cuming to fast?

[tiggi]

ok kinda the opposite to most questions...cuz im a girl tht seems 2 cum 2 fast. well i dunno..id say 10 mins wud b the logest it usually takes, but it does tend to be less. it bothers me though cuz i want it 2 last longer, but my clit starts 2 hurt after any way so i know i cudnt carry on. my bf doesnt have a problem with this but if he kinda plays with me wen having sex i wil cum waaay b4 he does (which is a problem atm cuz he isnt cumin at all.. ).
so i guess the problems are that it seems like i cum 2 fast and then b4 my bf wen having sex.
plz help...if u need to know more 2 answer then ask *

[WallyLlama]

Not sure I can offer a lot of help, but felt you should get some sort of response to your post.

You're right, this is an unusual situation. I'm not sure there is one answer.. part of it may be some experimenting. You may want to try different techniques and positions and see how they affect your, um, timing.

You might, for example, want to concentrate on him for a while... and he doesn't touch until he's close. :-)

But I'd quickly add that if your boyfriend is happy and you are too... well, throw away the stopwatch. There are no rules, so to speak. Cumming together is no easy task and some couples never seem to achieve it, so I would not make that a goal at this point.

If you cum and he hasn't... well, you might finish him by hand if it hurts you to continue intercourse. The key is that you both end up being "content" with your time together.

Just relax and enjoy each other in different ways... try to concentrate on simply enjoying yourselves and each other.

Wally

[demonbuttercup]

yeah those are some good tips.
this happens to me sometimes. im definetly not set in a certain pattern.
sometimes if its been awhile i can orgasm in less than 5 minutes...usually its around 15-20 minutes i guess. other times it takes me FOREVER and other times i can't at all. just depends on my mood and how much foreplay usually.

if it takes me awhile my b/f can usually hold himself off. he tends to like it when it doesn't take me long. that way he doesn't have to prolong himself.
id do what wally says. once you are done, pleasure him for awhile manually or orally.
i find if i orgasm and then wait for a little bit im not as sensitive. you might even get to have 2 or 3 orgasms by the time he gets one if you do this.

like wally said, its very difficult timing wise to both cum at the same time. i think ive only done it maybe once or twice. 95% of the time im done before my b/f. i usually have no trouble going a few more minutes until he's done.
if your clit is way too sensitive, try positions where you aren't hitting it.
like you on top and missionary rubs it more. try doggy style after you are done. that way he can finish and he won't be rubbing up against your clit.
good luck


ps. another thing, i know for me there are time i want it to last longer, but i feel it coming already. just remember to take it slow. i slow myself down a lot and just enjoy it. you don't have to be a speedy all the time.
if im on top i can control this. if he's on top just tell him to take it slow.

[tiggi]

thx for your help im thinkin that sum girls may cum faster if all attention is on their clit..just like playin with or lickin just that...is that right? so maybe try working round it at first for a while...? i dunno!

[demonbuttercup]

oh most definetly.
if its oral you are talking about then thats true.
tell you b/f not to just dive in and go right for the clit.
kiss and lick other parts. focus on your neck and nipples then work his way down.
when he's down there lick ALL over. i really enjoy it when my b/f goes up and down my slit.
tell him to tease other areas and take it slow on your clit. its not a race, enjoy everything a long the way.

[AndyUK]

Hey.

My gf has a similar thing like you, although she doesn't seem too bothered about it.

We were on the phone earlier having phone sex, and she must have seriously cum in like a minute. I've also been down on here at times and it takes absolute no time at all for her to cum.

Sometimes when we have intercourse, she's like "can I cum now please" and maybe think that she wants it to be over coz she's on the "brink" whereas I want it to last a little longer.

Suppose some women want it to last a long time while others just want to cum quickly coz they can't hold it in anymore.


Andy