23 year old virgin

[slightly-used1]

hahahahahaaha

[Rich In Flavour]

If there's one thign I'm sick of, it's people in their 20's being made to feel ashamed of being a virgin! It's people who throw it away at 14 / 15 / 16 who should be ashamed.
Maybe you should look for a new job, one that will allow you to have Friday / Saturday nights off. Even if your working in a fast food place, a lot of your co-workers will be young, you'll make friends and be able to go out.
But come on, you can't sleep with any girl that "acknowledges your existence" If you do that then your wait will have been for nothing. You have to sleep with a girl that genuinely likes you.
Anyway, that's my advice, hope you find the right girl.

[Humble]

Originally Posted by Rich In Flavour

If there's one thign I'm sick of, it's people in their 20's being made to feel ashamed of being a virgin!

Erm, two points:

1) You need to check the date on the first post of the thread, as well as the last before yours... 2004 here we come...

2) I don't think many people are trying to make others feel ashamed of being virgins in their 20's. I just don't see it happening.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh yes, wait and wait and wait for the girl/boy of your dreams until you are old and gray and set in your ways. Yep, just what every dreamgirl/boy wants - that dried up old man/woman sitting at the bar, wandering about the grocery store, hanging aound work/school colleagues, feeling sorry for himself/herself.

Pfft!

Sex is NOT overrated. Everyone who is not a virgin would much rather be enjoying sex than doing anything else, especially if they have some skill at it.

You cling to this notion that out there is a dreamgirl/boy just waiting for you and if it was meant to be it will be; by some miracle you two will find each other and everything will go so well; you'll marry and you'll live happily ever after.

But your sweet sappy ego-boosting fantasy is nothing more than a convenient cover-up to hide your fear. Just having this fantasy itself marks you as an "unsuccessful male/female". And it really is a fantasy - real life doesn't work like that. Dating is just like learning to ride - you fall off every now and again until you get some skill.

All because you will not get out there and take your chances.
We have heard all of the reasons and all of the excuses.

"I don't like the clubs/bars/whatever"
"I'm ugly/fat/too short/too tall/whatever."
"I'm saving myself for marriage."

and they all are rotten excuses because they do not address the central issue: - low self-esteem from which we get fatalism, cowardice, timidity and the "prince/princess syndrome".

You are the only You that has ever existed and will ever exist on this planet. You are entirely unique and are therefore special. So give over being afraid and show yourself off to the world at large and go forth smiling ready to say YES.

Because it is a whole lot better and more fun than saying NO.

[lnt1103]

To have sex yet or not to have sex yet?

In the end the answer to that question is a very personal choice, for very personal reasons, and no one should be criticized or scrutinized for which one they make.

Once I found T, I can't tell you how I wished he'd been my first. And if I'd waited just 6 months, he would have been. Not that I regret changing my mind about waiting until marriage, I just wish the guy had been T instead of the guy it was, because the guy it was, I realized only later was an incredible ass in several different ways. My first time with T, we were 27 and 28. And I was his first.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The married men I have met who did marry virgins, 20 years to 30 years later wish they had married sluts instead. Virgins are just too good at saying no.

[lnt1103]

If she's saying no that often, he hasn't worked hard enough to find her sure-fire, works every time, guaranteed 'button'.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Do not always blame him - women have their own responsibilities when it comes to sex. If she isn't willing to orgasm then she won't no matter what he does!

[Rich In Flavour]

Originally Posted by Humble

Erm, two points:

1) You need to check the date on the first post of the thread, as well as the last before yours... 2004 here we come...

2) I don't think many people are trying to make others feel ashamed of being virgins in their 20's. I just don't see it happening.

1) The date is irrelevent.

2) I was referring to society in general, not the people on this thread. And yes, it does happen. Why else did the creator of this group anmit that he wouldn't admit being a virgin to anyone.............

3) Similar to a virgin, I am new to sex (Sexinfo101) and am still finding my way around this site. So I beg you not to patronise me.

[shinji]

I understand the pain, I was a virgin until 23, which means I lost it in April of this year. I am now single, but the woman I was with actulally asked me out first, cause I am very shy to this very day.

There is this girl I really like now, but frankly I don't know hwow to approch her or anything. the most I did was friend her on facebook, which she accepted. So beleive me when I say I understand the pain of not being able to approch women, of not knowing what to say, and of being rejected, cause I have been rejected by women, a lot, in my lifetime.