Fingering 101

[dancingdoc2]

You're on the right track. I hope you haven't rushed to the finish line though and omitted all the stuff in between. Yes or no, everyone should take a (refresher) course by reading the how-to articles here:

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

[gorgeous_mistake]

I personally love when my boyfriend fingers me
I am a virgin and so is he.. before me he had never fingered a girl before either
Just make sure your nails are cut short.. cause thats just gross and you'd prob scratch her if you have freddie coogar nails
I am really tight... but to me pain is pleasure so even though it hurts i love it
I'm pretty sure since your girlfriend isn't a virgin she isn't as tight... so just explore when you're down there you'll eventually find it.. its not hard.
Now the 3 holes thing.. one is the anal the other is where she pees.. and the other is strictly for the penis.. you can see that one and the anal but not the one that she urinates through.. so don't freak you'll never find that one... i'm a girl and i don't know where that one is.. i wouldn't recommend looking at porn pictures cause i'm pretty sure theres are all loose and look different anyways

[KMB]

I can't wait to do it with my boyfriend, I would love it if he fingered me after like you said after being kissed and touched all over and touched on my vagina longer.

[Don Paulie]

My advice is this...

DONT PLAN ANYTHING!

I am going out with a virgin now, she loves me fingering her, i have gone down on her too and she likes that, you just get by. I have big hands and every girl that i have 'fingered' have ended up wetter than the last.

Self taught is the way to go.

[lykeomg2010]

I am a virgin, Been fingered many times by my boyfriend. I don't seem to get to an orgasm from that or masturbation.... is something wrong?,.

[sarah_rsl]

Fingering is fine as foreplay, leading up to penetration it gives you a chance to get ready and for the guy to know you're ready, but I think too many guys fancy themselves as amatuer gynocologists.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by lykeomg2010

I am a virgin, Been fingered many times by my boyfriend. I don't seem to get to an orgasm from that or masturbation.... is something wrong?,.

How would you answer your question?

Here is some reading for you on the matter that will enlighten and inform you:

The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

Female Sexual Response

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by sarah_rsl

Fingering is fine as foreplay, leading up to penetration it gives you a chance to get ready and for the guy to know you're ready, but I think too many guys fancy themselves as amatuer gynocologists.

Perhaps the best way for "the guy to know you're ready" is for the woman to impart that bit of wisdom upon him. Invite him in. The climate is fine!

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by Don Paulie

My advice is this...

DONT PLAN ANYTHING!

An excellent suggestion! Have some general idea of where to go and how to get there, yet be open to alternative plans, routes, bypasses, and destinations.

I am going out with a virgin now, she loves me fingering her, i have gone down on her too and she likes that, you just get by. I have big hands and every girl that i have 'fingered' have ended up wetter than the last.

Self taught is the way to go.

Well, on that note, I will now ask a mod. to remove the Index and all articles it contains.

[sarah_rsl]

To be honest I've never been a big fan of being fingered, especially with new bf's. I think men forget that although there isn't really much effort on their part having one or several fingers pushed into you can be extremely uncomfortable. When a man has made me orgasm just by using his hand in tends to be by massaging and rubbing the lips of my vagina or by sliding a finger just inside.

When a man has normal vaginal sex you need to manouver into a postion where he can penetrate you comfortably it's quite easy to control and you can see what's happening. But when a guy is fingering you especially when you're snogging you can't actually see what that hand up your skirt is doing, guys often loose the run of themselves and just pushe fingers into you. I actually kind of associate fingering as something you do as kids first starting to have sex.

Now I know a lot of people will say that its just a matter of communication and that's true to a point, but common sense will tell you that if your struggling to get your fingers inside a woman then it shouldn't really be neccessary for the woman to verbalise her discomfort.

For me when i snog a guy, him stroking me between my legs is very pleasurable and when i do get wet and aroused it's his cock I want not his fingers.