Adults still being virgins over the age of 20???

[SliderNL]

I'm was one of the 'old' virgins being 25 years old. I just lost my virginity 5 day ago to my 19-year old girlfriend who was also a virgin. The first time we tried I was to nervous, but when my girfriend came round unexpected it happened very naturally. We were both at ease, relaxed (and very horny) so after some foreplay (we like to watch porn together) it went very fast and before we knew it, I was inside her doing it (and her) for the first time.

And it's a cliche but is was wonderfull, especially because it was with a girl I deeply care about. When I was a teenager I dreamt about having sex, as soon as possible. But now I'm glad I didn't. Maybe a bit cheesy to say but it is very special, but only if you can share it and talk about it with your partner. I actually think we have spent more time talking about it the next few days, than we spent on making love the first time.

It's sad that the general consensus is that you must have a girlfriend/boyfriend and have sex as soon as possible. I've been single for quite some time before I met my girlfriend and it's very tiring and annoying how people react to that. I can't remember how many times I heard 'You're 25 years old and still don't have a girlfriend. Later I found people talking behind my back implying that I might be Gay, which I'm not. I'm happy that the people who really know me and care about me didn't react that way, but I was unpleasantly suprised about the amount who did. In the end (right before I fell in love) I was so annoyed by it, that couldn't look at a romantic commercial without feeling irritated.

[gjene]

Don't sweat it about being a virgin at 27. I am 40 and still virgin. I'm waiting as well to get laid the first time. Hope I can wait until my holidays in june. Hoping the girl I am writing to will be my first. she hasnt told me if she is a virgin or not. she did say that she wasnt married.

[norwegian's lover]

20 years old and still waiting! You are not alone.

[SexyChocolate]

As a female virginity was placed upon us as something you must upheld. I don't look down on people who choose otherwise. I was well into my 20's when I lost my virginity so more power to anyone who waits and others who don't.

[CliMBinG GuY]

i am 21 and have had a pretty bad... well non-existant love life... but beside the point, i am still a virgin, though i may be younger than some of you others, i understand what you mean, i find that, one: its mostly the frat type guys that tend to poke fun about virginity, but they are usually *******s in the first place... and i think that it is becoming more respected... or accepted to choose to stay virgin longer. also, i have noticed that most people have been saying "losing virginity" like virginity is a bad thing, and should be "lost" like a bad habit. now i know it isnt the message everyone is saying... but i prefer to think instead of "still being a virgin" or "not losing virginity" i like "keeping my virginity" am i making sense or just rambling? in short... virginity, i see it, is a badge of honor rather than one of shame.

[Cook2b]

wel im 18 - and i lost my virginity a few months ago in july i think to my bf who i fully love 100%. but i was perfectly happy a virgin and would have waited for as long as it took for me to find some onw i was comfortable with i now just feel lucky i have found that now.

[Ephemera]

Well, for guys, anyway, being a virgin isn't a big deal. You don't have to find the "one" who has earned it, because, quite frankly, you'll suck the first few times. Don't make sex a big deal. Have sex with someone you want, when you want, and get the whole virginity thing off your chest.

Just use a condom.

It's nothing to brag about, being 2X and a virgin, because, to be frank again, your virginity isn't special.

[BTDTWoman]

Virginity is a cultural consruct interpreted in different ways in different times in history and different places in the world. In our culture, virginity for males seems to be a burden to get rid of as soon as possible. For females it is treated like something precious to "give" to the right man.

It's all bulls**t.

All that is real is that you haven't vaginally penetrated a woman with your penis yet. So what? It's really pretty meaningless if you think about it long enough. Each of us starts when we start, and age doesn't matter unless we worry about it or attach our own meaning to it.

What worries me is the millions of women throughout history and still today who have been disgraced, beaten, or killed only because a little piece of skin was naturally thinned or stretched too much to produce enough blood to satisfy other people's stake in her virginity when her husband's penis first penetrated her vagina. That's the destructive power of a cultural construct taken way too seriously.

[Ephemera]

Exactly, BTDT. Your virginity isn't really that important. So why not have sex? As long as you're safe, there's no problem, imo.

It's kind of like the kid who won't ride a roller coaster. It's a lot of fun, but some people are scared of it, or think they'll get sick, etc.

Give it a try, get over your preconceived notions about what it's going to be like, and go for it.

[sera300]

Debating over keeping your virginity? There is little value in that particular aspect to others; value is in ethics & character. I'd prefer people try to be decent human beings then "virgins".