1st Time Pain & Bleeding 101

[sera300]

Originally Posted by tkm_lexis

My boyfriend and I attempted again last night to have sex, I felt him enter but oh my god..it hurt way too much to the point that I was near to tears...he didn't get far in at all, I belive he just barely made it in before he stoppped for me. My problem is..I'm on BC and he didn't have a condom...quite frankly preganancy scares me at this age...my family would kill US as well as his...
Basically I'm on seasonale...I don't get aperiod but like 4 times a year...can I go ahead and stop the pill at least long enough to have a period just so I can reassure myself?

As I said speak to your doctor.

[TangerineSky69420]

I only lost my virginity back in December and I understand how your feeling. I'm sure plenty of other people do too. Before we actully Tried to have sex, he fingered me, it helps to loosen it up. Make sure that you wear a condom too, always practice SAFE SEX. My boyfriend wasn't a virgin when we finally decided to have sex, he was a little more experianced then me in that field. But he knew that I was and took his time. It hurt like hell for the first few minits but after a little minit it felt great. The next probaly, 7 or 8 times it still hurt a little, but now it takes no times at all to get started and I don't have to tell him, 'wait baby it still hurts kinda.' Once the two of you decided to go through with it, just be gracious of each others needs.

[alittletoomuchvodka]

lost mine in saturday. didn't hurt much. then again i was drunk... but still. we were at it probably 30-40 minutes. felt better at the end! i'm just pleased it didn't hurt much.

[Brandye]

At which end?

[ninjanerd]

My first time hurt too, so I know where you're coming from. However, you and I are different in the sense that I am a masochist, so my first time was definitely easy for me. My advice: learn to get off on the pain. It helps a lot.
: )

[llblovesejw]

Is it weird that my first time did not hurt at all? There was also no bleeding. It's apparently not common, but has anyone else also had that experience?

[Brandye]

Not weird at all. In these days of women's sports and tampon use, many of us have no problem. My first was a big nothing. I was worried that it would hurt and so focused on the mechanics that it was neither painful, bloody nor a sexual turn on.

We women run the gamut from the first time being a non-event to not being able to accept the penis into us. I would guess that most feel a brief twinge or sharp pain. The reasons some experience difficulty are a tough hymen, still intact, to those two percent or so who suffer vaginismus. It is recommended that all women have a gyn exam before starting sex to make certain that all is as it should be. This reduces the chance of surprise difficulty.

[marie26]

I lost my virginity at 21 and i had the same problem as you. I was scared shytless lol, i was worried it would hurt. My b/f at the time.. took one of my legs and held it down while he held the other up. i was very lubricated and when it went in it didnt hurt at all. If you tense up its going to hurt going in.. so just try to relax have him go down on you to drive you crazy and then go for it again.

[wtf_r_u_thinking]

Originally Posted by DLink

its not that tight. cause we have done it more then 5 times...i was just wondering if its possible that the whole 'popping the cherry' thing could be broken by stretching or something. i just want to know why it didnt hurt the first time, like everyone says it does. and i know i was the first guy to go down on her, i have losened her up to 3 fingers..but i'll try the KY stuff. but does anyone know why it didnt?

well most females arnt open to admitting they masturbate but that could have somthing to do with it and yes stretching could "pop the cherry" b/c all that means it breaking the hyman. also as far as the lube thing goes i suggest you try wet brand platnum it is the best lube i have found out there and longest lasting and i have been threw quite a few brands including ky,astroglide,and many more and also if she has masturbated prior to having sex then that could also play a part in why it didnt hurt the first time