Boys and Masturbation / Got questions?

[pharoh_13]

I am only 13 and I have a lot of questions is it ok for me to be in this website and I m ashamed of the questionst that I have can anyone answer them ?

[dancingdoc2]

> I am only 13 and I have a lot of questions is it ok for me to be in this website

Welcome. Technically, yes, it is OK, however, you are a young minor and should probably have adult supervision as noted, below:

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> I m ashamed of the questionst that I have can anyone answer them ?

There is absolutely no reason to be ashamed. Knowledge is empowering. If you do not know something, ask. There is no question that is dumb or stupid. We were all thirteen and we all had questions that required answers. If you do not know something, how will you learn if not by asking and reading?

All we ask is that you act responsibly, write well and do not use four letter words. There are many people who volunteer their time to help "pay it forward" with the experiences and knowledge learned by asking the same and other questions you probably have now.

[pharoh_13]

Im 13 and I only masturbated a lot of time and I feel like if its the wrong thing to do at my age is it wright or wrong what im doing ?
Is there an exact age to do this ?

[dancingdoc2]

Boys and masturbation go together like sugar and spice. A boy can masturbate at any age from infancy forward, however, there is no ejaculation until he passes through puberty. He probably won't be driven to do this until then. As a kid it is usually just a passing curiosity if it happens at all. Juvenile orgasms are less intense than those of an adolescent.

There is no particular age at which we find an urge to pleasure ourselves. Each boy is different and each begins maturing at a different time. Shucks! just take a look around you at school. There is the 14 y/o who looks like 17 and the 15 y/o who looks like he is 11. Boys want to know "am I normal" and often want to compare themselves with their friends in an attempt to make this determination. Because we all begin maturing at different ages, you cannot make a valid comparison between you and anybody else. This is true for penis size as well as how often you and your friends masturbate. Where you are on your maturity time line is not necessarily where your friends are even if your birth dates are very close together.

Masturbation is not harmful. You can do it as often as you want or are driven to do it. If you try to do it too much and more than your body can tolerate, then it will simply refuse to respond for several hours. Some boys masturbate every few days, others once every couple of days, daily, and/or multiple times a day. There is no "normal" or usual except as it pertains to you as an individual and your needs. "Normal" also means that your "needs" can and often do change daily.

The major caveat is that at some point you will have to learn to balance or manage your desire for pleasure and the need to eliminate stress and tension. The more you relieve sexual tension the less intense will be the pleasure the next time. The same holds true in reverse. Perhaps a good solution is to not go overboard on the self pleasuring aspect in order to have enough semen in reserve for a good stress reliever or two during the day. If you want to get in some pleasure for the simple joy of it, think about holding off until bedtime or until you know there won't be any more stress in your day.

Lastly, the only time masturbation is a problem is if you "need" to do it so often that the activity interferes with obligations, school/homework, chores, etc. If this is happening, learn to manage your urges better. Boys masturbate for two reasons:
1. Because if feels "oh so good"
2. To relieve sexual tension and stress

If a person has had a particularly stressful day you might find yourself needing to reduce your stress level by masturbating one, two, or more times a day--or two or more times in a session.


STRESS MANAGEMENT--

Because masturbation is so pleasurable, we often find ourselves wanting to do it just for the enjoyment of it--whether it is once, twice or more times a day. If you have been taught that masturbation is sinful or otherwise wrong, just try and stop! You may be able to abstain several hours to a few days, yet sooner or later, you will give in.

What gets a person into trouble physiologically and emotionally is when there is a need to reduce stress that was not anticipated or planned for earlier in the day, and, you have masturbated so many times so far that day that your body refuses to perform one more time. What a young boy discovers is that he must quickly learn to manage his daily stress buildup and the need to reduce it against the desire to masturbate for the pure pleasure of it. Too much of the latter can mean his body will not perform when there is a real need to take care of the former; therefore, we must learn to handle a certain amount of stress for a period of time and ration how often we masturbate and for what reason.** It is not unusual for a boy to masturbate several times a day only to discover that he has reached his daily limit early on and when he really needs to do it, his body refuses to respond. This can drive a kid crazy! It is not uncommon for him to rub the shaft of his penis raw in the futile attempt to just climax one more time! After the friction burns scab over, they can become both a hindrance and a source of additional pleasure if the wounds are touched gently while stroking and not reopened due to too brisk or forceful hand actions. One way to work around this (potential) problem is to use a lubricant in combination with a gentler lighter grazing hand action.

** It can take up to seventy two hours for our body to rejuvenate and be able to produce an intense orgasm after having reached its daily limit. This is why learning stress management is so important and why we should not give in and masturbate when we encounter just a little stress; or, want to enjoy an orgasm just for the fun of it. We are much better off rationing our orgasms and putting up with some degree of stress, angst, and discomfort, for a few hours so as not to deplete our reserves. This is important when you consider that strong orgasms may not happen for two-three days after masturbating a lot beforehand. For this to happen, we must each abstain for as long as possible and this can contribute to our stress level or our desire to just feel great. Within this time frame, the longer you hold off and wait until you masturbate, again, the stronger your orgasms will become until you return to "normal".


VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE--

One complaint we hear once in a while is about becoming bored with masturbation. When you consider that we all masturbate in mechanically the same way yet with some individual variations, this is not unexpected over the years. From the very first time we masturbate, we quickly work out a method or technique that works for us and pretty much stick with this for the rest of our lives. Oh, sure, we sometimes experiment and try different ways of stimulating our penis, yet for whatever reason, we seldom rely upon more than our defacto standard way of doing it. Here is a link to what I consider the preeminent source on the subject of male masturbation. Try different methods and use one or more frequently so as not to become bored. Shucks! use more than one just to keep things interesting, after all isn't the entertainment value part of the reason we do it?

www.jackinworld.com

This next link will discuss this topic and many more of concern to young boys and teens:

http://boysunderattack.com/index.html

This is a link to the first article listed in the Index:

For Boys Only- A Matter of Size (Regarding your penis)

Lastly, just to show you how far our views as a society have (or have not) changed over the years is this old Mormon document:

http://ldolphin.org/mormon.html


DOWN TO BASICS--


HOW TO Information for the Beginner--

The physical movements can be a bit different depending upon whether a boy has a Foreskin or not, and, whether the Foreskin is capable of fully retracting.

It is important to know that the penis is rich with sensitive nerve endings. Those along the shaft of the penis are more sensitive to pressure; although, lubricating the shaft can make a light grazing extremely pleasurable. The Foreskin is also richly endowed with sensitive nerve endings as is the Glans or head.

If your penis is intact (with Foreskin) and is not often retracted, you will find if not already that the Glans may be too hot (sensitive) to handle directly. Fellas who have been circumcised do not have this problem of over sensitivity and can rub the Glans with fingers or their (lubricated) palm without discomfort. The rest of you will have to experiment stimulating the Glans with the Foreskin forward as well as retracted to learn what is best for you individually. For those of you who have not been circumcised, there are some benefits and rewards. First, you have options in that you can stimulate the Foreskin, the Glans, or both together. The nerves in the Glans are vastly more sensitive and thus reactive than those in the Glans of a person who has been circumcised. Think of it as "double your pleasure"! Not to worry though. For those of us who have been cut, we still derive great pleasure from playing with ourselves.

There is one main "hot spot" and that is the Frenulum or "Y-shaped" ridge of skin extending from the cleft of the Glans on the underside to the top of the shaft. One or more others are often found distributed around the Corona Rim at the rear of the Glans. Rub the Frenulum just prior to climaxing and it is almost a sure thing that an orgasm will result. The same goes for the secondary hot spots, although with a bit more touching or rubbing required.


THE MECHANICS--

Stroking the shaft of the penis is generally accomplished by wrapping a thumb and one or two fingers around the shaft, finding a comfortable amount of pressure then moving your fist up and down taking the skin within your grip with you. Because the nerves of the shaft are more sensitive to pressure, you can squeeze very tightly--or not so, just depending upon what works in the moment. If you decide to use a lubricant, less pressure to no pressure can be used for an entirely different feel. Involving the nerves in the Glans directly if circumcised and indirectly through the foreskin if not can be done with a couple of wet fingers that gently squeeze the organ letting it slip through your fingers. One alternative is to moisten a palm cup it slightly and rub it over and around the Glans as if polishing a door knob.

[dancingdoc2]

PART 2--

A lubricant, saliva or other, is recommended when caressing the Glans as the slipperiness makes the process easier and more enjoyable. Of course, the same thing can be said of the shaft, although, this is not as necessary.

What you do and how you do it changes a bit each time and from moment to moment in reaction to what you feel. Experiment and as they say: "go with the flow". Oh! and speaking of "the flow", what can or should be done with the ejaculate?

When climaxing the ejaculate (semen and sperm) can fly out with tremendous albeit diminishing force to land on your stomach or chest, your pubic mound and hair, or wildly go off and land perhaps somewhere you do not want it to. If it lands on your body, you can wipe it up with a tissue or a damp (wash)cloth, afterward. I always preferred to use a small jar like the kind marinated artichoke hearts come in. It is easy to position it near the penis and to "shoot your wad" into it. The jar can be washed out afterward, or put away in a nightstand to be cleaned later. A side benefit is that the rim of the jar's opening can be used to rub the Frenulum in order to jump start a climax. Try it with both a dry and a wet rim to determine which you prefer.


MULTIPLE ORGASMS--

Multiple orgasms are possible during a session. Each of us has a recovery period that varies depending upon age, sex drive, and how we are "wired". This can be a few minutes for a post pubescent, to typically ten to thirty for older teens and adults. During this "refactory period", you cannot have another orgasm. During this period, you can continue to caress yourself in order to keep your arousal alive. Once you determine what the length of your particular recovery period is you can then work up another climax if you choose. The maximum number a person can enjoy in a day is also based upon the above criteria. If you try to masturbate more than your body is willing, it will simply refuse to respond for several hours. Within a period of about seventy two hours, climaxes will be weaker and less intense, so managing stress and pleasure can be important if you want the return of a full force climax sooner than later.


Enhancements to Elusive Orgasms--


* Male masturbation can be simple and straight forward by simply getting down to the business at hand.

* Climaxing or achieving an orgasm can often be enhanced or the sensations made more intense by incorporating other forms of caress.
+ One enhancement is to begin by turning yourself on before taking your penis in hand by caressing your body and its erogenous zones, first, and continuing to do so while stroking.
+ A person's skin is his/her largest sexual organ. Learn where the most sensitive areas are and caress them throughout the process. One or both nipples and the surrounding pigmented areas (Areola) turn on and become extremely sensitive when we are very highly aroused. Learn which one is more reactive and fiddle with it as you do other things. Your nipple(s) will augment the sensations felt in your penis and elsewhere.

* Two other techniques for climaxing easier and enjoying stronger orgasms are described, below. These are particularly useful when an orgasm is proving to be elusive and difficult to trigger, such as a second, third, or fourth session in a day.

These can be done individually or in combination while masturbating. The scrotum is rich with nerve endings. It feels good to scratch the skin, it feels good to knead the skin, it feels good to cup and hold the entire "package".


SCRATCHING THE SCROTUM--

Ball playing has various aspects to it. The first is to massage the scrotum and to also gently pinch a piece of skin between thumb and finger while kneading. The second is to scratch an area of the skin using one of two types of scratching. The first type is to use a "come here" movement of the fingers; the second is a "back off" movement, or the reverse action. The finger nails will gently scratch the surface of the skin and provide two distinct sensations depending upon the type of finger action used. You can do one or more of these actions to different parts of the scrotum's sac. To scratch, just pick up a piece of the sac. and stretch it between your thumb and fingers, then scratch in between.

Scratching is soothing, calming, and also stimulating. Scratching can also be done when taking a break from stroking if you want an intermission of sorts.

How you proceed depends a lot on the state of the scrotum. As you know, it is the structure that contains the sperm "factory". As such one of its rolls is to maintain a proper operating temperature within. It does this by changing its size. When the environment is cool, the sac contracts hugging the body closely in order to maintain the necessary warmth. When the environment is warm or hot, the skin of the scrotum relaxes and expands its size many times so that the testicles will drop down into a cooler environment, away from the body's core. The scrotum will extend or contract automatically in response to the adjacent air temperature. The scrotum can assume and maintain any size in between a full dangle and a tight hug.

A tight scrotum feels quite different from a relaxed one. When the sac is taut, the skin is wrinkled or corrugated, caused by the excess skin being folded up. When the sac is fully extended and the balls hang low, it feels more malleable and softer. Because the testicles are at the bottom, you have a lot of skin to play with without having to involve them or be concerned about handling them inadvertently.

No matter what state you find your scrotum, you can have fun with it and with your balls.

When the scrotum is compact and tight against the body, you can work the same magic. In all positions, begin doing what feels good in the moment, switching techniques if or when you want.

It is much easier to involve one or both testicles when they are hanging low, away from the body. You can encircle the scrotum with your fingers or hand pinching off one or both testicles.

So, how are doing up to this point? Is your climax just moments away? Consider combining all of the above with what follows in the next section.**


PLAYING BALL--

What you can do with one or both testicles, later, when you are right on the brink of an orgasm is to take one in your hand and gently squeeze it. Now, guys, before you go "OH GAWD, NO!", please understand the method to the madness, so to speak. There is a fine line between pain and pleasure and it is this condition that can be arousing when done properly. Done incorrectly, it will be the cause of a major male nightmare!

Here's the key: The testicles are much more sensitive to impact than pressure. Ordinarily, when we are not aroused, a gentle squeeze will cause a mild although annoying little ache. When this is done when we are very aroused, this same ache is perceived by the brain to be extremely pleasurable.

** It is this ache that can be used to jump-start an orgasm, particularly an elusive orgasm like the second or third in a multiple string during one session, or, the second or third session that day.

Here's the trick: Practice squeezing a testicle when you are not aroused and stop when you are causing this annoying ache that has yet to become really painful. You do not want to do that. Then note how much pressure you are applying so you can duplicate this when you are approaching an orgasm that is being difficult to trigger. Squeeze when you are at the brink or trigger point of an orgasm. This same ache will then be perceived by the aroused pleasure center in the brain to seem pleasurable and it will augment or intensify those sensations you are experiencing from your other caresses being done at the same time and also trigger your climax. ***


PROSTATE MASSAGE TIPS--

*** Massaging the prostate gland has the same effect, although there is no pain involved--just the "after burner" kick to whatever else is being done to caress you at the same time.

The prostate gland is located about two inches inside and along the front wall just beneath the lining. It feels like a small walnut-shaped protuberance or bulge.

A prostate massage can be done anytime; however, the effects are best and most intense when you are very aroused and nearing the trigger point of your orgasm. A prostate massage will help jump start an elusive climax and it will also greatly intensify the sensations you are experiencing from any other caresses being done at the same time.

If you want to help trigger an orgasm and give it a tremendous boost then try either of these two orgasmic intensifying methods. If you are having difficulty climaxing for whatever reason, or this is the second or third orgasm in a multiple string, you will find that either method will be a big help.


GOING INSIDE--

Here are the keys:

1.) Use plenty of lubrication.
2.) Tease the outside of the anus with a finger, first, even before being very highly aroused.

Condition the anus to accept a finger or dildo being inserted.
RELAX. A person will sometimes tense up the sphincters when a finger or dildo is "probing" around the anus.

Make a conscious effort to relax as the finger or toy applies pressure against the opening--
3.) Insert a well lubricated finger, first, before anything else.
4.) Use pressure. Never attempt to shove, jab, or poke anything inside.
5.) The sphincter muscles inside the anus along the passage way are used to matter moving outward, not inward. So, be gentle. The finger is also used to "condition" them so that they will let a finger or toy in, first.

Any time pain is felt, you should stop and reapply some lube and spread it to the affected area. You never want to cause pain or discomfort and to chafe the lining. Anal play should be pleasurable and pain free!

[dancingdoc2]

In regard to #1.) above: If you believe you are using a lot of lubrication--add a lot more!

Many times, fingering is all a person is interested in; however, if you want to play with a dildo or toy in addition, it should always follow a finger--and be well lubricated.

When planning to insert a finger, tease the outside of the anus, first, and then over time, gently apply pressure, moving ever so slowly inward. If fingering the anus and sphincters is all you are interested in then you need go no further than the first or second knuckle. Anal play can be done separately or in combination with stroking. A finger can tease the outside of the anus, and, later if desired, go inside as noted. If your wish is to remain outside, then you can bring much pleasure by just touching, grazing, tapping, and otherwise just fingering the outside surface. An anus is richly endowed with lots of sensitive nerve endings that react pleasurably when touched. Going inside increases the intensity by an order of magnitude; just stroke, wiggle and wobble your finger in the passageway alongside the sphincter muscles. (See #5, above.)

If you are going to massage your prostate, then slip further inside and feel for the bulge along the anterior {front) wall. You will know when you you've contacted the prostate. Do not be surprised if rubbing and massaging the area cause you to moan, groan, do pelvic lifts, and/or to just squirm around. You will undoubtedly find that the massage will intensify what you are feeling from stroking by several orders of magnitude! As above, a difficult to trigger orgasm from just stroking will happen more quickly and easily.


DILDOS--

or toys can take many forms. Here are some suggestions of suitable household items:

* long necked bottle
* candle stick
* carrot stick
* English cucumber
* round tool handle

Clean before and after use. Food items should be discarded after use.


FANTASIES--

Fantasizing while masturbating can be a dynamic duo blockbuster combination. Do you wonder if you are normal to let your imagination run wild while stroking away? Fear not, my guess is that 99% of us do it and the other 1% lie.

Fantasizing is generally harmless and not dangerous unless some extreme mental image or plot that is conjured up is acted out; otherwise, a fantasy script is just that--fantasy. It is perfectly acceptable to let your imagination run wild, to include men, women, or both doing whatever activities suit your fancy. You can develop a script that is repeated over and over, or, you can develop several scripts and play them randomly in your head. Fantasies help make masturbating more pleasurable, can help us focus on what we are doing, the sensations we feel, and, build our level of arousal more quickly. These mental scripts are private, there is no reason to share what goes on in our head with others.

Fantasies are a figment of the imagination. You can dream up anything, do anything, without fear that by doing something in the privacy of your own mind is going to make you Gay if you are not, Heterosexual if you are not, Bi- or whatever.


BENEFITS OF MASTURBATING FOR BOY AND FOR GIRLS--

What are the effects of masturbation happening everyday for a few years including cumming?

Isn't cumming the point?

"For both boys and girls, learning to masturbate to climax helps establish the connections between the millions of sensitive nerve endings in the skin and the pleasure center in the brain. It is a natural part of our maturation. Mother Nature gives us the pleasure center in the brain, the nerve endings, and, the autonomic nervous system that transmits the signals back and forth, yet through some twist of evolution the connects are not established. Practice is how this is accomplished. Boys do this rather matter-of-factly right out of puberty while girls often begin later, if at all.

So, the main reason a girl should learn to masturbate is to transmute from a pre-orgasmic entity into an orgasmic being. It is a learned experience. It is also a conscious decision and effort. For boys, learning is pretty much an automatic activity from the beginning, and a driving force often willing us from then on. For girls, while orgasms are enjoyable, they are not the necessity they are for boys.

Other benefits to masturbating to climax are:
a) stress relief
* sexual
* emotional
* physical

b) as an aid to falling asleep

c) relieving menstrual cramps

d) strengthens the body's immune system and helps
build resistance to common infections

e) stimulates the body to release mood elevating endorphins

f) reduces yeast infections

g) strengthens the pelvic muscles

h) masturbation provides an excellent cardiovascular workout!

i) increases sexual self awareness

...and in a follow-up to the original post, noting that masturbation is also "FUN"!


CAN I INCREASE MY SIZE BY MASTURBATING--

Originally Posted by Jared

Is it true that if you masturbate alot, that your dick gets longer??

The long and the short of this is "no".
The size of your endowment is predicated upon ethnicity and genetics. You will stop growing by age nineteen or before.
The length and circumference of an erect penis will change a little based upon a person's level of arousal.
The size of a flaccid penis will change a lot based upon level of arousal and temperature; however, some flaccid penises do not shrink much from their erect size. Others shrink down considerably and might become as tiny as 1/2" at times when cold and wet such as when exiting a swimming pool, lake, etc.

What is interesting is that when a man is with his partner and there is an emotional connection between them he will generally become much more highly aroused than when home alone taking matters into his own hand. It is not at all uncommon for his penis to feel like it cannot expand any more and is about to burst. Does it become larger? Probably not, although, it will become more engorged with blood giving a person this sensation.


Enjoy!
-Doc

[wet_suit_one]

Ok lad, now that the good Doc's given you the official line, let me tell ya, nothing at all wrong about masturbating. Nothing at all. Anyone who tells you different is trying to control you and your life for no particularly good reason (and yes, that applies to your parents).

Just make sure you masturbate properly (especially as a guy) so you don't end up like me where you can't function properly during sexual intercourse.

See here: http://www.healthystrokes.com/

Somewhat heavy stuff at your age, but I would have been so much better off had someone told me, so I'm telling you. Masturbate properly!!!!

Wet One, out!

[jaketanner]

kudos to dangingdoc2 who has given a most comprehensive explanation to this topic.
(Not sure if my message belongs here - so if the admin feels it should be somewhere then please move it)

boys being boys will do 2 things - masturbate and try to get laid... it is as if they are pre-programmed that way. But the warning is that we have to learn to experiement and do it safe.

When i was younger, i tried everything. And on hindsight there are many things I would rather not have tried like using the services of a prositute for instance.

After a series of 'fun' sessions, I noticed that I had some rashes and other weird physical symptom and had myself checked for HIV. Thankfully, I did not have HIV but I had something else - another type of sexually transmitted disease. Anyway, I have fully recovered except for the skin rash which comes on and off.

To cut a long story short, I want to suggest that if you are young and curios about sex or struggling with your hormones and gets horny very easily to use this sex toy from Japan called TENGA instead. TENGA IS like sex - it is made to imitate sex. Not trying to promote this toy or anything but I just want to say to young kids out there - this is excellent alternative. I know you want to do 'it', you want to know what 'it' feels like. Then PLEASE use a TENGA for thetime being until at least till you are grown up, found someone you like, and settle down and then have sex with someone you know well.

Loosing (or ruining) your life while discovering your sexuality is NOT worth it.


Peace,
JT



PS: TENGA is pronounced as 'tank-gar'. For details please see http://tengatango.com

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[dancingdoc2]

I do not know if a minor can legally purchase this device. Be that as it may, there is an inexpensive nearly free alternative to the real deal {vagina) that most people have at home:

* Take a small plastic Ziplock bag and cut a slit along one side near the bottom just long enough for your penis to enter.

* Second, take some lubricant (commercial or other like baby oil or cooking oil) and smear it on the inside of the bag along the bottom and up to the top of the slit you cut.

* Lubricate your penis and insert it into the bag through the slit.

* Fold the bag around the shaft of your penis and then fold and wrap a hand towel over the bag in order to add bulk.

* Get on the bed and into the Missionary position. Place the bag with you in it between two pillows. An alternative is to place the bag between the two mattresses, although I like the first method better.

+ Lastly, hump away. The sensations are as close to what a person will experience by stroking and thrusting inside a real vagina. A lot of people have tried this and all reported favorable results.

Source: www.jackinworld.com

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

Having a girlfriend who lives with you, how do you people see if its right or wrong to do