Birth Control Failure Rates

[pinkFlames]

Just overkill and paranoia to me.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Well, if you don't respect yourself enough to care for yourself why should he respect you, pink?
After all, eiher you matter or you don't.

[xfiendfyre]

I’m sorry, but I might have not explained it adequately. My problem is that I, as the female of the relationship, absolutely HATE condoms. My man is fine with them, but I myself just can’t STAND them! They really dull my sensations. We've tried different kinds of condoms and he really tries to make me happy, but I just really can't feel much when he has one on. The one time we had sex without one, it felt amazing. I feel that not using one is the only way that I can feel the pleasure, too. He is definitely not too chicken to wear a condom; he understands the burden of BC and I couldn't ask for a more caring and sweet partner. He even comes with me to get my refils at the clinc I'm not under any pressure to do anything I don't want to do-I just want to find a way for me to be able to feel the pleasure every time, as well.

Brandye, thank you so much for your input. I feel much more at ease. I just wanted to make sure that I was not missing any facts before I decide to do anything. I know there is always a chance of pregancy no matter what the precatuions, and that is why I waited to become active with someone who I know is responsible and will stay by my side in the event of an unexpected pregnancy.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Have you read the three articles The Program, Body Worship, and The Four Hotspots?

If not, then I strongly encourage you to do so.

[xfiendfyre]

Yes, I have already done a LOT of research on the topic. That's why I came to this website in the first place, as well as countless others. I'm always open to new things that might help. We're still getting the hang of it since we are both pretty new to sex (so of course that's a contributinng factor), which is why we're experimenting & trying new things that might help me. It's just that so far, sex without a condom has been the only thing that greatly improves my sensation. I'm still going to try to find a different solution, but so far, there's been little luck with that.

Anyway, I am getting this thread way off topic, sorry about that :P

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, but since the vagina does not actually have any nerve endings in it (what you feel is pressure on adjacent tissues)...the problem may not actually be the CONDOM.

<--trying to be 'nice' here - work with me.


And I am not at all new to sex - far from it!

[pinkFlames]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Well, if you don't respect yourself enough to care for yourself why should he respect you, pink?
After all, eiher you matter or you don't.

Who in my relationship is lacking respect? There's a lot more to respect than who provides the birth control.

PS. He's the one booked in for the "snip" because he thinks he's too old for kids. His body, his choice. Maybe I should continue to fill my body with hormones out of respect for him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

It isn't about the possibility of being pregnant - it is why is he such a weenie that he'll let you do all of the work regarding safe sex by NOT wearing a condom?

If he's not married to you then he should be wearing a condom.
This applies to everyone; not just to pink.

[pinkFlames]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

It isn't about the possibility of being pregnant - it is why is he such a weenie that he'll let you do all of the work regarding safe sex by NOT wearing a condom?

If he's not married to you then he should be wearing a condom.
This applies to everyone; not just to pink.

...and if he's married, he can still cheat and bring home the HIV to share with his loving family. Why not insist EVERYONE uses a condom, FULL STOP.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Because if he's "cheating" then he's wearing a condom so he cannot bring home HIV/AIDS - stop it.