Casual sex

[honeyb16]

ok this will sound weird but id love to hear people advice on it. what do you all think about casual sex? just having a bit of fun. because i have liked this boy for so long but i no he isnt intererested in a relationship, i no that, but we both like eachother, we were talking about both getting together casually, but im worried that will make me like him more, or could it just be good fun? please males/females advice xxx

[secretly_shy]

I tried it, and found i couldnt cope with it, it just feels weird

Im so much happier in my steady relationship

[oberon]

Just like most things, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. *You should think about all the consequence and then if it still seems like a good idea- fine. *You could fall for him or he could fall for you, and it be one-sided. *That's always uncomfortable. *You may not care what others might think, but if you do, what if you really like someone and they found out about this and were turned off by it? *How would you feel about that? *What if one of you finds someone else and doesn't want to keep your casual sex relationship? Are you or he going to feel dumped?

At the very least you should set clear boundaries and establish ground rules. *Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying don't do this- I've had some great casual sexual relationships with friends- but you should be aware of the possible difficulties and be prepared to accept the consequences. *Always have safe sex, this means USE A CONDOM. *Best wishes and good luck.

[Rawbob]

There's no doubt that friendships CAN and often DO change when it starts involving sex. Acutally, studies show that most women equate sex with love, and so the notion of casual sex goes against their social and religious upbringing.

That said, you also have to know that you may have GAINED a lover, but lost a friend. Or, you may have kept a friend and MAYBE a true love interest - and potential partner.

You have to look inside and see if this is about SEX or CONTROL?

For me, i define casual sex as a hook up with an almost total stranger for the sole purpose of sexual release and temporary sexual satisfaction. There is little or no emotion, just hedonistic lust.

This dosn't sound like what you are talking about - especially since you call him your "friend"....go slowly! There's alot at risk for just a few brief moment's of sex. Unless you BOTH are ok with the idea that it may change your friendship to a real "relationship"....then you will have both been invlved in the decision!

Good luck

[thetease13]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (oberon @ Feb. 06 2004,12:13)]At the very least you should set clear boundaries and establish ground rules. *Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying don't do this- I've had some great casual sexual relationships with friends- but you should be aware of the possible difficulties and be prepared to accept the consequences.

i very much agree with that.

my guy is my friend. *he's one of the best friends i've ever had. *we started out on a friendship and have now moved on to sex on ocassion. *but we are still friends on top of this.

sometimes it is difficult for me cause i'd like to have him a little bit more to myself sometimes but then i just have to remind myself that i drug myself into this and i knew what i was getting myself into. *and then i'm ok for a few weeks and then the cycle repeats. *of course i think female hormones play a lot into that....

[LifeIsAJourney]

Well Ive only recently started doing sexual things with this one boy...hes been my first for everything.
We live in the same village, know each other quite well, bump into each other ocasionally on the weekends. He has had sex with my best friend twice and now has started doing things with me. We both like each other, but I like him alot more!!
We are not in a relationship but just do sexual things together... Im absolutely fine with this... This is what all the teenagers do around here... He is not in control, horrible or forceful, we just hook up occasionally and do stuff together.
I know that we would never date but I dont mind it like this.

I think that if your guy is nice enough, and you trust him... go for it BUT make sure you use the condom or go on the pill. *
IF U DO IT..... KEEP IT SAFE!

[Brandye]

Rawbob and Oberon give great insights. No answer, only considerations.

I have, literally, screwed away many firendships.