Fingering 101

[tearshotgitarist]

I need some major help. *See me and my girlfriend were messing around on my bed one day. *She lets me rub her on the outside of her pants and above her panties a lot. *Sometimes she lets me just rub her pussy. *I like that the most * Shes never been fingered b4 in her life. *That day i was rubbin her and i kept playin around her vagina with my fingers and i was like "do you want me to try to finger you" and she said "yeah u can try." *I've never done it before so I just stuck my finger in and like almost instantly shes like "ouch ouch ouch stop please" so i stopped. *We were talking later and she understands that she needs to be "broken in" but it just hurts her a lot. *Thats why i'm askin for some help.

PLEASE HELP ME...i want to please her so bad

one more thing when we have dry sex or when i'm rubbin her pussy she doesn't want to moan or anythiing because she thinks she'll sound weird, but i'll love it if she moaned! *I told her that too but she still won't

[tiffaniesgurl]

im an expert or anythin like that but i can try to help. maybe she was dry or just not relaxed at the time. she may have been expecting the pain and clenched up automatically.

and as far as the moaning thing, you should just get her to the point of where she should trust in u because she may think that ur gonna laugh or go off and tell your friends that she sounds weird when she moans.

[mrlink]

Click on the following link for lots of information and tips on Fingering Techniques

Also, don't be afraid to ask her (and let her show you) what she likes. Everyone is different!

[Shorty43]

Even if her hymen hasn't been broken yet fingering shouldn't hurt. Your finger is smaller than a tampon and women who still have their hymen use tampons without problems all the time. I'd assume if it hurt her that she just wasn't wet enough. If this wasn't the case the only other reason I can think of that might cause pain while being fingered is that she has an infection of some sort that should be treated. As for moaning, it comes naturally. I know that in the past when I've dry humped and whatever I didn't really moan, but when you have sex it is a totally different feeling and you just can't help it.

[girlygirl]

I couldn't fit a tampon in when I was a virgin, and most men's fingers are wider than tampons. She may, like me, have a tough hymen, but there are some things you can do to make it easier. putting some lube on your finger will help it slide in more easily. Trim your nails beforehand; long nails can be a problem even for non-virgins. Most importantly, make sure she is sexually aroused before you try to finger her, as this will make her vagina looser and provide natural lubrication.

[xx22xx]

Taking into consideration that you've never fingered a girl before, then you just might have been at a bad angle. If it's possible, take off her pants, and her underwear if she's comfortable with that too. Start with one finger, and be gentle. Try to get into a position where you have the ability to move your entire arm, with your finger, if you get what I'm saying. That was, she's most likely laying on her back, and it's kind of easy access. As for fingering techniques/more detail on how to do it, check the pleasing her section. I know I've made a few posts there.

[Jayn0000]

humm well i have been fingered, and yea i get where shes commin from, every one is probilly right bout her being dry, but well my b/f did it to me and well he was doing fine til like he just got soo close to actually making me orgasm and then it just hurt, kinda like he was using to much pressure, or just maybe he rubbed it raw, not like physically raw, but it hurt fer like 3 days after, so just make sure you dont make that mistake, i mean some girls arent as forgiving as I... j/k

[honeyb16]

i recently got fingered for the first time. i was so scared, but when it happened i wasnt scared. i thought it would hurt or there would be some blood considering i hadnt done it before and im a virgin. it didnt hurt at all, not one bit. is this normal. we are not going out with eachother, just mates, and fooling around. and it was great. am i ok? should there have been pain?

[demonbuttercup]

no honey you are ok
since the fingers aren't as long or big as a penis it doesn't effect you the same way. also, not all first times w/ intercourse are as painful for every girl. i dont know about the first experiences for any other girls on the board but i remember my first time i was scared like u were, wondering if it was going to hurt and such. my b/f was nervous too b/c he wasn't a virgin and i was. he was scared he was going to hurt me etc, but we took things slow and my first time really didn't hurt at all...there was a little discomfort at first but after that i was ok.

[Shorty43]

I find fingering to be more pleasing than sex a lot of the time. I'm not sure if I was afraid or not the first time. I was staying at myboyfriend's house, we weren't going out then, and we both ended up sleeping in his bed (which his parents never knew because he always managed to wake up and move before they woke up) and before I knew it my shirt was off and he was fingering me. I suppose it was so spontaneous I didn't really have time to consider it...

Have fun, but be careful.