HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

[KMB]

Last night I talked to him and he didn't seem to want to talk about what I felt all he was talking about was on his life I mean I don't mind listening to his problems but I want him to make me feel better.

I also said I wanted to call him today only he said he wasn't sure he would have the time

I have a feeling I have to end this for a while till he is mature enough to have a relationship with me.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by KMB

Last night I talked to him and he didn't seem to want to talk about what I felt all he was talking about was on his life I mean I don't mind listening to his problems but I want him to make me feel better.

I also said I wanted to call him today only he said he wasn't sure he would have the time

I have a feeling I have to end this for a while till he is mature enough to have a relationship with me.

Back off and back away from him. Find other things to do; hang out with friends etc. And don't be so fast to return his calls. Just slow it all down and keep occupied! Do not "offer to call" let him find you if he is interested. Don't set yourself up for rejection.

[samyj2]

my boyfriend has been in 2 long very sexual relationships and is much more experienced than me.
ive only done it once, and that was with him,
we both love eachother heaps but i dont want to dissapoint him.
im scared to have sex again with him.
help?

[uncreativename]

it really shouldn't matter..i've been one to worry about this..but it's fine. don't be put off, be confident, ask if you're very inexperienced and trust in your partner..the fact you're being so intimate means you should have a basis for trust..don't worry about comparisons because they don't matter, it's about enjoying the moment, getting lost in it and not analysing things too much.

[dancingdoc2]

samyj2, welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Did you read the opening article to this thread or just jump in with your comments and concerns? It sounds like you did not read the article or if you did that you learned nothing. Either way, please go to the link and scroll down through the various chapters until you get to the one addressing the matter of experience.

I wrote it just for the two of you, and, several of your new found friends here. While at it, please read the other articles listed in the Index.

[eagerformore]

Okay, I am in a partial internal dilemma. My boyfriend and I previously dated for a year and 7 months. We were each others firsts, in everything. Our relationship eventually ended and we went our separate ways. Soon after he got involved with another girl and they dated for 9 months. I tried dating other guys but wasn't really interested and lived up the single life.

About 3 months ago he professed his still existing feelings for me and his unhappiness with his new girlfriend. He and the new girl broke up and after much discussion and getting to know one another again, we began dating again about a month ago. He told me that they had had sex, he took her virginity and he felt bad about it, especially for breaking up with her so soon after doing so. I can understand why he'd feel bad but sometimes it just bothers me that he was intimate with another girl while during the 11 months we weren't together, the most I did was kiss another guy.

Am I being paranoid and improperly jealous or is that relatively normal?!

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Your feelings are normal for many, not paranoid, yet without basis or foundation. Get beyond it and concentrate on the now.

[playaadam30]

honestly every guy is nervous their first time, honestly my first time i made the error in judgement to not wear a condom, and thank god i didnt get the girl pregnant, but anyway if your with a girl who isnt a total bitch, u will be fine and u will get better the more u do it

[dancingdoc2]

Let's not have the attitude or the derogatory reference; otherwise, I agree with the message that could have been stated more politely.

[newchris101]

I have a connundrum. i dont know what to think about my current girlfriend. i really do love her but i dont tell her and im almost positive sex is coming soon but she has had sex before and it really truly bothers me. when i asked for sex she flipped and cried and said that it was too soon.

Im glad she told me all of this. but i know once u have it u want it still no matter what you say. i just dont know what to do. i just want to know if shes always thinking of her firtst.