and it turns out that i like her lol

p.S im 13 i really want to lose my virginity

Why are you mad?

I know you really want to lose your virginity. Every boy has that wish, yet very few ever do until a few/several years later. Right now your hormones are raging and ruling your thoughts and this is normal at this stage of life. Just do not let those out of balance hormones rule your behavior.

I understand the curiosity about seeing a girl without clothes and the enthusiasm of letting her get to admire your body. That said, what does having sex mean to you? If all you are interested in is getting your rocks off, then you can probably do a better job just continuing to masturbate. If you are curious about the feelings and sensations, then get a small plastic Ziplock bag, cut a slit along the bottom of one side, add a lube, insert your penis, fold, wrap with a washcloth, and go at it between a couple of pillows for support. This pseudo-vagina is as natural as it gets short of the real deal.

It requires some practice to make intercourse completely enjoyable. It also requires a certain mindset, because other than doing it just for the simple fun of it, intercourse has more to do about a person's psyche than the feel good sensations, something you are not yet ready or mature enough to appreciate.

Transitioning from a child into an adult takes a decade. Just because people go thru puberty and are now able to procreate, does not mean a girl or a boy is mature enough to become a parent, let alone be responsible for the child financially and educationally.

Also, it is important for boys to understand that we want sex for much different reasons than girls, so do not expect any takers quite yet. What do you know about having responsible sex, meaning in part, birth control? It is very important for her to use some form of contraceptive, you a condom, and the two of you together, a third back up method, generally a spermicide. You just cannot be too cavelier or careful at your ages.

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[Stacey]

I'm 13 and I am still a virgin! I will admit that I am curious about sex but I am not in a hurry to lose my virginity!

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by Stacey

I'm 13 and I am still a virgin! I will admit that I am curious about sex but I am not in a hurry to lose my virginity!

It's good that you're not in a hurry, but please refrain from using the word "still". You SHOULD still be a virgin at your age, you're barely out of diapers!

[EvilEvilKitten]

*sigh* but Rouge - that's not how SHE sees it.

In her mind, since she's menstruating, she's "ready to go!" - which is rather Medieval of her but, hey, some people are very 'historical'.

Let me remind all of you that the best time for a female to bear her children is during her 20's. ALL liasons during your teens should be considered 'learning opportunities' and nothing more.

To this end, the requirements are very strict.
1. School comes first. ALWAYS.
2. Birth Control is MANDATORY - you WILL be on The Pill - no arguments.
3. He WILL use condoms - again - ALWAYS - no arguments.
4. It is NOT love. - no matter what he says
5. YOU pick HIM - it is your sexuality - own it. If you want to say NO then say it and mean it and be prepared to walk home in the driving snowstorm if need be. NO DOORMATS.

If you cannot abide by ALL of the above - then stay a virgin until you are ready. Indulging in adult play require you to be adult about it. THINK it through BEFOREHAND.

And remember - just because you want to and/or you can does not mean that you should.

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

*sigh* but Rouge - that's not how SHE sees it.

In her mind, since she's menstruating, she's "ready to go!" - which is rather Medieval of her but, hey, some people are very 'historical'.

I'm aware, I was there myself.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, we all were. But thankfully we're not Medieval - else we'd all be married off to some guy we hadn't even met at age 14. Can you imagine? That would be horrible.

[Rouge]

**Some middle-aged guy

[EvilEvilKitten]

well there was a case where a 17 yr old girl was married to an 8 year old boy - but that was politics, usually you're right

[Rouge]

Not to mention the incest of the Ptolemies.

[its_legal@16]

this all seems pretty messed up, like the polygamists in south america and the forest dwellers in the forest of dean in uk, all a tad weird,