Too Sensitive

[thefeelingoffeelingunique]

My boyfriend and I have been experimenting for a while and things are going pretty good, besides the fact that I have a very sensitive clit, but only when I'm turned on. If he touches it when I'm not very turned on, I can hardly feel it, but when I am turned on, it's too intense, even when he is being gentle. It's so intense, it's on the line between intense and painful. I get involentary body spasms and it's embarrasing. He just says I have to get used to it and is very patient and gentle. I was just wondering if this is normal and I need help. I'm sorry if this has been talked about before and I missed it...

[dastranger]

Originally Posted by thefeelingoffeelingunique

My boyfriend and I have been experimenting for a while and things are going pretty good, besides the fact that I have a very sensitive clit, but only when I'm turned on. If he touches it when I'm not very turned on, I can hardly feel it, but when I am turned on, it's too intense, even when he is being gentle. It's so intense, it's on the line between intense and painful. I get involentary body spasms and it's embarrasing. He just says I have to get used to it and is very patient and gentle. I was just wondering if this is normal and I need help. I'm sorry if this has been talked about before and I missed it...

This is completely normal. Just take things slowly and lead him to more indirect contact on your clitoris. Many women find direct stimulation on the clitoris too intense and (for some) downright painful.

[dancingdoc2]

Have him use the indirect approach. Fold the labia over the clitoris and massage it through them.

Another alternative is to tug, rub, and massage one of the labia and have these actions stimulate the clitoris indirectly in this manner.

[Brandye]

You are quite normal. So, regrettably, is your boyfriend. Many women have the extremes in sesitivity between when their clitoris is safely tucked under the hood and when it is engorged and standing proud. Young men typically treat stimulation of the clitoris as they want their penis stimulated. That is usually too intense for the clitoris.

The next time they become confused is when the clitoris retracts. As a woman nears orgasm, the clitoris remains engorged but actually retracts into the body to protect itself from over stimulation. At this point, men too often dig deeper and that is enough to turn any of us off.

Doc is right on. Gently guide him to less direct stimulation and then teach him to maintain his pressure and movement allowing you to adjust to what you need at the moment.

[megzpicky]

it is very normal. i have the same problem. he just need to be very gentle and i think that you will eventually feel better and it wont be so painful. hang in there girl theres nothing wrong with ya.