Sex Ed & Youth 101

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index, contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page, you will find even more information.

I notice that a moderator removed your address. It is never a good idea to give out contact information on a public forum. You are inviting all sorts of trouble doing so. Nobody knows who you are so privacy is a non-issue. Other people will be reading this information so the information you receive will also be of benefit to others reading this after you. A forum format also lets those who wish to respond see what has been said.

I recommend that you broaden your overall knowledge by reading all of the articles in the Index a couple of times. Knowledge is empowering. Please begin by reading the very first one on "size". Second, please read this article: Shyness / Confidence / First time issues

Third, read the articles under the heading "SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE".

I recommend that the two of you spend several weeks if not a few months just fooling around and making out {Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) all before getting to the Foreplay stage. I wouldn't even think about intercourse until you are much older and mature. Take these weeks and work on learning how to arouse each other as well as developing a strong emotional connection between you. Learn all you can about each other physically as well as emotionally, first and foremost; then practice, practice, practice just these things.

Learn all you can about contraceptives and why three forms of birth control are recommended and why. All this is covered in detail. Above all else, never ever try to fool Mother Nature by not wearing a condom or not insisting that she be using some form of contraceptive before engaging in intercourse. You and a partner both need to take responsibility for protecting "Number One"--each of you, and not relying exclusively on the other person. Teens are more apt to become pregnant than at any other time and this is one reason why the triple redundancy is strongly advised.

> I am a virgin and she has had sex twice in her life and she is 16.

Here is another article that should calm your fears about experience:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

We are here to help, so after you complete your reading assignment, please do not hesitate to ask questions should you have any. (You might also invite her to read the articles, also, and then discuss what you have learned.)

-doc

[ArianaCary]

Definitely youth are so exited to get know about sex. some time they miss guide also.

[EugeniaBozena]

It's very nice suggestion really i am following this because it's too much beneficial for me.

[sej3991]

i know this topic hasn't had any posts for a while, but i was thinking about this last night (after drinking red bull and being unable to sleep .____.) and wanted to say something too.

When it comes to sex ed this site has really been the best thing I have found. I went to Catholic school so our sex ed was minimal and vague, beyond the mechanics of the actual act (and telling girls all about their periods). It isn't something I was ever comfortable talking about with my mother, and my friends were all as inexperienced as I was. Everything I knew about sex was from pre-teen and women's trashy magazines, which I quickly discovered was nothing useful.

Looking back even just a few months, this made going from being around a small group of the same guys who had no interest in me whatsoever at school, to university where there actually were men who found me attractive was kind of like being thrown in a shark tank. I kind of learnt the hard way that they were actually men and not teenage boys, and that most of them weren't content just to make out. ANd my knowledge about everything else was dismal. I hadn't even seen a condom before up until this year, let alone know how to USE one, even though I thought I did. There was just all these stupid, little things I thought I understood but the information I had was wrong.

I'm really glad I stumbled on this site, which has helped me out so much with detailed, PRACTICAL advice from intelligent people who are willing to help out and listen. Everything is to the point, not full of stupid crap like in Cosmo or something. But I think sex education in school is poor, the general view of sex in society is poor.