She wont Give me head

[newbie102]

well me and my gf have been going out a year now and the only thing weve done is having me eet her out ,fingering her and her giving me a handjob.

we decided to wait till wer 18 to have sex but she doesnt wanna give me head. I asked her about wearing a condom n such while she does it , but that isnt the problem. She says that she hasnt done it before and says that it seems really gross to have it in her mouth..

I've tried everything to pursuade her, it just seems like a sexually one way street relationship... Im getting kinda pissed off, but i want to stick to being a gentleman because i dont like being an asshole.. What can i do to make her give me head?

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (newbie102 @ May 06 2004,19:11)]What can i do to make her give me head?

you can't MAKE her do anything.
this problem has been brought up many times.
i know at first i was very reluctant b/c i had never done it. i didn't want to do it wrong or hurt him etc. and yeah the thought about it being in my mouth was weird.
here are some links to topics like this

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those all have lots of replies especially the last one
hope they help

[oberon]

Demonbuttercup is correct. Don't try to MAKE her. But you can discuss it. I know talking about these things- especially when you are young- isn't the most comfortable thing to do. But it IS the way to reach some sort of compromise. You might try the flavored condoms. Those can be quite fun.

Good Luck.

[WallyLlama]

I can't resist noting that it's always a bit intriguing how a woman will scream in ecstacy while her guy's face is between her legs, then say "no" to a blow job because it sounds gross.

Oh well. LOL

Congratulations on the decision not to have intercourse; it's a smart one.

I'd have to say that it's not totally one-sided, she's giving you a hand job, right? You might see if she's willing to consider adding a little mouth to the hand job... whatever she's comfortable with: a little kiss, etc. - not exactly taking it fully in her mouth, but providing some additional stimulation.

Second alternative: stop doing it to her. I'm not suggesting anything mean. Why not expand the agreement you have? Until your 18, hand work only. Things might change significantly once you're both totally "free" to have intercourse. NOTE that it is NOT a recommendation to start having intercourse. It's more like redrawing the boundaries to place that works for both of you.

Wally

[Brandye]

There once was a Madam named Xaviera Hollander who was arrested, had a splashy trial and worte a book about managing the "business." She stated that what kept her in business was wives not willing to do blow jobs. It was the number one request from all her girls' clients.

We can infer from this that men really want it and, possibly, that women tend to be reluctant. I can assure you that the first time was quite a surprise for me. I learned. If I wanted some special things, I had to learn to do special things. The decision must come from her. If she is not ready, she will focus on the taste and the consistency - neither of which are pleasant - rather than the process which is very pleasant. I also had very good advice, posted her somewhere, from an aunt on how to prevent gagging.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Brandye @ May 07 2004,14:33)]There once was a Madam named Xaviera Hollander who was arrested, had a splashy trial and worte a book about managing the "business."

The name of the book was "The Happy Hooker" and it was also a movie starring Lynn Redgrave.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Brandye @ May 07 2004,14:33)] I also had very good advice, posted her somewhere, from an aunt on how to prevent gagging.

Here's all the quotes from you on BJ's and gagging that I could find. (plus one from me... )

I hope they help:

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Brandye @ Sep. 23 2002,13:28)]You say you want to take him down your throat and then suck. Well, the part of the penis that is sensitive to the sucking is the head. If it is down your throat, the sucking is irrelevant because the head will be stimulated rubbing in your throat. I have heard of "Hum jobs" but have never deepthroated myself so do not know much about that.<p>It seems to me that the added dimension of sucking and using your tongue (neither of which you can do with your vagina) should be pretty great alternatives.<p>I know people still want to do the deep throat thing. I have never gotten around to learning.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Brandye @ Nov. 12 2003,14:27)]The first time I got a mouthful, I made a fool of myself - hacking gagging and generally being a mess. You are correct in identifying the gag reflex as the problem Most women think it is the taste or the consistency. We can get accustomed to that.

Try this technique. Keep a finger at the base of his scrotum. This is the place that contracts first when he ejaculates. A thumb on the bottom of the penis can also feel the ejaculate moving through the uretra. When you feel it coming (and it happens quick) press the back of your tongue against your hard palate. This prevents that first big, hard spurt from striking the soft palate (back of the throat) which responds with a gag.

My aunt told me about this when I was first getting active and I have found it to be quite successful. I still do not like the taste but the rest is so much fun, and gives men so much pleasure, that I can live with that.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (oberon @ Dec. 03 2003,20:19)]Glad someone mentioned swallowing movements, that's the best trick. *The head over the edge of the bed is good too; it seems to provide a better angle or something. *Here's another: remember to keep breathing deeply through your nose. *That suffocating feeling kicks in my gag reflex. *And unless you are really comfortable with it, make him keep his hands off the back of your head. *No one enjoys feeling like they are being forced.

It also helps to REALLY want to do it. *That way you aren't tense about performing well, you just do it. *The truth is most guys enjoy whatever you do down there, so deepthroating is just a plus. *

As far as practicing, I actually saw a device on a British tv show. *It was a dildo with a cord attached to an egg-shaped vibrator. *There was a target at the base of the dildo and when you successfully deepthroated it(your nose touched the target) the vibrator went off and gave you a little reward.lol