Stamina of the Gods or just lack of experience?

[SilentPoet]

I just recently started having sex with my long time girlfriend. She and I have engaged in oral and manual sex for quite some time before finally deciding to take the big plunge. The trouble is, I seem to have the an ungodly stamina for sex. It usually takes somewhere between 45 minutes to 2 hours to get me to orgasm with oral sex and let's face it, that's enough to make anyone's jaw cramp. Unfortunately, this to applies to manual sex and even sexual intercourse. (Even masterbation takes a long time).

I promise that my girlfriend is no slacker in the bedroom; she has tried nearly every conceivable technique to get me to orgasm faster but alas, this has been to no avail. She was certain that sex would provide us with a much easier way of both achieving climax, but my stamina persists.

We've had sex a few times and while she has reached orgasm, after nearly exhausting ourselves, neither of us could make it happen for me.

To be honest, I am worried that this is a pattern that will continue on into infinity. Are there any suggestions that can help us both out here?

[dancingdoc2]

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[sera300]

I tend to say she is not stimulating you the way you are accustomed to. Can you orgasm through masturbation with ease? That is the key part. A woman's touch is much more gentle and not what you are used to. Look at what Doc recommends, an hour or more of oral makes your lips sore, LOL!!!

Try following more of the techniques you use when you masturbated. Also, the more you worry, the more difficult it will be for you! Although it's a problem for you; I vote for sex God!

[arutha]

Yeah read the stickies as doc suggested, they will provide you pretty much with the info you need.

Try doing doggie style, I always find that makes me orgasm heaps quicker. Oral and hand can take a fair bit of practice for it to get you to come, since as mentioned what she does is a lot different to what you are used to. But it shouldn't take ages during sex.

[demonbuttercup]

One position that my b/f can't last very long in is me laying on my stomach w/ my legs slightly apart...have him enter me from behind (like stradling my thighs)...then I close my legs together tight.

He is usually able to control his timing but he says this feels TOO good!

Kind of like this one
but the girls legs are together.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, he said it takes him a long time to orgasm even with masturbation - so with him it is a sensitivity issue.

Things to try:

1. focus your mindset on climaxing - the "payoff"
2. relax - as odd as it may sound - you may NOT be permitting yourself to orgasm
3. do NOT masturbate
4. have your lady perform the techinques explained at www.wickedwomangroup.us on you until you are BEGGING for her to touch your genitals
5. medical help (i.e. Viagra and Sudafed) after a urologist has examined you.

[Browser]

Try using lube?

[SilentPoet]

Well, thank you everyone for your advice but an unforseen solution finally presented itself. As I said in my first post, both my girlfriend and I are new to sex. So, neither of us knew which condoms to buy. As it turns out, the problem was size. The normal sized ones were just too small, cutting off circulation that is necessary to get blood to the sensitive parts. So, after trying a size larger, we achieved much greater success. So, let that be my piece of advice to anyone who may not be having as much success with sex as they think they should. Try a bigger condom size. Thanks again everyone.