For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

[that1]

i have a question,...now i have read the thread and all of the reply's...but i am still unsure... my GF and I are both new to sex, she has never had contact with her vagina, i am the first person to touch and see it. We do alot of foreplay... (because it causes her ALOT of pain for me to put "it" in her)... and i cant seem to get her to have an orgasm.... she gets damn well close..(i think) but she just stops wen i think she is almost there. I don't understand why this occurs. I know she has never had sex let alone been touched until now, and she doesn't masturbate. maybe she is just to new to this???? i am so confused!! please message me thank you


ps. i love this site so helpful :]

[dancingdoc2]

> i have a question,...now i have read the thread and all of the reply's...but i am still unsure...

> my GF and I are both new to sex, she has never had contact with her vagina, i am the first person to touch and see it. We do alot of foreplay... (because it causes her ALOT of pain for me to put "it" in her)...

Please read this thread:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/dati...tml#post179898

> and i cant seem to get her to have an orgasm....

Asked and answered, above.

> she gets damn well close..(i think) but she just stops wen i think she is almost there. I don't understand why this occurs.

Asked and answered. Please reread the last paragraph in the Sticky post.

In addition, the two of you should read this Sticky:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

> I know she has never had sex let alone been touched until now, and she doesn't masturbate.

Asked and answered as to why she must learn in the link, above.

> maybe she is just to new to this???? i am so confused!!

Yeeaa. I suggest that the two of you read the information contained in this link, either together or separately. Both of you and she especially needs much more information.

One Stop Shopping--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

Your questions and concerns are very good ones. Please do not think that my reply is in any way being critical of you, just a heads up that both of you can benefit greatly from doing some reading. Please do, after which, if you have additional questions or concerns, feel free to ask.

[eminatic]

ah, i've read this thread and tried said advice countless times...i have never been able to orgasm...alone or with a partner

[dancingdoc2]

Enimatic, have you read this Sticky post?

The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

[eminatic]

yes, i have.
the problem i have is that absolutely nothing feels good as far as clitoral stimulation goes-i usually feel nothing at all (though i am going to try a vibrator in the next week or so)

penetration feels good and i often feel like i am very close but for some reason i feel like i just can't "let go"

[sera300]

Originally Posted by eminatic

yes, i have.
the problem i have is that absolutely nothing feels good as far as clitoral stimulation goes-i usually feel nothing at all (though i am going to try a vibrator in the next week or so)

penetration feels good and i often feel like i am very close but for some reason i feel like i just can't "let go"

Have you tried any of the clitoral stim gels such as "O" my (I think that's the name) found on bettersex.com? Might be worth a shot.

[marija2m2]

i can orgazim alone or rubbing against my parnter with clothes on but
when we have sex he has minimum contact wiht my clitorix
and I love the feeling but i cant have an orgazim
so i think i will start touching myslef while we are having sex
since this is making me mad that he has orgazims
and i dont

[atomic]

Originally Posted by justjoan

I've never achieved an orgasim while he's inside me. How does one achieve this? And, how does one achieve multiple orgasims when they can't even achieve one?

The only way I can orgasm is through clitoral stimulation, but I can get pretty warmed up through oral and I love feeling him inside of me. So I combine all 3 - after foreplay and even after he has come or we have just been enjoying having sex, he will go down on me until I feel close, and then I will continue with manual stimulation until I am even closer and then allow him to enter me and slowly start thrusting while I continue rubbing until I come.

I haven't had sex enough times to be a guru on things, but as I am still learning, this has been the best way for us to enjoy sharing my orgasm in the closest way possible

[pinkblonde49]

thank u websitee!! i read and did exactly what u said to do...and i have never had...such an errotic experience in my life. 6 orgasms in 1 night. and 1 of those were in the shower. i learned soo much about my body. u were so right

[Ashley101]

Ok, now I have a question. I have been masturbating for years now and I can make myself orgasm through rubbing only. I dont ever finger myself because whenever I've tried, I feel no sensations in my vagina and focus on the ones in my finger and i get no pleasure from it. When I'm having sex with my boyfriend it feels good but I have NEVER orgasmed through intercourse. I think what I feel when I'm playing with myself is ALL clitoral stimulation resulting in a clitoral orgasm. Should I practice inserting fingers and TRY to get it to feel pleasureable? Because when I'm having sex my clit doesnt get stimulated so I feel like I need to try and make myself orasm through vaginal stimulation.

I just want to orgasm! It's been bothering me and I KNOW it has been bothering my boyfriend too. Please help me.