Fingering 101

[jared]

Ok, My gf, wants me to finger her and i don't know like how, and what to do, like i don't understand like where the hole to finger her is, i understand things like what to do when you r fingerin her, but like where is the hole?? theres supposed to be like 3 but like if you look at a vagina (cause believe it or not, i haven't really seen one before) Will you be able to like see the hole right there??? like help me, how do you know which one it is??

[Tjdude]

3 holes? oh boy!, you are realy lost there. I wonder what will be the use of the third one. Well, my practical advice is that you go and find some porn pics in the web (for educacional purpose of course, that should not be to so hard, since there are trillions of them) and take a good look, there are plenty of vaginas there. That's just so you can get an idea of what you will find on your g/f.
I hope some one here can give you a better help. Good luck .

[Brandye]

Go to your favorite search engine and put in female anatomy, sexual anatomy, Gray's Anatomy or some such. Check out the diagrams and photos.

The real action is not inside, it is on the surface. Your g/f may not be as knowledgeable as you think.

[AJM]

like brandye said, "go to your favorite search engine..." there is a plethora of information on the net about anatomy. If you do eventually finger her, remeber a few things; take it slow at first, there is no need to rush right in; communicate. it is very important, you're not a mind reader, and she knows what she likes and doesn't like; and make sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are trimmed, the vagina is very sensitive and a rough or sharp fingernail can be very painful for her.

[person]

well, i'm not very experienced at all at this.
i have 'fingered' a female before, but not a virgin.
see, it was kind of awkward, because i wasn't sure if i hit the spot. i found what i suppose is her labia. but, i didn't really find an opening (she's pretty fleshie down there, and i didn't want to start poking around and hurt her or something). and i'm used to using the opening to find the clitoris.
so, is it normal to not even be able to insert one finger, or does it vary?(i kind of have large hands)
and does this make it harder to please her if you are doing all the work from the outside?

any answers or advice will be greatly appreciated.

thankyou.

[Tjdude]

I don't know too much about fingering either dude, but for what my past girlfriends told me, women do not realy enjoy fingering. Maybe they do, but you realy realy need to know what you are doing, you can't just put your hand in there and start moving it or trying to get your finger inside of her. You need to be in the right angle and position or you will hurt her, and i find out that it works great if you are giving her oral sex and fingering at the same time. That my friend realy works. But as i told you, you need to know what you are doing, and the best way is to go down there and see for yourself what is going on. Well, i hope that help, good luck .

[Brandye]

Ok, cup your hand over her entire genital area. Press firmly but gently and move in SLOW, smal circles. If you get that far, take her cues and your will be in good shape.

Perhaps it is not your immediate intent, but anything can happen. Have condoms with you

[Andy]

One other very important think is to make sure that your hand/her vulva is well-lubricated.

[girlygirl]

I like being fingered now (provided I'm in the right mood of course) but I most definitely did not when I was a virgin. There was a time when it was very painful to insert even my own finger, let alone a man's! It does vary from person to person though.

yeah guys, when you aren't sure wheather or not your girl likes how your using your hands down there, don't be afraid, comunicate with her, i've done this, it's not weird or anything. that way you can find out what she really likes or doesn't like, or if she even likes it at all, virgin or not, i'm sure you want to make your girl happy. communicate, it does nothing but good