REALLY Late period!

[kevin83]

Ok, you may remember my post about the pregnancy scare, well the test said negative. But her period still hasn't arrived. Is there anything that can cause it to be late, like, really late, it's almost 5 days late now. She's still worried.

The test was meant to be taken from the first day the period is due, but if it hasn't come, could that mean that the test wouldn't work because of that? I'm really scared now, as is she.

I'm trying to persuade her to go to a doctor, but because she's 15, she's really scared.

Kev

[thetease13]

it could be late because she's been stressing over whether or not she's pregnant.

stress can delay a period. too much stress can make one skip it all together.

[demonbuttercup]

i agree w/ the tease
like i mentioned before i was like a week late too a test it was negative, was still freaking out b/c my period hadn't started and i ended up being 2 weeks late.
like tease said the more stress and freaking out you do the more likely it can affect her cycle. just wait a few days and then take another test if it hasn't started yet.

[oberon]

Not something I know A LOT about, but from what I've heard the ladies are correct. Stress can cause a period to be late or even to skip.

For her, and your, piece of mind, might I suggest calling a teen or pregnancy hotline? It's as confidential as you want it to be and they have resources to help deal with problems- no matter how serious.

Good Luck and keep us posted.

[LittleFury]

I suggest checking with the doctor. But it could be just the stress of her freaking out about posibility of being pregnant. Also could be that she's just not gonna get it this month. Before I went on the pill, I didn't always have mine every single month. So I would just suggest to see the doctor. Wouldn't hurt to anyways. Also get her to speak to him about birth control.

[kevin83]

Thanks guys, i'll tell her what you said, and just see what happens. Are doctors confidential?

I think she's scared because she is 15 and she will have to admit to having slept with someone and she's worried her mum finds out. Any advice i could give to her to encourage her to go? She's also worried they do more tests on her, she's really fragile at the momment, i'm not sure if it would be the best thing, i don't want to break her happy spirt, i love her too much to see anything like that happen to her. I'm really worried for her. But i just feel so useless because there is nothing i can do apart from try to re-assure her things will be ok.

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kev.

[demonbuttercup]

i know its hard for her kevin.
i put off going to the DR for forever b/c i was scared and nervous about what it was going to be like and having to expose myself..etc.
it wasn't near as bad as i had imagined and i lived to tell about it. lol
just put this scenario out there for your g/f. yes it will be hard to confront her mom and ask her about being put on BC. but whats harder? that or having to tell your mom your pregnant?
i think moms now a days are more open and would be proud that their daughters are responsible enough about their bodies.
they might not like the idea their little girls are having sex but at least they won't have to worry about them getting pregnant.

yes DRs are confidential but im not sure how all that works since she's only 15. i think you can go to places like planned parenthood and get help and not have to be a certain age. one problem is paying for it. im sure she has insurance but its under her parents. *even if she managed to get to the DR w/out them knowing...they would still get the bill/paperwork.
you could always pay cash i guess.
plus pills are expensive, might just want to let her parents pay for it lol.
once the initial shock is over w/ it will be ok.
good luck

[kevin83]

Ok, i spoke to her about it again today.

And she said.

"It feels as though i have my period, the pain and it even feels as though something is coming out, but there's nothing"

Is that a good thing or bad?

[thetease13]

that's not exactly uncommon.
i can feel like that for days before i start my period.

it can also be that her period is there but since she's been fairly stressed lately, it's having some issues starting. that's not too all uncommon either.

either way, i'd say give it a few more days and see what happens.

[oberon]

Doctors are suppose to be confidential. *But since she's only 15 you really can't count on that. *I still suggest some sort of teen help line. *You can decide how much info to give them and they can provide services for those who need them- sometimes free of charge.

Demonbuttercup, you are correct-in an ideal world. *If I had a daughter, I would like to think I would respond the way you suggest. *Proud that she is taking the responsibility to protect herself. *However, I also live in the middle of the Bible belt and know a lot of people who would just be HORRIFIED that their little girl was having sex. *Sure of fire and brimstone for her, and for them if they did anything that helped her have sex. *I know, I know- I don't see it that way either, but they do.

There are many orginizations that will help and keep it confidential. *They can provide a safety net if the situation does turn really bad.