Sex Ed & Youth 101

[Andy]

I think that for teenagers or people who are new to having sex, this board is a very valuable resource. *Where else are young people going to have questions answered about sex and sexuality? *Sex education in schools leaves quite a bit to be desired, and asking parents or family members can be embarassing, not to mention the fact that the reliability of information given is questionable most of the time.

I've learned a lot since finding this website, not just about sex, but also about dating, love, birth control, std's and a variety of other topics. *I feel that it is important for this resource to be available to people of all ages for this reason.

What other way will a teenager find out about these things? *Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to something as potentially fulfilling and potentially dangerous as sex.

[Tjdude]

I think you are right about the part that this forums should be a resource to all people, a place to find answers that are hard to find. But when it comes to very young people. That confuses me.

when a 15 or 16 year old ask for advice about how to have sex or something sex related, i find hard to give and answer, first; because i don't feel that i'm cualified to give that answer, because he is very young and something i tell him may cause him more harm than good, since i'm not and expert on sex or a doctor or a teacher or what ever, i'm just a horny guy. Second, because the answer i could give him may be a very good answer for and adult (like me), not for a teen.

I remember an advice i give for some guy who's girlfriend was shy, i told him, something like: go romantic in bed, candles, exotic fodd, yada yada yada. And the guy say, he can not do that, since he only 16 and he can not do something like that. And i think to my self, what can this friend expect from the poor girl, if she is only a teenage girl? maybe they are doing it in the back of a car like most teens do, and this guy wants her to be as sluty as a porn star. Of course she is shy, maybe she is just affraid, maybe she only have sex to be popular. Who knows?. But now, with the answers the guy got from here, he could do something like dump the poor girl for being too shy or stay in a relationship where he is not happy, or something stupid, because we can not help him (at least i can't).

Sure, i'm not going to deny a young teen an advice or my help, and the poor or much experience i have, i will share it with him as with any one else. But as an adult i feel that also i should warn him about the consecuences or dangers he may face. and not "just cut him some slack".

I think sex can be good (very good ), but is not a game that any one should play, like in any other game, if you are not prepared for it, no matter how good advice you get, you are going to loose.

So, knowledge is power, and every one knows what can happen when the power is in the wrong hands. So, my oppinion is that we should give advice to any one who needs it, but also make notice of the things that can go wrong and be cautios when talking to young people.

[Teknics]

I'm 14! Man I wait till my parents go out of town; I may go into my room or our big spare room and do something with a girl. Then you can get naked or take off shirts or something and not worry about being walked in on. This site I could've come here and acted like I'm 21 and say I'm 21. You guys would most likely believe me and then I would learn so much. I have learned so much from this site and from chatrooms. Here I feel I can tell my true self because most people like brandey (sorry forgot spelling) and others will respect my interest to learn and tell me what they would tell anyone else. I feel like this board is great for teens I showed my one friend it and she now knows what a clit is. I thought she would because she's 15 and she's messed around a bit and stuff but she didn't. Akward hey? All those other sites are always like; bla bla bla on STD's and stuff if you use common sense and use a condom then read on the fun stuff and a bit more about STD's your good. I don't know if I'm making sense but all those sites explain it to you like your a kid or something. Sex ed in school f***ing sucks! The penis is inserted into the vagina. Then you watch the videos on like sperm and STD's. If that was all you knew boy; once you got a girl in the sack you wouldn't know what the f*** to do! Oh; vagina; that's slang for your mouth right? Like what the f***. On this site/forum I can read past posts that make sense and explain stuff. I watched porn to learn a bit of what I know belive it or not. Most of us probably did. You see stuff at first and your like wtf. Only question I've asked a family member about sex is after seeing a porn site with like 'cumshots' on it I saw a pic and asked my sister what cum was. She told me it was stuff that comes from a guys penis when a girl or himself sexually stimulates it by masturbation or using their mouth. If they said that in school that would rock! It makes sense; may get a few giggles but everyone gets it. Thanks for reading my post.

[Teknics]

Correction; teenwire is ok but the others sucks IMHO. Suck as easily accessed sites and stuff I guess they all answer the basis questions.

[Andy]

TJdude:

In response to what you said, I would say that kids who want to have sex, will have sex regardless of whether they are educated in sex or not. My point was simply that perhaps if more kids are better educated, they may take responsibility to make things safer.

Educating kids won't make sex any more dangerous than it would be for uneducated kids.

[AJM]

This is a great site for people of all ages. there is always something that someone needs to know regardless of their age. I see no reason why teens shouldn't be allowed here, there are no sexually explicit things, it just deals with the pure facts of life; but think about it, how easy is it to find sexually explicit material on the internet. People might as well come here, they might learn something

[Teknics]

Umm.. I don't know if my last post got through it doesn't show after refreshes and stuff. I simply said; AJM took my post and put it into my thoughts. Oh well; I'm only 14. Not meaning to blame it on my age; but the guy is a guru. He said what is right. My post seems to have a few helpful hints; don't know if that would be too strong too? Try AJM's approach first. Once I read his yours made so much more sense. heh. Yeah I've had a girl like that before don't know if my solution works with them all? Good luck Shawn; take it slow.

Drew

[ELF]

Yup

It's never too young to learn, and neither too old too.

[DaMnke3]

There are a lot of different ways teens today can get information regarding sex, and multiple ways to educate themselves.

I totally agree, the sexual education is basically "the man sticks the penis into the woman's vagina..." and I think most people by the time sex ed does come around know that.

I think a reliable online resource like this is actually a great place for teens today to find out about sex! Not a preachy website saying "Don't do this" and "Don't do that" but one that says, "This is how it is, no matter what."

Going to the library or Borders or something and reading up about it is a great way to find specifics out too. That is how I first started learning.

Plus, I think, although it may not be a fully reliable source, other teens, who have had some amount of experience, could probably be good sources too.

Hope I gave you some newer ideas... or at least ones people haven't said yet!

[lilone]

i think many parents are not comfortable talking with their teen about sex, other than the "you put this there" (if they can manage that much). My 12yo step-son asked his dad what a blow job is. Dad side stepped the question, so he asked me and i told him. My 7yo daughter heard the word and asked me about it later and i explained it in a way that she can understand (she already knows about masturbation and sex, so i expanded on it).

My H is not at all thrilled about me talking to the kids so openly about sex, but i hope they both know that i will answer any question they have, and that they will not be afraid to ask. i have even told the 12yo during one of our conversations about sex and relationships to please wait till he is older, but no matter how old he is, please ask me if he needs someone to buy condoms for him. i don't know if he will, but he at least knows he can.

Parents need to learn that education is a form of protection, not permission.