ERECTION problems

[eRRy84]

Originally Posted by lovergirl4789

my boyfriend and i have been trying to have sex. he is a virgin and i am not. he has no problem getting an erection but has problems keeping it after penetration. he has told me i am very tight and that it is somewhat hard for him to enter me. i have done things to try to help him maintain or regain his erection but it is simply not working. he says its not me and he is just nervous still. what can he do to try to maintain his erection and what could i do to help him keep it or get it back and over come this problem? it is starting to really frustrate both of us. any help is appreciated!!

Tell him to do it as just something simple! the problem is that you don't practice the foreplays!

[Marvin19]

When i had sex for my first time it took me over 3 hours to cum is that normal or is there something wrong with me. she came at least 6 times, and i received oral for over 30 mins. Is there something wrong with me or is it normal.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, Marvin. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles like this thread that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.

Here are two articles I believe will help for starters:


What Can I/We Do To Prepare For First Time Intercourse?


How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

> When i had sex for my first time it took me over 3 hours to cum is that normal

Of course the answer is "no" this is not normal unless you choose to hang on that long.

QUESTION: What do you mean by "I had sex"? Are you referring to fooling around and making out ending with Foreplay, or, ending with Intercourse? Either way, the answer is the same, communication and feedback, along with showing each other what is involved in stimulating your penis or her vulva.


All too often nowadays people, especially fellas, operate under the misguided misconception that the best way to a climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking. WRONG! Intercourse should not begin until you are invited inside--AND only when you are at the brink of an orgasm brought about by other forms of stimulation. Intercourse should generally last about ten minutes or less because many women report that any longer results in becoming sore, bored, and tired. If the two of you want intercourse to last longer, take periodic breaks and return to the action.

Please do the reading and gather the additional information to add to what you already know and then put it all into practice.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[spotbeams]

I have had this problem before.Make sure you are not drinking beer or liquor.Take your time and lick her vagina deep and slow. Let her relax and get wet. While licking her vagina stroke your penis. Don't be shy about it . Open her with your other hand or ask her to hold it open while you lick her. Keep stroking yourself. When you are hard and she is open and wet? Slide up and mount her.Pull her legs up and take control of her. get your penis in her . After a few strokes, Think how hot her pussy must look with you dick going in and out. Make sure not to hurt her and go as deep as you can .

Try talking dirty to her.Think nasty things like you do when jerking off.

Take your time after you know you are firm and hard . Keep going .
Make sure she cums along with you.

Hope this helps

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by spotbeams

I have had this problem before.Make sure you are not drinking beer or liquor.

Always an excellent recommendation!

Take your time and lick her vagina deep and slow.

Just how many inches does the average person's tongue protrude beyond his lips? An inch?

Let her relax and get wet. While licking her vagina stroke your penis. Don't be shy about it .

Why not let her do the stroking? This is pretty much guaranteed to intensify the experience.

Make sure she cums along with you.

Hope this helps

If you mean that your partner climaxes at or nearly at the same time as you, then you should know that this is an impractical expectation. Simultaneous orgasms were all the rage back in the 1960's after the Sexual Revolution and they just didn't pan out. Nowadays, knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lovers strive to help our partner climax first, and last if it is her wish, and then as many times in between any two of yours as desired.

You cannot "make sure she cums..." because each of us is responsible for our own orgasms; we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

[helpmepleeeeeeeeeeeease]

after the first time me and my bf had sex i told him that it hert alittle because he had asked. then we tried haveing sex for a second time,he was all up and ready to do it but then when he tried penetrating me it all went bad. he could tell that i was in pain(its because i wasnt as ready as the first time) and he lost his erection.hes always so worried that hes herting me that he cant keep his erection.now whenever we talk about it he says that he just wants to please me and that he has very low sef asteem and cofadence now in his performence. what should i do to get the things back up for him?

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I saw you logged onto the site several hours ago and presume by that that you have been doing some reading between then and your first post, now. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions people ask about. In addition, if you click on the Site's Home page, you will find even more information.

I recommend that the two of you read these articles, beginning with those under the heading: SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE. They provide a lot of information that the two of you can use.

> the first time me and my bf had sex i told him that it hert alittle

If you were a virgin at the time, either with a partially or fully intact hymen, stretching and breaching it can cause some discomfort. How much for how long depends on the person, her tolerance for pain, the construction of the membrane, how the attempt at penetration was made. Once torn and given some time for the wound to heal, other than being dry, there should not be any more discomfort.

> we tried haveing sex for a second time,he was all up and ready to do it but then when he tried penetrating me it all went bad. he could tell that i was in pain(its because i wasnt as ready as the first time)

Making love is a partnership. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. You are responsible for taking care you you, so if you are not sufficiently aroused, either devote more time on the process and/or use a lubricant, both around the vaginal opening as well as on his penis. Intercourse should not begin unless and until you invite your partner inside, verbally or non-verbally.

> he lost his erection.hes always so worried that hes herting me that he cant keep his erection.

Losing erections is a common occurrence and nothing to be alarmed about. Two conditions often make the condition or the propensity for them, worse. First, worrying about them; second, quitting instead of pausing the proceedings for a few minutes and then going back to making out and or foreplay and rebuilding it. An erection can be lost if the man presses too much or too hard in an attempt to enter. The pressure in the root structure inside the abdomen can cause an erection to subside.

> hes always so worried that hes herting me that he cant keep his erection.now whenever we talk about it he says that he just wants to please me and that he has very low sef asteem and cofadence now in his performence. what should i do to get the things back up for him?

First, by reading the articles in the Index separately or together and then discussing what you have learned. Please let him know if he is not reading this thread, which he should also do, that there is no sense beating himself up over the problems, nor is there need to have low self esteem when all both of you need is more information. So, with that in mind, explore and learn together in partnership! OK?

As you do your reading, and when you make love, again, have some lube available for each of you to use if necessary, make sure you are adequately aroused and that your mucus is around the vaginal opening, use the Woman Superior position for the benefits discussed in having first time intercourse, and go slowly.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[markwilson419]

Nice information on Erectile Dysfunction.

[rocky4u]

Hey doc Good evening/morning.............
i jst wanna ask a question that masturebation leads to any impptency or any kind of erectile dysfunction........!!
generally its ok wid me................bt smetimes i got ejaculation very soon or smetimes very late.................i hve'nt got physicall wid an grl frm last 3 yrs.i wonder i got the chance to seduce sme grl other day may be i got losen up early.............pls help me to come out frm this fear...!!

[Brandye]

rocky,
Masturbation is safe. May I suggest that you use some form of writing that resembles English?