Sex Ed & Youth 101

[the only name not taken]

i'm 14 and i've learned a lOT! they dont teach you anything in school

[thetease13]

in school all they ever basically taught you was, either don't do it, and if you decide that you're ready to do it, wear a condom and be safe.

when you're young, you don't usually feel comfortable talking to your parents about stuff...especially when it comes to sex. cause most of the time they'll freak out and have a cow and ban you from leaving the house or something or they'll give you the lecture you already got 20 times in health class in school.

i think it's great that people, whether young or old, can have a place to come to to find out about the other things they don't tell you about sex. and to be able to ask questions on boards like this and not be judged on what you're doing.
people just have questions sometimes and they just need answers and as nurse naddy said... "I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge."

[Riverwalker]

I've been frequenting this site for a few years now, which made me, 17 or 18 when I first started looking at it and peeking around the message boards. The amount of education I received here is a testimonial to how little either my parents or the school system was willing to teach. About half of the topics are legendary to teenagers- kids know they exist, they've heard about it, but just rumors-they don't know what, say, a G-spot is. So I'd say this site is fairly important, if just to fill in the cracks that nobody mentions, either in sex ed or in a conversation with parents.

[5nchr]

thanks so much! this site has helped me so much in accepting myself . this is great cuz sex ed. sucks! they didn't even have the hot teacher teach it.

the only good part of the whole part was when my buddy george goes "when's show and tell?" that was awesome! thanks again u guys rock!

[Jracer]

I was turned onto this forum by another younger member, not for my approval however more to actually see what was real and not so real. So far after spending several hours reading I can honestly say many of you have a pretty good idea of what is really going on while others are still riding the learning curve. No one here is dumb or stupid just a bit challanged, even with a strong collage edgumication Im learning on a daily basis. I grew up in a rather open minded family in a "clothing optional home" I still had many questions that went unanswered for many years and in the 1980's we didnt have internet access, just those we considered "best friends." It wasn't until collage that these questions were answered in a formal setting and thus blowing away what I had learned in sex-ed if you could call it that. During this time it was you did this and not that, gay was considered a super bad thing and no one even dared to admit to being gay/bi or whatever label you choose affix. I had to play it straight for a long time and still do, at least not questioned however I will let you read between the lines.
Todays sex-ed Im sure hasn't really changed much, I'm sure it's still tainted with bias of the teachers beliefs or the schools rules. When my son had come to that age of sex-ed class in school I not only refused but questioned what was taught along with the teachers, it was an eye-opener for me and I absolutly refused to allow my son to attend the class plus got together with other parents over time to spill the truth, today sex-ed is an optional class that still requires parental consent. I'm a no BS single dad that takes things apart by the piece and examines all.

Want to know the first mistake the teacher made? While researching the teachers curriculum I noticed he had stated that circumcision was "a law" and all boys should have it done. The next part was how it didn't hurt the newborn at all because "his nervous system was not developed" well the moment I tossed some hard facts to his face he changed his tune slightly. The other issues included an extreme bias of gays/bi's along with other little tidbits and misinformations. Needless to say other parents were a bit displeased and changes were brought as needed.

My point? Simple. Todays watered down schools especially public have little real fact to offer our new generations, most is biased in one way or another and those "good" teachers who say it like it is are offered exceptional packages for an early retirement or shifted to other positions. They are considered a liability and not an asset just like computers over vocational training. One of the first things I learned as a freshman in collage is question everything and this I do well.

My son is now actually 17, a junior in school and very sharp... All parents say that about their kids and rightfully so but Im still that proud parent and that won't change. Just like you guys he knows right from wrong and gives a damn but still makes mistakes like everyone else does. He's also a big gentle giant of a kid at 6 foot and 230 pounds and knows nothing of impatience, at least not yet. I also know my son is gay and is very happy with his boyfriend of 5+ years and has no plans of window shopping for another, I stand behind him all the way.

Want an open mind? You hold the key

JR

[DrDonaldLeonPhD]

I feel that the information here is well organized, through, and very well rounded.

I hope that if your a Teen, you take the time to read as much as you can from this Board. The information is in everyday lanuage and easy to understand.

If there is anything I can ever do to be of assistance, please feel free to PM me.

[Insane_18]

I thought I knew quite a bit about sex until I found this site/board. I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time and I thought I knew enough and she even thought she knew enough. I make it sound like something bad happened, so before I continue, nothing bad happened . As we do it more and more, we find new things out about sex and eachother. I don't think if you are 15 or 65, you learn new things about sex every time you do it or read up about it. I know some people well in their 20's who hardly have any clue what sex is all about. All they know is how it's done - penis into the vagina and what not and that's about it. This site is great for all ages IMO. I'd feel weird giving information on sex itself to someone who is 13-14 but something sex related, I'd feel less weird. I'd rather give him/her everything I know in detail then let them go and have sex knowing nothing and something bad happening though. It's something that crosses my mind every time I reply to a post.

[shadowcat]

My mum has always been open about sex and stuff, but most of the time im embarassed to ask her about stuff but this is a great place to come to learn and ask advice and im glad i found it. When im a paren this site better be still around coz id show it to my kids so they can learn and find advice to. the sex ed in school sucks, and then in my school there was also religious ed which basically said "if u have sex b4 marrige ur going to hell" well no offence meant coz i know theres people who dont believe in sex before marrige but thats just not me. i think they shoukd realise that if they keep telling us not to then the rebellious ones are just gonna go off and do it. This site gives you facts, good and bad and i think thats good coz then maybe people that are thinking about it can come here, read both sides and make a mature descision about wheather they want to or not. Also those of us who already have had sex can learn too from here, theres always plenty of advice given

[uncreativename]

im a teen myself and i've had quite good sex ed in school...however some of the stuff wasn't covered like pleasing him/her and just knowing when you're ready is something school's can't really teach. I want to say that this board was THE most FANTASTIC find EVER! i really can't tell you how helpful it is. i've only posted one problem, but i'll have loads more q's for ppl! thanks for making this board - it really is invaluable!

a huge teen fan,
uncreativename

[Alspals69]

PLeased youfind it useful, and welcome aboard... you'll soon be the one providing the advice!