Adults still being virgins over the age of 20???

[mike99]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

You said you are overweight. Go to the gym. Get a work coach. You also said you don't have any friends. You can meet new people at the gym, men and women. Start friendships with the people at the gym. Try to spend time with them outside of the gym.

I just hope these people aren't meatheads.

Also where do you work at? Try to interact with your coworkers. I work on campus and I interact with students and staff everyday. This is also how I met some new girls at my school.

I do construction.

I prefer to work away from alot of people.

[Zr2_EQX]

Originally Posted by mike99

That was me making a joke.

Don't complain about being fat then make a joke about "food got in the way." Show some self control and stop making excuses.



I'm gonna assume that might cost a bit of money, which is something I do not have.

Get involved with outside groups. Volunteer with other people. Having a basic conversation is a great way to break the ice and to become more comfortable talking.

[Zr2_EQX]

Originally Posted by mike99

I just hope these people aren't meatheads.



I do construction.

I prefer to work away from alot of people.

That is an issue. Trust me I know how it is better to work away from people sometimes, but you need to compensate for that. Get out in the town, volunteer, get involved with group activities. There is plenty of things to do that are free. Are you part of a church? You can meet and work with people there. You may not meet a date but you can start networking. A friend of a friend may be the one!

[mike99]

I don't go to church. So that is out of the question.

I wouldn't know where to volunteer, even tho that really isn't my thing to do.

I just don't feel comfortable being around people in groups at all.

I guess I have a little bit of anxiety.

[Zr2_EQX]

Originally Posted by mike99

I don't go to church. So that is out of the question.

I wouldn't know where to volunteer, even tho that really isn't my thing to do.

I just don't feel comfortable being around people in groups at all.

I guess I have a little bit of anxiety.

Yes you do and it is ok. What you need to do is to work through that anxiety. Have you tried looking online? With a dating site? There are great sites out there and they do work! It could be a great way for you to break the ice with someone. Emailing and chatting is a great way to start talking to someone. You can learn about each other and then work your way up to meet in person.

[Brandye]

Read the entire thread, Zr2. Anything that might be suggested has been - many times over.

[Zr2_EQX]

I know Brandye I broke my own rule. I think my mind got fried after Frankie's thread and this one. I jumped in too late. I had a weak momment! I am better now, I had some coffee and lunch!

[EvilEvilKitten]

The facts remain the facts - all that you complain about YOU have the ability to FIX- so either FIX them or quit complaining.

[Humble]

Originally Posted by mike99

I agree.

I've been thinking about losing weight for awhile.

Food has just got in the way.

That's the spirit!

Do that and you will make yourself more attractive to the female gender.

I think it's laughable that someone can have high standards when they have trouble getting anyone.

Some people should lower their standards and expectations.

To each their own, I would say. If you are starving, you will eat anything and by the same token, some people may want sex enough that they don't care who they have it with. However, if you are only slightly hungry, you probably wouldn't eat food you dislike. Analogously, people who are less needy of sex might not be willing to have it unless they find somebody that meets their expectations. It is every person's decision to make how 'hungry' they are and what they like to 'eat'.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Spending money on a voice coach - HAH! You have no imagination - none at all - go to the public library and take out tapes/records/cds/ films/dvds of people whose voices you find, or members of the other gender find, attractive and then practice souinding like them. DUH!!!

And stop making other people do your thinking for you