HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

[KMB]

Me and my boyfriend are both virgins only I'm more excited then he is about having sex.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by KMB

Me and my boyfriend are both virgins only I'm more excited then he is about having sex.

KMB: Have you thought about why that may be? I see a red flag...

[KMB]

I worry that it's something not good, but he did say he wants to have sex with me not too many nights ago.

He is only 16 though.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by KMB

I worry that it's something not good, but he did say he wants to have sex with me not too many nights ago.

He is only 16 though.

Yes, he does it can be: 1- his fear of performance since you appear to be preparing.

2-A) Sex B)Love C)Kids D)Marriage are not mutually inclusive they can be but they can individually be mutually exclusive A-D in any combination.

He has made it clear no kids, overtly stating he is not willing to settle down yet you are both too young. I fear you are going into this with high expectations and will be hurt in the end. If you are in love & want to be sexual fine. But leave all other expectations & thoughts a side.

He may feel pressure that once he makes the leap to sex; you shall wish for more from him then he is willing/capable to give.

[KMB]

I think I understand what you are saying.

I shouldn't push him into sex too much or I should find someone else

I think it's me growing into a woman thinking and wanting to have sex maybe kids, it's very hard to make up my mind at this age it gets confussing and kind of maddning.

I feel so ready.

I can wait for him I love him that much it would hurt to make a mistake and to loose him.

[sera300]

I think he is wondering if he does go through with it he feels you want to trap him into the whole kids & marriage. If he is the one you wish to be with sexually & love and he feels the same; have no expectations of marriage or kids with him...it's too soon. He may believe you will have a full life expectation of him when in fact he is not certain he wants that at this time in his life. He may feel that as emotional pressure.

Realize (realistically not idealistically) the chances of you & he getting all 4 of the subsets is minimal. And realistically, you will have more men in your life over time.

Men play until they determine the time they want to settle down & at that time they re-think the kids aspect. However, it's generally not for many years. Remember biology is driving you and your thoughts. This is typical in women, men wish to sow their oats...

[KMB]

ok, I have been wondering why he was all over me. Now I will do everything I can to have him although don't want to do anything wrong.

I guess kids and Marriage is worth a wait for sure.

Although I was a little nervous on having kids.

Also today I was a little upset on something,

I was crying cause I can't help but think if he cheated on me.

I feel like I'm too hard on him also. I really love him and he's sweet enough to stay with me for now but I worry my behavior on him talking or hugging other girls will shove him away.

so I might back off on the marriage and children

[sera300]

I doubt he is cheating. I think he has fears and may be with drawling. You both need to talk openly about expectations and clarify the way you feel and listen to him.

I doubt you are pushing him into it rather he fears what you expect from the ordeal. He also may fear he will hurt you despite wanting to be with you--he knows what you want & knows he cannot be that right now.

Talk...best form of a good relationship & be friends. Let the rest follow love, sex and when appropriate marriage & kids follow with the most correct person for you

[KMB]

I will try but I know he will listen I won't force him just talk to him how the future will be.

Thanks sooo much for your help

[sera300]

Originally Posted by KMB

I will try but I know he will listen I won't force him just talk to him how the future will be.

Thanks sooo much for your help

Not a problem...any time!