ERECTION problems

[XxbellaxvenomxX]

My boyfriend has no problem getting the erection, he says that I'm to tight

[stradivarius]

Hi. So..it's like this. i get really turned on by this girl when we're making out. I even get wet (pre-ejaculate). But when I try to have sex with her i have difficulties maintaing hard. I tried generic viagra once with medium results(it kinda worked but not like in the movies) but i couldn't penetrate her. She's shorter than average if that matters and although i can stick a finger into her vagina the second one enters very hard.

Bottom line.I have performance anxiety since when i masturbate and even when making out i get hard errections.She's either way too tight (i'm not sure it's possible since the vagina adapts to the penis) either i can't turn her on.
We're both virgins but she's older.Also, i don't have a large penis but it's way larger than a finger.

Sorry for the long text but i wanted to be as precise as possible.I really need help since i had troubles with the last girl i tried with and it's starting to wear my confidence off.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by XxbellaxvenomxX

My boyfriend has no problem getting the erection, he says that I'm to tight

Try doing some stretching. Sit in a bathtub partially filled with warm water and no soap or bubble bath. Insert a finger and tug against the vaginal opening holding the pressure for several moments. Then, move on to the next quadrant repeating, and work your way around. Spend about twenty minutes on the exercise. Do this ever day or two and over the course of a couple of weeks you should be able to insert two fingers. When you can, insert one from each hand and pull in opposite directions, holding the tension, and eventually working your way around. This is no quick fix although if you devote a month or so to it, you should be able to comfortably accept a penis.

Also, make sure the opening is well lubricated, either using your vaginal mucus or a commercial lubricant. Just because a person is wet does not mean the fluid is evenly distributed. You can also lubricate his penis.

[dancingdoc2]

> So..it's like this. i get really turned on by this girl when we're making out. I even get wet (pre-ejaculate). But when I try to have sex with her i have difficulties maintaing hard. I tried generic viagra once with medium results(it kinda worked but not like in the movies) but i couldn't penetrate her.

Do you live in the U.S? If so, you are foolish to buy what is a regulated medicine over the net from what may very well be a questionable source. If this is what you did then you pays you money and takes you chances.

The three ED drugs are generally never prescribed to teens or people under forty unless there is a medical need.

There can be several reasons why you are experiencing difficulty penetrating.
* Pushing against the vaginal opening and experiencing resistance causes pressure against the root structure of the penis inside the abdominal cavity and this will cause a person to lose an erection.
* If your partner is a virgin, then you should find out where the opening is located. It may be in the center of the Hymen, tho most likely it is between the edge of the membrane and the vaginal wall. This is where the tip of your penis should be positioned.

If she is a virgin, it is recommended that the two of you use the Woman Superior (Cowgirl) position as this places her in control. The benefits are explained in one of the articles listed in the Index.
* If you are worried about this that or the other (known as Performance Anxiety) then PA will cause a fella's penis to go limp or remain limp. The fix is to quite literally stop worrying. (Easier said than done, yet this is the cure.)

> She's shorter than average if that matters and although i can stick a finger into her vagina the second one enters very hard.

Asked and answered, above.

> Bottom line.I have performance anxiety since when i masturbate and even when making out i get hard errections.She's either way too tight (i'm not sure it's possible since the vagina adapts to the penis) either i can't turn her on.

Although the vaginal vault can accommodate most every penis, the actual entrance may not and for a variety of reasons.

We're both virgins but she's older.Also, i don't have a large penis but it's way larger than a finger.

Sorry for the long text but i wanted to be as precise as possible.I really need help since i had troubles with the last girl i tried with and it's starting to wear my confidence off.

Please read thru the Index found at the top of the main screen. It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people write in about. Read them more than once either together or independantly and then discuss with each other what you have learned.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[stradivarius]

I do not live in the US, but in Europe.The generic viagra was sildenafil citrate since it had effects but also the side-effects of mild headache and nasal congestion.About health risks they aren't major.I'm sure(hopefully) that after i get over this first time the confidence boost will help me get rid of anxiety, at least some of it.

I forgot to mention that i broke her hymen with my finger.I thought it was supposed to be like 8cm (3 inches) deep but it was half the distance.She bleeded but didn't hurt her as much as i expected (i expected her to scream like hell).

Being a virgin she's not really comfortable with the whole masturbation thing so i don't think she would try the vagina enlargement program.Also we don't have so much time and i'm pretty sure that if we waste more then we won't feel like it anymore.

I read a lot of info on different websites (reliable) but it's pretty much the same thing.Lots of foreplay,don't think about it too much, make sure find the hole.I was hoping for a miracle cure but there usually isn't one.

My two main problems remain performance anxiety and innability to penetrate even when hard( i tried contracting the PC muscle and holding firm at the base of the penis to prevent blood from going back).

About her vagina, it is indeed a little tighter at the entrance and i know there are bones there so i'm worried 'cause the entrance isn't adaptable.
I really like her and i'm usually picky with girls.I would really like her to be my first.

[ninja]

hey, so if i strengthen my kegel muscles will this help make my penis firmer when i have an erection? and will it help keep me erected during intercourse?

[dancingdoc2]

Asked and answered in your other post. (Please do not make duplicate posts in different forums, it is unnecessary. Use the "New Posts" link in the blue nav bar after logging in.)

[dancingkitten1245]

My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex lately. But here's the problem.
I'm more experienced than he is and really want to...but he is kind of insecure in his sexual ability. He's only had sex a few times, and not for about a year. Furthermore, every time he tried with his ex he lost his erection once he was inside her. I know he loved her and really trusted her, but I guess part of what I'm wondering is can that kind of erectile problem vary from girl to girl? What I mean by that is, could it have been a problem with her and not with me, for reasons of sexual attraction (because I know love doesn't necessarily equal chemistry)? Or if he has a problem with that is it more likely that it's always going to happen?
He never loses it in anything else we do, albeit sometimes ejaculating a bit prematurely--and whenever this happens I never get upset or laugh or anything, I always tell him it doesn't matter (which it doesn't) and try to make him feel comfortable. I want him to be comfortable enough with me to want to try it out, because the only thing stopping him right now is that he's self-conscious. And I'm more than happy to work through it with him.
Sorry that explanation was so long. Can you speak to this situation at all?

[EvilEvilKitten]

YES, men are not machines so erectile function will vary between females, between times, places, phases of the moon, mood swings (including his), stress levels, health, hydration, anxiety, - yadda yadda yadda - you get the idea.

so do The Program and Body Worship.

Kindness and consideration allied with periodic bouts of pouncing upon him should help fix his issues. The point being he's thinking about this too much. So pouncing upon him short circuits his brain and activates his more carnal functions.

[theus]

[QUOTE=dancingkitten1245;246806]?
He never loses it in anything else we do, albeit sometimes ejaculating a bit prematurely--and whenever this happens I never get upset or laugh or anything, I always tell him it doesn't matter (which it doesn't) and try to make him feel comfortable.QUOTE]

There could be many reasons for my prematurely ejaculating.. It is truly more mental than physical to withhold an ejaculation.. If he masturbates more often and refrains from ejaculation as long as possible it may help him... You should also consider your mans sex drive. If he has not ejaculated in some time it is far more difficult to with hold during sex... However sex after the first ejaculation should last longer..... Men feel a lot of pressure during sex to please their partner. You man need to help him relax and keep the eroticism as high as possilbe. This may help with his loss of erection. He also needs a boost of self confidence. Someone in a past relationship may have been very critical.... It is wonderful to here that you are so understanding and considerate.