Sexual Vibes

[Ephemera]

When people begin having sex with each other they're obviously not 100% on the same vibe, i.e., it takes getting used to with every new person.

I've also heard that many people are disappointed with sex the first ten or so times they have it. How many of you have experienced this?

I'm asking because I've only had sex five times, and it's been great, but not as earth shattering as some people have made it out to be. Hm. I hope good things come in time.

I guess, after so much build up, I'm just not satisfied with what sex is now.

[Ducy]

Im experienceing the same problem ephemera. I think it is because sex is so built up in a teens mind that they expect it to be amazing. but in reality they put such high expectations and so much stress on it feeling good that it numbs the feeling. its just something you have to get used to, and the more you do it the better it feels. I remember when oral wasnt too great to me and now that ive gotten used to it its like OMG

[Brandye]

Wonder how your g/f feels about it.

[Ephemera]

Ducy, I suppose a lot of it is just getting used to being a sexual person, and not focusing on that.

Brandye, I wonder how you feel about it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The vast majority of people have no idea what great sex is and/or how amazingly overwhelming it can be. I am talking "two tigers rolling around together with Vaseline" sex. This is why I wrote a book on it. This is also what my men learn - they become dangerously good at it.

Essentials = liking yourself, accepting your sexuality, generally loving your target gender (I, for example, absolutely adore men - in general), being willing to spend time and effort, and finally, being OPEN to your partner(s).

After that, and within the presence of 'chemistry', all else is mechanics tailored to fit your particular partner with the occasional variances in style to keep things interesting.

[DruityLoops]

the first time i had sex i wasnt disappointed because i went into having no expections cause you cant expect your first time to be all eath-shattering like in the movies. we have pretty good chemistry so after a few times it was easy to pick up on what the other one liked and how to make each other feel good

[cjb1981]

My first time was terrible. I had no idea what I was doing and the woman that I was with wasn't much help either, even though she had a lot of experience. But I'm not really complaining, I ended up learning so much. The second time I had sex was much better, not great but good. It's gotten better ever sense.

[sera300]

As they say practice makes perfect and perfect pratice makes for perfection...or something like that!

[Ephemera]

Yes, it gets better in time, I'm discovering.

Having sex regularly is a strange thing! I like it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Don't act like I haven't been telling you this for months now!