Fingering 101

[chibacochoke]

i see your point sarah. but i guess what gets one person going just lets others lie flat sometimes. i'm pretty young, 18, so fingering is a great way to loosen up down there and feel incredible, as long as it doesn't last too long!

as with a lot of sexual activity, staying too long in one area gets boring fast.

[~lil miss bitch~]

just take it slow wit ur gurl....2 is usually tha best if shes not a virgin...
but if she is 1 then move tha 2nd one very slowly.....tell her 2 let u no if ur hurting her cuz thats inportant....rub her clit for a lil bit not ruff gentle so u make sure shes wet the wetter the better.....dont be nervous just relax.....

[Alias]

You mean to tell me you own a computer and have refused to type the word vagina in google images? Is this a serious question? Okay now that i got that out of the way, dont worry about it! Beleive me she dosnt care if you know what your doing she is axious to have the feeling of your fingers sliding in her. Just give it a go you will understand the vagina better if you see it and touch it. Dont be nervous everythings okay!

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

i been told there is a big difference between feeling of two fingers going in and out and having a cock in there, i suppose for us guys it feels better as well then masturbating ourselves and having the real thing (as in a wet vagina - pussy)
with the female body, there is alot you can do to turn them on really bad and making them orgasm well
i find sitting behind the female and rubbing the clit turns them on really bad
think i put something above which any couple should try if they would like to

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

with fingering a female, the best way is to start slow using one then as she gets more wet then careful slide a second one in. ( not all girls can fit two if they have only just started doing this)
with the other hand find their clit and rub that as well, it helps with them orgasm better

[letsgo.]

quick question.
way at the beggining wen my gf was a virgin, i would only finger her...but the first time i fingered her, she bled. so my question to you all is, is it still considered losing her virginity if i fingered her? or is it only with penis?...even tho she bled.

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

you broke her hymen, doesnt matter if was a penis or anything like a sex toy, some females bleed and others dont, just depends on the excerise and other things they have done.
i dont believe you can lose your virginity with fingering, i know if you have sex is classed as losing someones virgnity.

[letsgo.]

yea that's what i always wondered about.
i'm still gonna believe that virginity can be lost with penis.

[dancingdoc2]

The concept of virginity is a bit more complex than simply/only being lost by the fact that a penis pressed against the membrane and it bled.

In some Middle Eastern cultures girls are examined either by a family or community elder in order to determine if the person is a "virgin". If the hymen is not intact they conclude that the girl is not a virgin and therefore must have engaged in intercourse at some point. She is often then shunned by her community to live the rest of her life in seclusion.

In Western societies where women are physically more active it is not unusual for a girl to loose her hymen from participating in a sporting activity, exercise, etc. With no intact hymen how then are we to determine if a person has had intercourse?
HER WORD.


That said, you need to step back and adopt a broader view of life. If a girl states that she has never had intercourse then she is considered to be a "VIRGIN" IN OUR SOCIETIES, regardless of the condition of her hymen.

Hymens come in a variety of shapes, styles, and thicknesses. Some have one or more holes in the membrane, others almost block the vaginal entrance, very few do, some are naturally quite tiny and may give the appearance of having been ruptured.

A girl may enjoy riding horseback causing the hymen to rupture as a result. Others may have it rupture from participating in other rigorous activities. A more common cause of tearing is from the use of Tampons. And then there is simple curiosity from fingering or using dildos when masturbating.

This places guys in a unique situation. Do we believe it when she states that she is a virgin? We better as this is an early lesson in establishing trust. And what about the reverse? Is a guy a virgin, and how does a girl determine whether he is or is not?

Lastly, what does it really matter in the overall scheme of things? I understand that every young buck wants to deflower a virgin, yet the older we become the less likely this will happen. As a result, what is important for all guys and gals to wrap their mind around is that the first time you make love with a person, it is the first time as each new experience is unique both physically and emotionally.

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

The Bottom Line: A person is considered to be a virgin if s/he has never had intercourse. It is just that simple. The condition of a hymen or the shape and size of a penis have no bearing on a person's status.

[malacha]

dude first of all yea r lost when u said three holes lol o boy.... but as u want to know she will like it just when u are doing it play with her bck and things. communicate with her ad see how it feels for her and when to go deeper and experience more. u will find out just doit on her time