The Virgin Thread

[lnt1103]

WTH is it with people being upset at 'still' being virgins before they can even legally practice driving with a licensed adult in the front seat? Age of Consent laws aren't made with random, arbitrary numbers that someone draws out of a hat. Rouge is right-one is best served starting sex at a stage in their lives when they can deal with the possible consequences, both good and bad. At 13-14 you're just not equipped, either physically or emotionally.

And don't kid yourself--some families wouldn't be supportive. I knew a girl a few years back who got pregnant very early in high school and she got kicked out of home. She was also so immature she was planning herself a shower, the date of which was before she was even showing. Personally, the first night I stayed over with a man, when I was 28 by the way, my mother literally cried and 'couldn't' go to church the next morning (it was a Saturday night) because she couldn't figure out how to explain my absence.

Some will blame the second paragraph on the taboo about sex, and may have a point. But, in case those things do happen, a person needs the maturity of which the first paragraph speaks before diving in.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, I know some families are not all they should be and life can turn out horrible if one does not make the right choices - but to always be expecting the worst is just as bad as always expecting everything to go well. Proper planning prevents piss poor performance.

We could contrast your mother's reaction to my mother's reaction when I was 11 - which was to drag out all of her nursing textbooks, give me chapter and verse of instruction including how to select men, and then drag me off to Planned Parenthood for their lectures and a prescription for the BCP deemed most suitable for me. All of which I also did with my daughter while in her early teens. All of which makes perfect sense when you consider that women in my family become pregnant as soon as his pants are unzipped.

My point is that it is no good being emotional about such things but to think rationally before you get all bent and twisted around the axle about it. SOME 13-14 yr olds are quite capable of making mature decisions and SOME are not. If they CAN then guidance is required. If they can't THEN you can tell them to wait until they're 40 or whatever.

BTW when I was 11 years old I stood 5'9" tall, weighed 150 lbs, and had a 36" chest with 36 " hips and looked like I was 18 at least so don't be thinking some skinny little white chick here. When my daughter was 11 she was 6' tall and pretty much the same as I was at that age. We're not called North American She-Beasts for nothing.

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Horrible or not, Rouge, and 13, 14, or 26 - the first hesitant steps, the first errors, the first heartaches are BEST taken while the parental safety net remains beneath you.

I would hands down agree with you IF most parents were willing to deal with the situation in a way which provides learning, not taking away responsibility, or shunning said child.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Neither you nor I can guarantee if the parents will or if they will NOT be supportive. Each teenager has to take his/her own parents into account when making such decisions. They're the ones who grew up with those parents - they should know.

But either was it is just as wrong to assume the worst will happen as it is to assume the best will happen.

The simple fact remains as it always has been : if you're going to indulge in adult play, you have to be adult about it. Birth control, condoms, and spermicides - then keep your mouth shut about it.

[shovein]

Im a virgin and I have no idea what its like to have sex theres a some girls at my school I bet would really be good at it whats it like to have sex.
p.S im 13 i really want to lose my virginity : (

[shovein]

im 13 and IM a virgin waaaa. for some reason I really want to loose my virginity early
so maybe I will if a girl ever likes me and tells me and it turns out that i like her lol

[Rouge]

Originally Posted by shovein

im 13 and IM a virgin waaaa. for some reason I really want to loose my virginity early
so maybe I will if a girl ever likes me and tells me and it turns out that i like her lol

In all honesty, wait a few years.

[lnt1103]

I have to agree with Rouge on this one again. If the whole point is the 'losing it' thing...the badge...the label...if that's all you care about, you're not ready for it, IMHO.

[its_legal@16]

i was a virgin y
til i was 15, still regret it though,

[its_legal@16]

to the large amount of 13 year olds wanting to loose it soon, really guys, don't learn from my mistake, admittedly she was a lesbian, but still, save that last sliver of innocence you have