He doesn't moan!

[IMaChic]

me and my bf have been going out for 8 months now, and as stated before, we've had sex and we do other stuff all the time... and everything is great, except for one problem - he's usually always quiet when i do stuff to him... sometimes he moans and stuff but very little... he lets me know he's enjoying it by other ways like saying god u make me so horny or ur so sexy or "it feels so good" but moaning really turns me on. i don't know if he's just shy to do it or what but i really like it when he does. i'm really loud when he does stuff to me and he lets me know he likes it and that it turns him on.. but i want him too to! he's the only guy i've ever done stuff with so i don't kno if all guys are pretty quiet or not ( i def know that girls are the louder ones) but i just wish he was louder!

[vagabondprince]

Only speaking about myself, i know i don't moan and it doesn't have to do with shyness. There were actually a couple of times i let out a gasp/moan, but that was accompanied by an uncontrollable spasm from the intensity of the feeling. Otherwise i just tell her how it feels and all that. I don't know if it's possible for a girl performing fellatio, but I know when i eat her out the thing that encourages me the most is how she moves from the pleasure, and even spasms when i hit a really sensitive spot during cunnilingus. Feel for it or look for it, and know that any tensing muscles and most any other movement is an involuntary sign of the pleasure it's giving him. Some people are simply moaners while others are not.

[LittleFury]

well, every person is different. Some might be really loud and some aren't. It's his reaction. You could try telling him that you would like for him to be loud too, but I'm not sure how much that would help.

[oberon]

I actually have a theory about this. *

Have you ever seen the variation of "men at a strip club" verses "women at a strip club"? *The women tend to yell and scream and you can really tell they are having fun. *The men on the other hand look like predators at the zoo at feeding time. lol *There is just this intense stare and concentration. *It doesn't look like most of them are having a good time at all.

I think it has to do with masturbation. *It's seems pretty well established that men masturbate more than women. *When you are young, you try to be very careful about being caught. *This means you must be quiet. *I think most guys just get in that habit. *Then they equate the sexual feelings to how they act. * "I feel this way, so I must act THIS way." *Some guys overcome this and some don't.

Or this could all be so much hot air. *Maybe he just doesn't like to moan. *Ask him and find out. *Tell him you would like it, but only for him to do it if he wants. *Good Luck and let us know what happens.

[demonbuttercup]

some guys just don't moan.
i would say that its definetly not shyness b/c it takes a lot more guts to say stuff like "you make me horny" or any other verbal phrases than it does to just let out a moan.
i usually don't moan i just let out sighs.
my b/f is usually pretty quiet although he was always trying to get me to be more vocal... go figure. lol

[thetease13]

my guy doesn't really moan. he's more of a sigher or a heavy breather. and he's not exactly the shy type either.
i don't moan either (or atleast haven't yet). i'm more of a heavy breather or a sigher myself or i'm just quiet altogether about it other than the shifting i do so he can have better access. i am shy to certain extents but when it comes to sex related stuff, i'm not really shy about it. i'm much more agressive about it than i ever thought i could be about anything but i still don't moan.

so yea, as other people said, some people just aren't moaners.

[oberon]

Yeah, thetease13, it us shy types you've got to watch out for!

I'm usually quite reserved myself (shocked?), at least the up until I hit the bedroom. I've actually had guys comment on it. Sort of, "What happened? You were so quiet!" lol

[thetease13]

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Quote[/b] (oberon @ Mar. 15 2004,22:30)]Yeah, thetease13, it us shy types you've got to watch out for!

that is so true.

around people i don't know i am the most quiet person you will ever meet. i don't approach people or anything like that. i just sit quietly.

but i dunno what it is...when i'm with him, some sort of animalistic thing just like leaps out of me and i will just grab him and pull him into a deep kiss, or i'll back him into a wall and kiss him deeply or whatever.
and by the next time we get together (cause of this whole break thing) there's no telling what that animal inside me is gonna be like. lol.

[IMaChic]

thanks for the replies! and thanks oberon, that theory seems correct lol
i know that different people react different ways & i think it is true that girls are just naturally louder
i guess he's just more of a heavy sigher-type