Fingering & bleeding

[googlegrl]

Okay this is the wrong section but I am new to this board.. ok yesturday my bf was fingering me and he went hard.. like deep fingering and he made me bleed.. what does that mean? it stings to go to the bathroom also... and also how do u kno when a guy is ready to cum? pardon my ignorance! lol

[sexykitty]

Pain from fingering:
A couple things come to mind... one is that he could have torn you(very common, very painful, but usually not harmful), and two is that some women bleed when they are first begining to have sex. If the pain doesn't go away within a few days I would suggest you go to a doctor. Also, if it's painful while he's doing it, let him know. Men don't have a vagina, so they don't know what feels good unless we tell them.
When a guy is ready to cum:
If you are watching the guy's testicles they will tighten when he's about to cum, otherwise you can tell by the noise he makes or if his muscles start to tighten. In my experience guys will tell you when they are getting there.

[googlegrl]

thanks.. ya the bleeding has stopped and the pain isnt as bad.... we havent had sex yet.. but i was quite embaressed when i started to bleed like it wasnt a lot and we didnt kno till after.. and he had blood on his fingers.. it was gross and i was embaressed to no end!! We didnt talk bout it though.. Like it feels good most of the time but he like sometimes doesnt go in the direction the hole goes if u understand that.. and then he keeps jabbing but i feel bad saying anything.. i really do and i dont think i could possibly say anything to him.. any ideas bout both those things... and he does tell me right before he cums.. but i kinda like to kno if im doing a good job or not or if i shoudl try different techniques... and like all i have to do is touch it and he becomes wicked hard.. and i dont notice a difference after, so i basically dont know if he is about to cum... i just basically want to know right b4 he cums, so I kno if im doing a good job at it or not~~ thanks fo the help!!

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (googlegrl @ July 18 2003,13:59)]Like it feels good most of the time but he like sometimes doesnt go in the direction the hole goes if u understand that.. and then he keeps jabbing but i feel bad saying anything.. i really do and i dont think i could possibly say anything to him..

but i kinda like to kno if im doing a good job or not or if i shoudl try different techniques...

how is he gonna learn how to please you if you dont say anything?
it wont get any better he'll just think he's doing a good job. you cant expect guys to be mind readers or even catch hints. from my experience you have to come out and say it point blank!

you say you'd like to know if you are doing a good job and using the right techniques??
how can you expect him to tell you stuff if you wont tell him stuff. you guys shouldn't be so embarrassed discussing sex related topics, otherwise you aren't mature enough to be doing it.

on your other question...theres isn't really a true way to know when a guy is about to cum. it just kinda squirts out. my b/f can say he's about to cum but its not that exact moment that he'll actually ejaculate, could be a few seconds later.

[googlegrl]

first off i definately think we are mature enough.. we talk bout having sex a lot.. but we have only been going out for a few months also soo... but thanks for ur input it helped!

[girlygirl]

Was this the first time your boyfriend put his finger in your vagina? If it was, your hymen may have torn and bled. If not, he probably cut you with his fingernail. Next time, ask him to trim his nails first.

[Demonic-Booze]

Originally Posted by demonbuttercup

how is he gonna learn how to please you if you dont say anything?
it wont get any better he'll just think he's doing a good job. you cant expect guys to be mind readers or even catch hints. from my experience you have to come out and say it point blank!

ya when it comes to us guys subtle is wasted. and as far as the commucation issue. i love it when my girl tells me what fells good and what isnt really working for her cause then i know what to keep doing and what kind of things she likes so i can try other things out later to find the best possible combo of moves to get her off (still working on that part though, god she is hard to get off)

[lykeomg2010]

i have never bled before but, after fingering i had pain.... I don't understand why because the fingering was really good...

[Newtolove]

Originally Posted by googlegrl

thanks.. ya the bleeding has stopped and the pain isnt as bad.... we havent had sex yet.. but i was quite embaressed when i started to bleed like it wasnt a lot and we didnt kno till after.. and he had blood on his fingers.. it was gross and i was embaressed to no end!! We didnt talk bout it though.. Like it feels good most of the time but he like sometimes doesnt go in the direction the hole goes if u understand that.. and then he keeps jabbing but i feel bad saying anything.. i really do and i dont think i could possibly say anything to him.. any ideas bout both those things... and he does tell me right before he cums.. but i kinda like to kno if im doing a good job or not or if i shoudl try different techniques... and like all i have to do is touch it and he becomes wicked hard.. and i dont notice a difference after, so i basically dont know if he is about to cum... i just basically want to know right b4 he cums, so I kno if im doing a good job at it or not~~ thanks fo the help!!

if he cares for you he will be more than happy to be enlightened on how to please you

[EvilEvilKitten]

Fingering is for the G-Spot so it shouldn't be all that deep. But I'd bet it was his fingernails nicking something so make sure he has clean hands, clean nails and trimmed nails before you permit him to finger you again. Although he may be experienced, he isn't experienced with YOU. If you do NOT talk, you will not get and he won't learn anything. It is YOUR body, so YOU have the final say. I understand your embarassment but you cannot let that control you. If you bled then he did it incorrectly or was not properly prepared. You could give him a manicure yourself beforehand.