Sex Ed & Youth 101

[?wiseman?]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Hello @ May 08 2003,15:41)]i regreted the first time, but feel that i am now mature enough to make the decision, after my first time i left it, and pulled back from having sex since then, the oppurtunity was there, everything was primed, but i thought it best to leave it, and so did.

Great dialog! "Hello", can you expound on this a little bit? I'm curious what your regrets were and why you chose to then "pull back."

I think there may be some great insight hidden in there someplace.

ItalStall- great stuff as usual.

[Hello]

apologies for the delay in replying. my regrets from my first time was that i was severly under the influence, had never met the girl before, and didnt actually remeber it till the next morning, i didnt have much of an active decision making process. to top it off, the girl was younger than me, making it illegal as i was only 15, and she told someone at her school about it who went off the rails, thinking i was some threat to the girl, only hearing the girls side of the story, and demanding that the girl should go to the police, and have me done for statuatory rape. as a 15 y/o who had just been out havinga bit of fun, who was taken advantage of to then be accused of statuatory rape shocked me deeply. i had to recover from this shock, and after ensuring there were not going to be any long term physical effects (we had used a condom, supposedly at my request, so at least something went right) i talked wit hthe girl and we decided that no more contact was to be had between us, and that was the end of it.
when i had later a relationship, some months later, with someone totally unrelated to the incident, we were in a situation where we could have had sex, we were both there, physically able, with proper protection in the form of a condom, plenty of time, and loving atmospher and relationship, we were all primed, and ready to do the business, and we were just about to start, when it suddenly hit me that i was still young, i still had the rest of lmy life to live, with a good part of that able to have sex. so Y did i need to do it now? what was the reason for having sex at just this moment? i decided there was no reason, i could continue, the relationship would go on, we would both still be happy, and nothing more would have been thought of it. but some sudden inspiration made me ask how she felt about it at that moment, and her thoughts were running parrallel to mine, we can do it now, or we can wait, it didnt matter either way, we were still young and had the rest of our lives ahead of us, the bad consequences of sex then would have been disastrous in the long term, had the condom split we would have been screwed for life, and life is a long time. thionking of the negative consequences is good, it makes u think abut how u will deal if something does go wrong, cause no matter how carefull u are, no matter how many precautions u take, there is always that chance that something will go wrong. we were content without haveing sex, so y risk it, we ended up pleasureing each other in other ways, and were happy in each others company, and that day was never looked back apon as a bad decision, or as a regret, it was a decision that was made, not a typical teenage decision, and i feel that shows that if i can be there ready and able to do the business, and stop cause there is nothign forcing me to, then i am ready to decide now that i can have sex, even if there is nothing forcing me to, and no reason to have sex, i can have it for enjoyment and still think about the risk, and take suitable precautions.

[Dirrty LiL Duckie]

I love this message board/website. It's very honest. I know by coming here I will get the answers to the questions I ask. it's very embarrassing asking parents or other adults you know about sex (I"m a teenager, trust me I know ) when I come on here, I can ask questions to adults who have probably been through my problem before, and get help. I love sexinfo!

[marriedkaren]

Sex Ed in school is still a good idea. It does provide some biological info as well as info on STD's. I think the young people seeking info here are more interested in technique
and for the most part, wanting to be good at sex. It's probably better that they get their questions addressed here
than from porn.

[Poohbear]

Speaking as a teenager I think everyone here should understand that if the people on Sexinfo101 aren’t willing to educate me about sex it WILL NOT keep me from being sexually active, nor will it keep anyone from being informed elsewhere…although the information found is not guaranteed to be correct.

I think that these message boards/website are an excellent resource for people of ALL ages (yes, even as young as 13) and should remain that way. Children and teenagers have the right to knowledge. Weather they are sexually active or not the information here will keep them safe and help them to make their own educated decisions about sex. You can’t make these decisions for them; all that you can do is try to make for sure they are protected from the dangers of sex by telling them about it.

When I first logged onto this site, I was a virgin. I wanted to know all the risks and possible rewards before I experienced sexual intercourse. But, I believe that with or without this site and the information offered to me I would have still had sex. All I know is that I’m glad I had the chance to learn before I took the plunge. Who knows what might have happened or the stupid things I could have done if I hadn’t tried to get information first. Sex is dangerous along with being beautiful, it’s natural for human beings to be interested in and want this sort of connection with a partner.

Don’t close out one of the best ways you as adults have of teaching us openly. I think that if some of the adults here are uncomfortable replying to teenager’s questions they should abstain from doing so. If this is an issue with the site owner he or she should consider opening a teen page or message board completely for the sake of educating us.

[?wiseman?]

Very well put Poohbear.

[Poohbear]

Thank you.

[girlygirl]

Very well written, Poohbear. Just keep in mind that the information you get on this messageboard is not guarenteed to be correct either. We try our best, but most of us are not experts. This is a better source than porn or rumors, but you should still think critically about anything you hear or read.

[Poohbear]

I understand your point. However this is a far more respectable site than most that advertise sexual information/education ect. and therefore I am more apt to take the information given here more seriously. At this site I have yet to read one inappropriate crude remark, be bombarded with pornography or be sexually harassed. All of which (in my experience) are frequent happenings on many other sexual related sites.

-I’m not saying that people here should not take all the precautions necessary to protect themselves from being hurt by misinformation. Any website, book, or other reference’s information should always be double-checked.

-Sorry for spewing…this is what boredom does to be…nothing personal about anything you said, just felt itchy that’s all!
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[Junocozmos]

Boards like these are wonderful resources for younger folks. I wish the internet had even been a "thing" when I was young... I would have soooo been here learning. But as some one previously said it isnt the choice between this or your parents. You're parent should play an integral role in your sex ed, above schools...above message boards. But an unapproachable parent insnt all that unusual anymore..so these boards come in handy.
Live life.
Good luck.