making a move!!

[macka_123]

i have been getting to know this girl pretty well over the last couple of weeks, we hooked up at a party like a month ago but we were both smashed and didn't remeber much...we just kissed for a bit. now it was my first real expieriance with a girl but its no biggie, the thing that worries me is that at other parties she has been sending me signs but i always freak out and never follow through, like won't kiss her again...

most recently, i was at her house watchin a movie with her, in her bed, another of our friends was also there but she was asleep, i wanted to do something but i just got nervous and didnt know wat to do....anyone help please

also is it wierd to get an erection from hugging, and also i got one from a peck on the lips i got from my old crush, i mean i know these things don't lead to sex, any suggestions on keeping him at bay for a bit longer

[oedipussy]

None of us can help you with making a move. You just have to grow some balls and do it...

No, getting erections from little things like that is not weird, and no, you can't do anything to stop it.

[macka_123]

hahahaha, yeah alot of my friends have suggested i grow some balls....its hard though, i just keep thinkin what if i just think she wants me to do sumthing but really she doesn't, rejection and awkward moments i hate them!!!

[Parka]

You could just ask her if you want to mess around or something.
But seriously, grow some balls, and try to kiss her, if she shoves you off or something, be like "sorry, i really like you" or something of the sort.

[Ducy]

Erection from hugging? Egads What is wrong with you man? lol just kidding. No worries. I mean heck I used to get erections from having a girl play with the hair on the back of my neck, or running her hand on my cheek. lol.

You want to know the secret to growing balls? Make it seem like your just joking around. I mean I always was shy as hell, but somehow I managed to muster up the courage to ask this amazing girl to be my valentine.

Rather than get nervous, and and stutter or lose my juevos, I used my nervousness to be a bit playful, and a slight bit gigly/smiley. It worked, she even said she was a bit surprised that I had the courage to actually ask her...little did she know lol.

Just be playful, and keep it light, take the lead at first, and then just follow her. If she wants more, i doubt she will be upset if you start to move your hands around and stuff.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by oedipussy

None of us can help you with making a move. You just have to grow some balls and do it...

No, getting erections from little things like that is not weird, and no, you can't do anything to stop it.

This is a bit curt and also harsh. This is like saying I don't know how to drive a car, so take the plunge and just do it. Oedi, you've been around awhile, you could have been this fellas real benefactor by suggesting the following Sticky posts, after recommending that if they are sitting together, they cuddle, he put his arm around her, and then......


KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION

Chapter Three: (Scroll down until you get to this chapter.)
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST

Macka, in time you will want to do more. When that time comes, read some of the other articles that are listed in the Index:

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

There is much more information in these articles than you may be ready for. That's OK. How fast and how soon you move is based upon your comfort level, her's, how secure she feels, and, how long the two of you have been sexually active--meaning making out. Please read the information on "Implied Consent". This is explained at the end of Chapter Three.

> also is it wierd to get an erection from hugging, and also i got one from a peck on the lips i got from my old crush, i mean i know these things don't lead to sex, any suggestions on keeping him at bay for a bit longer

From the onset of puberty to well into a person's forties, we suffer from a perpetual condition known as "Spontaneous Erections" in which our penis seems to have a mind and will of its own. We get erections many times during the day and sometimes at the most in opportune times. Not to worry, these erections are quite normal and every guy on the planet has experienced them and every boy coming up through puberty will. These are triggered by all sorts of sensory inputs, for example:
* provocative ads in clothing catalogs
* store manequin
* passing an attractive person on the street or in the mall
* other sights
* smells
* touch
* being in close proximity to someone
* thoughts
* fantasies

One way of hiding an erection is to orient your penis vertically and positioning it under the fly of your pants. Just reach in a front pocket and move it around when no one is looking.

I hope this is of help. Got questions??

[macka_123]

cheers ducy and dancingdoc2, really helpful, i appreciate you being able to neglect my condition of not having any balls and giving me helpful advice....just hope i don't chicken out again next time

[THQMA5]

im not sure if its on what dancing doc gave ya but a good old massage is realy good, loads of girls want one from me ^^. But try and work in little other things.

[TheChad]

I think its obvious she likes you.... during the movie you should have just gently turned her head and kissed her..... she wants you to.

[macka_123]

yeah, well that was the second time she invited me over that day, but its hard to know whether thats just the way they are cause i dunno, i've only ever been really good mates with girlsso i'm not used to doin this ****...

massage is a good idea, even if its just a little tickle on the back to start off with....another thing is she was lyin on her side but her back was to me, that confussed me

woke up during the night and her face was really close to mine and her hand was on my leg very close to my crouch...i am an idiot hey