Fingering 101

[captain t]

I found out when fingering a woman it is best to make sure that your finger nails are clipped short. Long nails tend to * * * scratch and my cause bleeding. Use a lot of spit to lube the labes. I like to finger but, there is nothing better than oral. Like it was said before, you got to get down and *check it out. *Ladies make sure it is fresh *

[Dirrty LiL Duckie]

hey! Ok, I have a problem, I actually have a coupld of questions for anyone who wants to answer them. My boyfriend just recently started fingering me and he doesn't use lubrication and he doesn't lick his fingers, the only think that provides a lubricant is me getting wet. I feel bad telling him that he needs to wet his fingers. I am afraid he will take it offensively. Is there any way I can approach this? Thanks.

One more thing, also, when he is fingering me, is he hard? I know it varies with every guy but how likely is it that he is hard while he is doing this. I am kind of insecure and I feel that I am not turning him on while he fingers me. Thanks

[Brandye]

I am assuming you are in your mid-teens. At that age, you can assume he has an erection most of the time you are touching one another.

You have need (lubrication), tell him. You will find lots of needs in your sex life and this is minor compared to what is down the road. Get used to asking for what you want.

Are you sure you are ready to embark on this trip?

[Dirrty LiL Duckie]

after my boyfriend fingers me I get a lot of like discharge... is this normal?

[girlygirl]

As long as it is clear and has no unpleasent odor, it is probably normal. It is normal for your vagina to produce fluids as a result of arousal and stimulation. Some women just produce more fluids than others.

[Elle]

hi guys, ive been with my boyfriend for over 5 months now and we have become very physical within our relationship. I am able to give him a succesfull hand-job which makes him come everytime, although, when it comes for him fingering me, I havent ever come. We have tried and i have told him things but we just cant seem to get a result! It is both our first time in such a physical relationship so i dont know what to exepect and he isn't 100% sure either. What he does feels great and I feel sometimes like i'm getting a bit closer to something, like it comes in waves and then i relax again. It all feels reeally good, but i just dont feel satisfied, This is reeeallly getting him down and he feels that hes is just a bad boyfriend. I love him too much to let him feel like this so I reeally need help. Are there any tips you can help us with, i.e. how far he should put his finger in, or what kind of techniques that I can explain to him. xxxx

[Brandye]

See my response to sweetie on "orgasm" right here.

[Rawbob]

First, don't be so tough on yourself or your boyfriend! If you're both just starting, then take this opportunity to truely explore TOGETHER!

If you are able to bring yourself to orgasm when you masturbate, then some nite, masturbate FOR him. He'll watch and learn how you like to be touched! He can do the same!

Also, spend $20 bucks and get to Barns and Noble and get some books on Sex and Relationships!

Take it slow. Communicate. Be Safe!

[girlygirl]

Here is a link to some tips that may help your boyfriend help you:
vaginal fingering techniques

[MizMinx555]

I seriously wouldnt worry about it. The way you described what your feeling is all i feel when I masturbate, which is essentially whats happening during fingering except that another person is doing it. When you start getting MORE physically invovled, if indeed you choose to do so, meaning sex and oral sex (and i am in NO way condoning this unless you are TOTALLY and COMPLETELY ready), I suspect more intense orgasms will probably follow.