Can't turn him on

[Ginny_in_a_bottle]

my bf and i have been going out for a year now! he really turns me on and i get really horny when i think about us doing stuff! the problem is i feel like i cant turn him on/he doesnt get turned on by me! my biggest turn on is feeling desired and knowing the fact that he wants me really bad but it always seems like im the one begging for a kiss or some action and he never seems to!!i really wish he did!!im very frustrted about this because i feel like there is something wrong with me!! i iwsh i knew waht to do...!please help!

[Howard.moe]

Welcome to the boards!

let me start off this reply by saying that there is nothing wrong with you. by saying that he doesn't get turned on, are you saying that he doesn't get an erection? if this is the case, there could be a number of answers (the last of which would be him not wanting you).

for example, is he a virgin? if he is, then lack of an erection could be considered somewhat normal. many men get what is loosely referred to as "performance anxiety", in which the pressures of sex may be overwhelming to him and he may be afraid that he won't please you or live up to your expectations.

the best advice I can give you is to talk with him about it. couples should be able to share things like this with eachother without feeling embarassed or insecure.

finally, the last thing he needs if there is a problem with anxiety is more pressure. he may already putting enough pressure on himself.

hope I was helpful

[sexxxlove]

Try backing away and letting him come to you, hard I know. I was always really shy so my boyfriend was always the one starting things (for the last year). Finally he just backed off and let it go like I didn't want it and I jumped him the first chance I got. Or just ask him to start it. Some guys like being told exactly what to do.

Good Luck!