Both Of Us Are Virgins & Ready

[YoungLover]

Hi,I dont wish to state all my info because you never know whos reading,could be my mom ><. But I am a 16 year old young man and my girlfriend is 15.We have been together a short 4 months but have already determined that we love each other deeply.

We both are virgins and would like our first time to be with one another and no one else. I believe I am ready but at the same time I dont know If ill be able to do it like she pleases. Another problem is,we cant seem to find the time and place to do it.

We have engaged in oral sex with one another several times and managed to pull our pants down with and rub our bodies against once another but there has never been any penetration with us.

Where ever we are there is some type of suprversion lurking in the shadows,there have been opportunities when we could have had sex but we did not want to because we want our first time to be comfortable and memorable.

Where can we go to have sex without problems and how will I be able to perform well on our first time.

Any replies or comment will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!!

[Brandye]

And the following day, you will each go into a panic over the possibility of pregnancy. Each of you please read the sticky "Am I Ready?" Discuss what you each know about preventing pregnancy and insure that everything is available and you know how to use it. If you cannot even figure out where and when, I doubt that you can handle the emotional stresses that accompany sex.

Finally, get some friends to play the roles of your parents and practice saying, "Mum, I am pregnant." "Dad, She is pregnant to me."

She should know that once she becomes sexually active, she will fret, to the point of tears, every period that is so much as a day late.

[Ducy]

haha oh man Im going through the exact thing brandye...not extremely distraught or anything. but still just a bit nervous. strangely my girlfriend seems fine. young it will be tough since you guys are so young and i doubt either of you drive...Im 17 so i drove over to my girlfriends when her mom went away for the weekend. dont stress so much about performance because you honestly will never know what whill happen until you try. I was worried about being done in a few seconds like so many people i know. But in reality i went too long. not that my girlfriend complained but still. I thought id go to fast, not too long.

Another addition to brandye, do you think you can actually face the people when you buy condoms? You have to have the nerve to go up and buy the condoms....and if you cant do that then your probably not mature enough either.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by YoungLover

Hi,I dont wish to state all my info because you never know whos reading,could be my mom ><.

Possibly, yet when you consider that our community consists of people from most of the free world, it is very unlikely you would be recognized by anybody you know. You are not the only 16 y/o w/a 15 y/o g/f participating on this site.

Speaking of which. WELCOME. Have you read the Board Notices and Index forums?

I am a 16 year old young man and my girlfriend is 15.We have been together a short 4 months but have already determined that we love each other deeply.

We both are virgins and would like our first time to be with one another and no one else. I believe I am ready but at the same time I dont know If ill be able to do it like she pleases. Another problem is,we cant seem to find the time and place to do it.

Here are some facts to consider:
* More than likely she, like you, has a mental picture of how your first time should go. Usually that picture has unrealistic expectations. Why? Simply because when we learn something new, it takes practice to become proficient. How long did it take you to ride a bicycle before you stopped wobbling and falling and then felt comfortable peddling from point A to B?

* Please read the article on Experience. It lays it all out and should belay your fears.

* You may be ready, however, is your girlfriend? Please follow Brandye's recommendation and have her read the "Am I Ready..." article. You should, also.

* Do you have a drivers license and access to a vehicle? No? Then I understand why you have limited options and resources.

We have engaged in oral sex with one another several times and managed to pull our pants down with and rub our bodies against once another but there has never been any penetration with us.

I think you wrote this backwards.

* Just what did you rub where? This can be quite dangerous because if your penis was anywhere near her vagina, then she could become pregnant from the mixing of your precum and her mucus. That said, have you shopped for condoms? Have you selected the proper size? Have you practiced applying them and rolling them off?

* Is she on the pill or patch? If not, has she shopped for a spermicide to use along with the condom? If not, why not?

* So called "dry humping" is not safe if you are nude. In addition to what I mentioned, above, is the fact that if you two get carried away and you ejaculate while your penis is anywhere down there, then the chances are very good that the semen will either run into her vagina and/or mix with her mucus. Either way, you are playing Russian Roulette only with a fully loaded cannon!

Where ever we are there is some type of suprversion lurking in the shadows,there have been opportunities when we could have had sex but we did not want to because we want our first time to be comfortable and memorable.

Where can we go to have sex without problems and how will I be able to perform well on our first time.

Use your imaginations. This as with anything that might follow, put your heads together before any other two parts. You will find the time and place.

As for your concerns about performing--

* Read the relevant articles listed in the Index. You will find tips and techniques for making out, Birth Control, and a whole bunch of other necessary and useful information that you have not thought about.

* As for contraceptives, do not have intercourse unless and until the two of you both use them. Never ever rely upon just one. Kids your age are more prone to becoming pregnant than at any other time and you simply must each take care of #1.

[Ephemera]

Practice putting on condoms.

You'll feel retarded when the time comes if you don't.

Let her practice how to put them on, too. It's a useful skill for anyone.

[lilashleyashton]

Hey go for it, I don't want to post a lot here because like you said you never know who is reading this. Message me on yahoo at lilashleyashton@yahoo.com and we can chat about it. okay?

[Brandye]

And how is that messaging less identifiable than posting her? That request is a big red flag to me.

[dancingdoc2]

NEVER never ever give out your E-mail address. That is why the site provides IM as well as ways to communicate via Yahoo, etc.

[cjb1981]

Originally Posted by lilashleyashton

Hey go for it, I don't want to post a lot here because like you said you never know who is reading this. Message me on yahoo at lilashleyashton@yahoo.com and we can chat about it. okay?

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

NEVER never ever give out your E-mail address. That is why the site provides IM as well as ways to communicate via Yahoo, etc.

The Doc is right, you need to be careful with that. You should also come up with a new log in name. Giving out a real name isn't smart at all! Whether it's your full name or not, giving any personal info is VERY DANGEROUS! There is no screening for members in this forum, not to mention the fact that just anyone can look through the threads. Be more careful.

[oedipussy]

OK, this one's not too hard to figure out... Brandye picked up on it. Lilashley is not actually little, nor is she an Ashley - "she's" a big John looking to get his rocks off by pretending to be a young girl. Probably figures some young boy is going to be interested in e-mailing what he thinks is a girl around his own age, and all of the sudden that chat turns into a "wanna meet me in person?" scenario.

Gotta give those online predators some points for learning from Dateline and trying to be creative.

OK, so what was the original question again? Something about virgins having sex?

4 months? Is that really enough time to determine that you love each other deeply? Obviously no one on here is going to change your mind about it, but think about that for a minute.

As far as finding a time and a place to do it - with all of that supervision breathing down your neck, I assume that both of your homes are out of the question. So that leaves: Abandoned buildings, secluded areas of the park/woods, gas station restrooms, etc. Sorry, but I don't think you're in the position to be choosy and romantic unless you feel like waiting until you are no longer your parents' property.

Honestly from your post it really doesn't sound like you're ready to me, but do what you feel is right. I'm of the opinion that getting the first time over with as soon as possible is the way to go because, as EEK would say, virginity is a handicap. But it seems like things are going against the both of you having sex at the moment...