Adults still being virgins over the age of 20???

[Greendale]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (JCrew05 @ May 24 2004,10:13)]yeah well im 17 and have had sex with 3 different girls...not proud of it because its not as special sharing it with someone i actually care about now...consider yourself lucky

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Yeah, that's my whole point of this thread.

Just like you admitted yourself, if you lose your virginity to the wrong person, you'll feel guilty the rest of your life.

Losing a virginity to a friend that you truly love is a good thing. Losing a virginity to some stupid partner that will treat you like garbage is not.

[MizMinx555]

I am woman enough to admitt that I did not read the WHOLE post, nor did I read all the responses, so this may be a repeat but oh well. Im sorry, Im horrible, Im lazy, but oh well....

Anyways... Darlin, do whats right for you. Dont you dare rush it just to get "losing it" over with. Sex should be an emotional connection as well as a physical one. Wait for the right person, she'll come along, I promise. I'll be 20 in august, and Im a virgin (technically speaking). Does that make me pathetic?

[experimenter]

I'm glad to hear that there are more of "us" out there. At least I used to be part of the "us" category. I met my husband when I was 14, (he was 19). We were both virgins, and everyone thought that he was with me for sex. No one could understand our relationship. We got married shortly after I turned 18 (yes, we were both still virgins), and I know alot of people thought we "had" to get married, if you know what I mean. And there were also a lot of people who said they didn't think the marriage would last 6 months. Well, we are now close to celebrating our 5th anniversary. So much for what other people know. I guess my point is, you have to follow your heart and disregard the things that other people say. My only regret is that we were both relatively sheltered as far as sex info goes, so our sex life is still a little "dull". Found this place though and am hoping to "spice" things up a bit.

On a more personal note, our being virgins was a choice based upon our religious beliefs. Believe me, it isn't easy staying a virgin sometimes. So for those of you who are still virgins, I have the utmost respect for you. I am not the type of person who would have felt comfortable having sex with many men. One suits me just fine.

[Starr]

I lost my virginity because I thought that it was *insert a number of negative things here* to still be a virgin after your teen years, I was the last of all my close friends. And I regret it and dont at the same time. I wish I had done it in a different way and place, but I did it with someone I cared about deeply and that is the one reason I can honestly say I dont regret it 100%.

Beign a virgin for as long as you need / want to be is cool. I have only had sex the one time... I'm saving the rest for the right time and place.

El

[mnw87]

I was a virgin up to today(I am 17) i thought that sex was going to be such a big thing that life would change once you got laid. damn i was wrong its really not that big of a deal. I mean i am happy that i finally had sex. But for some reason i think i did it more because its such a bitch in society today when people find out you are a virgin its kinda like an outcast. Another thing i hear people say to wait til you find the right person i didnt believe that either but now i kinda wish i knew the person better, i may see the girl i had sex with twice a month if i am lucky. So in final note i would say if you are an older person in their 20s thinking that its a "loser thing" to do by not having sex, people that think that are jus f**king stupid.

[Greendale]

Yeah, that what' happens when you lose it to the wrong person, you'll feel stupid and guilty. And it takes a while to get over it. That's why it's very important to lose your virginity to someone you truly love.

experimenter, are you in a religion or something? Is that why you two waited 'til after marriage for sex?

[secretly_shy]

There was an old couple on Trisha (british chat show) who were both virgins at ...... 63! The woman felt uncomfortable about sex, but her husband said "thats ok, its u i love"

and thats with 30 or 40 years of marriage!!!

[demonbuttercup]

really?
thats crazy!!!!
i mean if you can't be comfortable w/ someone after 30 yrs who can you be comfortable with?
poor guy...lol.

[secretly_shy]

No no no thats not what i ment.

Due to the womans age, when she was young she was brought up to believe that sex and masturbation were "dirty" and "bad" and that has grown into a massive psychological restraint; They tried to have sex on their wedding night, but her body wouldnt allow her as she had been "taught" to discourage sex and the emotions that go with it.

but proves they guy was madly in love with her, as they r still together (and now having sex theropy, curtisy of the "Trisha show" )

[anne]

i think it is very admirable to be a virgin beyond 16 in this day and age frankly

don't see it often and i commend anyone who is I like it here.