First Time Problems

[Jude]

I am unable to make my girlfriend orgasm through fingering. I can not find her clit and she is not even sure where it is. Any help would be appreciated, as I want to make her feel as good as she makes me feel.
Thanks in advance!

[sera300]

Start here for a "look" this is not an anatomy book; however, many sites on-line contain porn & I am not looking to be spammed! You can follow more professional information on a Google search, look under anatomy pictures. This is not a peer journal but will suit your purpose for now:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulva

Look together, do some research and have her locate it first on her own. Have her try to orgasm when she does find it, show you how, and you follow what she does. Then try variations.

[Jude]

Hmm, I think I may have found it, however she seems to feel as if she is being tickled when touched. Has anyone heard of this before? Thank you for all the help

[Brandye]

You both need knowledge. She needs to learn where her various parts are and she needs to teach you. Try the Planned Parenthood site; clitical.com and put in "sex education" and see what all you can find.

Do not plan to attack that clitoris the way you do your penis. Women are not only shapes differently from you, they respond quite differently as well.

[dancingdoc2]

> I can not find her clit and she is not even sure where it is.

It is located just below the junction of the two inner labia (lips). Trace along one or the other with your fingers and you will find it. You can also slip one or two fingers down along the folds of the upper vulva to the juncture feeling for a small mound. Third, have a look.

> I am unable to make my girlfriend orgasm through fingering.

You cannot. We do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve his/her own. The two of you should read through the articles listed in the Index, specifically these:


The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

Female Sexual Response

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

> I want to make her feel as good as she makes me feel.

Great! Please keep in mind that communication, and, providing each other feedback on what we may need--now, are keys to a successful relationship as well as the romantic aspect. Making love is not what we do to our partner, rather, what we do with an for them. The two of you should feel free to explore and learn together, and not become hung up on performing flawlessly. Perfection comes with practice and experience.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[Jude]

Well, I finally found the clit thanks to you guys No orgasm, but that may be because she has never orgasmed before, or masturbated much. It will take time, im sure it will come.

[dancingdoc2]

The answer to your musings are in the articles I provided links to. Rather than wonder out loud in this thread, why not read the information that has already been provided? Both of you need to read them.