1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[KinkyKitty]

I've tried having sex before, but we stopped because it hurt, now we are looking to try again. We're both virgins and the only thing that is keeping us this way is because I so afraid it will hurt. Does anyone know anything to make it less painful?

[Mr Love]

well...he could try fingering you first to loosen you up a bit. But other than that....tell him to go slow and think about your needs first (a hard thing for a guy to do, from someone who's had to be patient with the woman)
It might be painful the first time but it gets better with time.

[Brandye]

There are "exercises" you can do to loosen up. I used to lay in a warm tub and stretch myself - mostly with fingers but then used some larger things.

That helps but relaxing is the most important thing the first few times. And plenty of lubrication. Use KY+ or OrthoGynol. They are good lubricants and are spermicidal. Naturally, a lubricated condom as well and you get on top of him. Keeps you in control and then it is easier to relax.



Brandye

[sam2002]

i think whateva ppl say to u your first time is always going to be a little uncomfortable but after a while it just starts to feel really good and its just getting to that point! just make sure that you boyfriends understands this and that he goes slow with you and is careful and doesnt put it in to fast or hardly! i was always told that the best way to make a pain a little less is to get your boyfriend to finger you first to slaken u a bit and also so that you get wet enough so that it can slide in easily so lots of foreplay b4 hand which is no bad thing!! i hope that eventually use start having sex when use wanna and that it wont hurt u and just think after the first time it will be out of the way and u wont feel as stressed or ne thing about it! hope i have helped a bit luv sam xxxx

[Tjdude]

try oral sex first and a little of fingering.
If you are realy horny and wet it will be easy, if not, then don't try.

[DLink]

well...its not if its gonna hurt, casue me and my gf have done it before. but i remeber the first time we did it, and it never hurt her. and i did finger her to losen her up, and she never complained about it hurting. then we did it a second time days later, and agian i fingered her to losen her up, and still she never complained. we are both virgins, and we have been going out for one year, and i have gotten her to be pretty lose. but what is up with the whole 'popping the cherry'? could it be done other ways, becuase i have heard that it can happen when stretching and what not.
also, she had never had someone finger her before me. help cause im confused!!!!

one more thing. we have done it twice, pretty much right after another, and the second time is when we have to stop becuase it hurts....anybody know why??? plz help!

[vette1963]

DJ..... try some lubricant ky or astroglide. it will help but not cure your problem. i have to tell you tight pussy is about as good as it gets.

[DLink]

its not that tight. cause we have done it more then 5 times...i was just wondering if its possible that the whole 'popping the cherry' thing could be broken by stretching or something. i just want to know why it didnt hurt the first time, like everyone says it does. and i know i was the first guy to go down on her, i have losened her up to 3 fingers..but i'll try the KY stuff. but does anyone know why it didnt?

[SexGoddess]

If she wasnt in pain the first time you had sex? then chances are that she has had sex BEFORE you came along.
losing your virginity does cause pain and a woman can break her own hymen just by falling BUT if she has never had sex, then of course,it's going to be painful either way.

Get some lube to moisten things up.

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its not that tight.

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if its not that tight to you and if you would like it to be, then have her begin to train the muscles in her vagina so that when you're inside her, she can squeeze those muscles around your penis real tight and then let go.

might help.

[Brandye]

Many women have no pain the first time. I only felt a slight twinge. With active women, especially tampon users, the hymen is long gone before their first vaginal intercourse. For those who feel slight pain, that will be it.

There are those who have very thinck hymen. Sometimes, in extreme cases, this needs to be cut by a physician. It takes ten seconds and feels like getting a shot. For the rest, you can stretch your hymen. There are &quot;instruments&quot; to do this but it only takes a finger or two and relaxing. Many lay in the tub with warm water and stretch themselves.

The dyas of the painful first time and bloody sheets to display to prove she was virgin are over. We can all be ready.