Female doesn't orgasm

[LOVELY]

I AM A FIRST TIMER IN JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING. MY BOYFRINED HAS DONE STUFF FOR ME BUT I DON'T KNOW IF I HAVE HAD AN ORGASM BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS SUPPOSE TO FEEL LIKE. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP?

[Stephanie083099]

Ok, if you're not sure if you had an orgasm or not, you didnt, there is really no way to explain the feeling of an orgasm, you will know when you have one. If you still aren't certain, why dont you try to masturbate, you will have an orgasm then you know what to expect when your b/f gives you one.

[flower]

i agree with Stephanie.If you are not sure if you had one,than you for sure didn´t!
That is a feeling which is realy hard to describe,but it takes you realy high,and your body is all in trans!
Try with masturbation!

[leelee]

My boyfriend recently went down on me for the first few times, and niether of those time did I orgasm. Im a virgin and so is he but, I heard that almost every girl can orgasm from oral, and well i didnt..
whats wrong?

[flower]

maybe you were not relaxed enough...don´t know...but for example me...i don´t like to have oral at all...i give oral to my b/f but i don´t want to receive any,so i should ask myself what is wrong with me,right!?
But i don´t!
It depends from person to person!
So enjoy your oral.Every oral doesn´t have to end up with orgasm,as long as you enjoy it,that is good!
Have fun !

[demonbuttercup]

well i enjoy oral very much i remember when my b/f went down on me the first time it was like the most amazing thing ever. i dont always orgasm from oral i just enjoy it while its happening. it is always a good prelude to the main event. also, if and when i do orgasm he is usually fingering me at the same time he's stimulating my clit. maybe if your b/f mixes it up and does some combinations of things it would help you out. and like the others said, being relaxed and comfortable is one of the main things. it takes awhile to become completely comfortable the first time a guy has his face down there. i know theres things your worrying about. just relax and enjoy the special attention.

[honeyb16]

during sex i cant cum, i dont know why and i dont know what i am supposed to feel to know im cumming. i know it must sounds stupid but it makes me frustrated becuase when he asks me if im cumming, i just don't know. please help!!!

[edvan]

honeyb16

sounds like a girls name. so i will presume it is. im a guy, so it may not be the best help.

okay you say you dont know if your cumming and that you dont know how it feels.

kinda 2 problems in one. so i will adress both.

okay trust me you will know if you come. if you cant get it during intercourse then try fingering. fingers can go a lot longer than the penis giving you more stimulation so you can come. if you dunno if you've ever had one then chances are you havent. so the fingers are great.

now if you do know what one is (first ignore all the above if you do KNOW what one is) but cant achieve during intercourse then you just...well, n/m i dont feel right answering this one hopefully its the 1st one.

if not tell me, and more info pls, its kinda vague. are you practicing safe sex? first few times? is he just getting it before you and dropping out of your race?

[Hello]

if u know what its like to cum, and its just a case of not getting there, then it could b that ur in with the majority. Most women dont cum for intercourse alone, according to information given on this site, im sure someone can help with the link on that, cause i cant remember what post i saw it on.

have u tried different positions? try missionary, with him on top u on ur back, and make sure his pelvic area lines up and moves with urs, its more likely to hit ur clit, or so im told.

[?wiseman?]

Hi Honeyb- If I'm not mistaken (based on past posts) you've just begun having sex. It's not at all unusual for women to be unable to achieve orgasm from penetration alone. Manual stimulation from your mate or by you can help you reach orgasm.

However, you appear to indicate that you wouldn't even know if you had an orgasm. So, first I'll give you an answer, then I'll step up on the soapbox.

You say "i dont know what i am supposed to feel to know im cumming." Go read up on masturbation. Get to know your body a bit better and identify the areas that give you the most pleasure. When you achieve orgasm, there will be no mistaking it. Also be aware that some women simply do not achieve orgasm.

Now for my soapbox. It falls in line with my "Why the Rush" post in the Dating forum. Many young women (and men) on the board are "ready" for their first time. They've "prepared" for it and believe they are physically and emotionally prepared to have sexual intercourse.

I cannot think of any way to say this without sounding preachy so I'll just "say" it. This is an example of a young person who has chosen to share her body with another person- and there is nothing inherently wrong with that. However, unless I misread your post, you don't know your OWN body yet. If the lure of sex is to expand on the pleasures one has already experienced leading up to sexual intercourse, how can one wonder whether or not they are enjoying it to the fullest?

Again, I'm not laying judgement on you or anyone else on this board, I simply don't get it.

BTW- There are no "stupid" questions around here. No one should ever be afraid to ask questions about sex.