HELP - Can't get it in

[xxx69virgin]

I had sex, well tried to, for the first time last week. the problem was that although his penis was at the opening of my vagina, it wouldn't actually go in, even whenn we pushed really hard and in loads of different positions. I was expecting it to be a little sore on my first time but i thought it would at least go in. is this normal? what should i do?

[sera300]

Lye on your back on the edge of the bed (legs up), have him stand and put his penis at the vaginal opening...have him keep his hand on it and guide it in slowly...it takes time it does not just happen.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If it is your first time, you have a hymen to get through - use lube as well.

[Vper]

if your hymen is intact either take it slow, use lots of lube, or break your hymen first using his/your fingers during masturbation. if your hymen has already broken you probably just need to relax and lube up.

[dancingdoc2]

> you probably just need to relax and lube up.

Yup! Even if you are wet, the lube is for his penis.

If you have a hymen, you can break it as suggested, or, what I recommend is that you do some stretching while sitting a the bathtub or standing in the shower. The warm water will help soften the skin and you can stretch both the opening and the hymen if necessary. Just tug in one direction and hold the pressure for a while, then move on to the next quadrant, repeating, all the way around for the opening. For the hymen, just tug against it. These exercises should be done at least once a day over the course of a week or so. You should be able at the end to insert two fingers into the opening.

[wingkBrian]

Well first times may be a lil rough for a lay man's perpective like me in the past. My suggestion is to use YOUR hand to guide it in after you have relaxed yourself entirely, and stay relaxed throughout the whole process of making out - this helps both of you before and after his dicky is inserted (he might feel his dicky too pressured after inserted, and you might feel pain due to the intensed muscles inside your vagina). There's this product called Durex Pleasure Enhancing Lubricant you can try. Maybe you were not wet enough. That's why things gets rough. Cheers!