Am I still a virgin?

[ductapefaerie]

My boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly two years, and we are very much in love, but neither of us wants to have sex till marriage, or at least till we're 18...but we were/are both ready...and while messing around the other day, we kinda...slipped it in...and started to have sex, but we stopped pretty quickly...he didn't come or anything...but does that mean that I'm a virgin, or not? I've heard that you're still a virgin till one of you have come while having sex, and I've heard that you're still a virgin till you've been penetrated. I'm just kind of confused on what I am.

[oberon]

Webster's isn't real helpful here... it defines virgin as "a person who has not had sexual intercourse". *Personally, I would say penetration is enough, but that's just my opinion. *I wouldn't worry too much either way.

I would like to add that I hope you have some kind of protection if you are going to "fool around". *I know, I know... you are both virgins, so you aren't worried about catching an STD ( I would, but that's just me). *However, "just slipping it in" can lead to pregnancy- even if he doesn't ejaculate. *There are sperm in pre-ejaculate and it only takes one. *Consider this a lecture if you like, but if I were you, I'd rather be safe than sorry.

Take care.

[thetease13]

by my terms, you are not a virgin. whether you came or not, penetration was made, and that's the deciding factor between being a virgin and not being a virgin anymore for me.

[Brandye]

The French have a lovely term - demi-virge. It captures the essence of being sexually experienced without really having complete intercourse. Who knows whether you are virgin or not. The penis has been in you; semen and, probably, sperm have not entered your body. You are clrearly sexually experienced to some degree or the two sets of genitals would not have been so close together. You have probably helped cause orgasm with each other. Demi-virge, and who cares?

[DMC87]

I alway thought that one or both parties needed to reach orgasm. Not really sure, sorry.

I have accidentally penetrated a girl but through her knickers if that makes sense and I still consider my self a virgin.

[ductapefaerie]

I like the sound of demi-virge...I think I'll stick with that...thanks all!!

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (DMC87 @ July 28 2004,12:48)]I alway thought that one or both parties needed to reach orgasm. Not really sure, sorry.

i wouldn't think that is the case since most girls don't really orgasm their first time....or first several times.

[Withoutapartner]

Well from all the info i've heard for a guy and a girl is different, for a girl it's more official because to be considered not a virgin the guy has to "pop her cherry".

For the guy it's really just penetration as far as I know.
But thats what I heard

Personally I think it's all about the experience when I first had sex it was a very emotional experience. Me and my girl were full of like this natural extacy and excitement.

it's really up to you to decide if you're a virgin or not(as long as you've had some kind of penetration)

[ductapefaerie]

I know for a fact now that neither of us are virgins or anything...but he didn't really "pop my cherry"...that's probably due to the amount of manual sex, I guess I'll call it, we've had...I mean, we've been doing that for like...over a year...so I guess that's why I didn't bleed